Got Any Secrets?

[b Murphington]

I don't know i've ****ed around once or twice (or more) on every one of my gfs.. But im a nice guy now

That's prob the worst though honestly..

Yessss! . This is what I've been waiting to hear!!!! I love you man.... You da real MVP and don't you forget it!!!

[RightJab]

I took 2 warm pairs of my exes thongs, wrapped them round my dick and whacked one off back when I was like 17 or something.

It was within 18 months after that i got into ass sniffing/eating, some girls get the right giggles at first haha. Funny wanks and buttscapades...

[b Murphington]

I took 2 warm pairs of my exes thongs, wrapped them round my dick and whacked one off back when I was like 17 or something.

It was within 18 months after that i got into ass sniffing/eating, some girls get the right giggles at first haha. Funny wanks and buttscapades...

I would love to trade lives with you.

[Willy Wanker]

Jerked off in a Ralph's once.

My niggga.

[siablo14]

Here's a big secret of mine and it's a long story:

I really like this amazing girl but she had a visa problem and had to go back to China (I am located in London) and couldn't stay here. Anyway, I knew her about a year ago around February and didn't really think much of it and neither did we actually see a lot of each other but occasionally contacted via text. Around October she asked if she could interview me for one of her dissertation papers which I obliged and that was probably what did it for us - we started to hang out with each other at least 3 times a week (we're the same age - 28 - but she was doing a post graduate degree so I didn't see her everyday). Before I knew it I fell for her in December and we spent a really great two day holiday in Bath. She had to work for New Years Eve but I was already celebrating in Bath with friends. Despite this she actually travelled to Bath the day after to see me as a surprise on a day's notice.

So, I always knew her visa would run out as soon as she finished her studies which was granted for a year (she arrived in January sometime). I swear by December, I was so depressed because she could no longer stay and she couldn't find an employer to sponsor her (she was a part time waitress). She was desperately trying and I can't tell you how much I was praying a miracle would happen. No company ever responded to her applications until the very last two weeks of her leaving and I think there were around 5 or 6. None of these leads were ever serious and my mood always fluctuated between being optimistic to pessimistic.

I planned a farewell dinner for her a couple of days before she left for the airport and decided to say goodbye there and then. Of course, it wasn't goodbye just yet. I ended up taking a cab to the Airport in a rushed state on the day. Her cab driver was so late that she almost missed her flight. My goodbye was literally 5 minutes because the aeroplane was just waiting for her to board. I can remember her tears coming down her face.

Anyway - if you've read this far you'd be wondering what the secret is. I never told her I loved her even if I was sure it was obvious and she never told me either though I maintain she felt the same. She later actually admitted in a text message "I like you so much" which really broke my heart.

I never told her because I knew it was too complicated to work out. I resigned from my career mid-May last year to find a new career path and as much as I would love to visit her I need to sort out my life first. I have always promised her I would come to see her but I made her promise that she would try to find a sponsor in the UK as well as careers back home in China because the job market is so difficult here in London. As it turns she found a full time job recently in China which sort of means the end though she's still trying to find her way back to London if she can.

You have no idea how depressed I've been since February. I still maintain contact with her but I miss her a lot. I don't expect anyone to really understand the whole situation because it was actually a lot deeper than this and the above is probably the most simplified version I can give without going through all the details.

True story.

Why didn't you marry her so she could have remained in the UK?

[MeiXiang]

Why didn't you marry her so she could have remained in the UK?

You should have proposed to her while she was still there and kept her in the country.

It's really not as simple as saying, "let's get married". Not that I don't want to but you need to think about the situation I'm in. I resigned and I'm looking for a new career path - i can't afford a marriage at the moment. Also - think about the fact that I've known her for a year but really properly since October. I swear she's exactly like me and if I didn't know any better she's the female version of me.

I'm not a rash guy and marrying someone I've known for such little time seems a bit too much at this stage. She's the closest thing to being The One I've met and i've met loads. At the end of the day, in the circumstances marriage is not practically realistic and plus I'd have to get through to her parents. They've seen me in pictures already but I've not actually spoken or met them - she apparently posted a picture of us together (it was just us) on her birthday on WeChat, the Chinese version of Whatsapp.

For now, my plan is to get through this interview I've got next Tuesday and as soon as I get that (God-willing and hoping), i'll fly off to China the next day so that I can see her before starting. I think I just need to see her in person (not via video) and maybe my head will be clearer on what i'm going to do.

Thank you guys for the suggestions - think I highjacked this thread, kinda...

[Dip_Slide]

It's not so simple as that. Moving to a completely different country (I'm from HK, Bro and now live in London but China is completely different) and finding a job is difficult for a foreigner. Not only that, her parents have already protested that she's still single and trying to line her up with potential partners.

Look - I don't expect anyone to understand there's a lot more to it. I've been prepping for an interview actually next Tuesday so I'll draw next week. I hope I can get the job and I swear I'm flying to China the very next day I find out.

I understand that story very well because it's somehow similar to mine. While I was studying here in Germany 3 years ago I met my Chinese girlfriend who was studying at the same university I was studying at. We dated for a while and then got into a relationship, she continued her studies till July of this year but because of her parents putting a ton of pressure on her to go back to China to be with them ( I know it's ridiculous), she decided to go work there for a while to help her parents with a lot of stuff since they're not rich at all then come back to Germany to settle down later, I told her do whatever you want but we should break up, and if you decide to come back and I'm still single then we can see where we go from there, we both agreed and we said goodbye (which was really difficult after all the years). She didn't know how much she was going to stay before she left however after a month of working in China, she said she couldn't take it anymore and that she'd love to come back, luckily enough if you studied here in Germany they give you 18 months after you finish your studies to search for a job, so she already booked the ticket to come back in January.

Sucks that in England you have to leave right after you finish studying, here in Germany if you have an unlimited residence permit (which I just got this month) you can give someone else a residence permit under the condition of being fully responsible for them, so you have to basically show that you have enough resources to take care of her till she finds a job, she can also apply for another master program or something and look for a job in the meanwhile.

Good luck with everything man, tough situation to be in I know but if you notice that all the initiatives come from you and that she's not putting in any effort to come back then she's not the right one. You can't force/convince her to come back cuz if you did and she came back, as soon as she faces any problem she's gonna blame it on you. You don't want that, let her decide for herself.

[Elroy The Great]

the word secret should be defined here