How do you gain respect? (Bullying)

[moneymayforever]

Hey guys,
I'm currently in high school and some people may not know this but I used to be bullied. I was picked on for my appearance, skinny body and the weakness of mentality. I was so weak that this skinny white dude used to headlock me everyday when he saw me, regardless I was twice as big as him. The whole reason I started boxing was actually to get revenge on them, to get out of the position of being dissed. After a month of training I got beat up by this dude who when I think right now, his punches were slow as ****. Now a year after training and transferring to a new gym, I gained much more confidence. I learned how to weave and I have reached to the level where I could go easy on people who started sparring(though I still have a lot to work on)

Anyways, what I'm trying to say is, are there any peeps who started boxing because of bullying? If so, how did that change your life and your social position? Did people diss you when you started training? (saying that they told you to spar or something) If people disses you how do you react to it? I personally ignore the punks but if it goes too much then I have this temptation of throwing a right cross at their face... but I shouldn't lol.

[josh-hill]

i ddisagree with the term bullying. that implies that its the bullys fault. i was 'bullied' but that was just because i never learnt to stand up for myself. i let myself be bullied. anyway, you gain respect with confidence. if you can confront people verbaly staying calm and obviously not scared (i.e. relaxed, not shouting, laid back, not looking for a fight e.c.t) then they will realize they have no power over you. if you fight one then anther will take his place. if you just refuse to give them any power over you then they will give up, but to do that you need to not be scared of them.

i didnt take up boxing specifically to help with that, but it sure did.

[SpeedKillz]

I started boxing when I was 12 because of some bullying, and it felt great knowing I could defend myself.

As immature as it sounds, I got my revenge on EVERYONE that bullied me as a kid, some right away, some years and years later. It had to be done, and it felt amazing!!

[SaintGeorge]

I didn't start it because of bullying, I know a lot of people who have though. I've read Joe Calzaghe's book and he suffered heavily from bullying.

I started it because I feared that when I was older I would get into fights and I would get KTFO, I didn't have any confidence in myself, a month at the gym sorted that right out. The main thing about fighting is 'bottle' or 'heart', as you Americans refer to. If you have that, confidence flows naturally.

[Teh Chosen One]

I was bullied for most of my life since 6th grade, I'm now in 11th. I still get a couple ******s trying to make fun of me from time to time, but It doesn't bother me at all. I find it pretty funny.

I took boxing because I wanted to accomplish something very few people could do, something that the arseh0les would never imagine me to be. I may sound like a selfish guy when I say this but I believe that I have more heart and balls then anyone at my school.

[Dudemanguy]

If worse comes to worse just wait till college, people get alittle less ******ed.

[moneymayforever]

thanks mates. in my case my friends just punch me in the balls and kick me in the hamstring. when we do a little fun light sparring. im not comparing two different sports like a noob, but is it possible to block your groin? or can you block a low blow? also is it possible to dodge kicks?

[James78]

I started boxing when I was 12 because of some bullying, and it felt great knowing I could defend myself.

As immature as it sounds, I got my revenge on EVERYONE that bullied me as a kid, some right away, some years and years later. It had to be done, and it felt amazing!!

Good post man, revenge is sweet. I would have done the same.

[IronBoxer]

I was once in your shoes TS. Although at the point I was on a long hiatus from boxing and my hand speed wasn't necessarily all that great, I decided to fight back with a nasty headbutt to his face and some fast combinations, after that he was the one avoiding me.

But the problem is that after that I started to bully him and even pushed him down the stairs at one point which led to me being suspended for a week. Bottom line is can boxing can help protect you but dont let it become a tool for bullying.

[Mohammedini]

Hey guys,
I'm currently in high school and some people may not know this but I used to be bullied. I was picked on for my appearance, skinny body and the weakness of mentality. I was so weak that this skinny white dude used to headlock me everyday when he saw me, regardless I was twice as big as him. The whole reason I started boxing was actually to get revenge on them, to get out of the position of being dissed. After a month of training I got beat up by this dude who when I think right now, his punches were slow as ****. Now a year after training and transferring to a new gym, I gained much more confidence. I learned how to weave and I have reached to the level where I could go easy on people who started sparring(though I still have a lot to work on)

Anyways, what I'm trying to say is, are there any peeps who started boxing because of bullying? If so, how did that change your life and your social position? Did people diss you when you started training? (saying that they told you to spar or something) If people disses you how do you react to it? I personally ignore the punks but if it goes too much then I have this temptation of throwing a right cross at their face... but I shouldn't lol.

Success is the best revenge my friend.
Don't get caught up in the hate and bitterness.
It will just turn you into a life long victim.
Thinking about your bullies will only bring you back to the mind frame of being abused, being a victim.
Everywhere you go in life, people will test you
Turn the page to a new chapter of your life and strive to live it with confidence and self-respect and self-esteem.

Don't worry about people in the gym. People don't often mean bad when they try to go hard on you.
as i said people test you all the time, some people are douchbags that likes to beat on beginners.
Also many times people imagine hostility when they come to a new gym out of timidity.

Btw how are your new gym?
Are the coaches good?