Long Distance Relationships?

[winky's right]

i see this a lot in here. a lot of general/high ranking officer have in-law who also in the army/police, it's just their thing.

about the conversion thing just say the word, never ever confess you're an atheist to indo's older generation. is really the worse thing in their eyes even worse than a jew, that's why i'm still in the closet(maybe forever )

Why are atheists looked down upon so much in Indo?

I've tried it a couple of times and it didn't work out, but I think it was a case of being too young to commit to something like that really. I think it all comes down to the people involved, and how much they want to make it work.



Couldn't agree more.

Me and my girlfriend broke up recently, and it was actually when we were seeing each other more that it happened. We got together when we were at uni, me in Bristol and her in Southampton (England). It was fine while there was a bit of distance between us and we had those great weekends and all that.

But when we went home and were around each other more... something changed and it just wasn't the same.

Interesting. I've also heard stories where people stick together in the LDR, and after a month or two back together, they break up. Maybe they discovered unpleasant truths? Maybe they discovered their partner is irritating? Who knows.

they don't work in my experience. i was with a girl for eight months in person, had an amazing time, but then she had to move abroad for combined family and work reasons and things fell apart within two months after that. i went to see her one last time and it was great but we decided it was not worth continuing a long distance affair when we couldn't realistically make plans to be together in person again for at least six months. you just can't express yourself the same over whatsapp and skype as you can in person; all the magic fades away.

Hmm, 8 months? Could it be that you two were still in the honeymoon phase, and thus couldn't sustain long periods away from each other? Yeah whatsapp and Skype don't really compare to the real deal

Unfortunately it always seems to be the best girls that you end up in long distance relationships with...and it's tough...I think trust is the most important thing, and feeling as if both of you feel the same way.

I was in one LDR where the girl just basically could not commit to anything, did not show in any way that she was as serious and it drifted apart.

Another one, and actually partly the one I mentioned, was to do with jealousy. My God I am really a jealous ****...I mean this **** is a serious problem...one girl I was sort of in a LDR with, I went to visit her city (that's when I am in our country, not even that now) 400km away from where I live, we had a great time overall...got intimate...but at one point we were walking and I was saying something about a city where she formerly worked and when she mentioned her MALE BOSS telling her about some info or some ****, I literally got so pissed I just walked for around 30mins without speaking...I just couldn't force a word out.

And just recently, we were texting...she said sorry for a late reply, that she was helping her friend with translating some text...helping HIM, and basically I dunno what happened but something died in me and I literally ended the relationship then and there by going cold, not replying...giving one word replies etc...and she said to me:

"Honestly, I can't understand you - if again you've been offended by something or misunderstood something, then i'm really sorry. If you always end speaking terms with people like this, then this is just a shock for me. I won't write anymore, although I was genuinely interested in how you were...but if it's like this, then it's not worth it. All the best."

For LDR, if you don't have that trust and mutual strength in feelings, things like social media are a killer, for me anyway. If I see a girl i'm involved with like a guy's photos...or even pics on a guy's profile...or reply to compliments on her own photos, or speak to other guys, I lose it. And this isn't even a joke, I know I need to sort this **** out!

But to be honest...I'm relaxed now...LDR for me just causes stress, I've had enough for now.

Sorry bro, had to vent a little there haha.

In your case, if the feelings are strong...you trust her, feel as if she's worth waiting for...keep it going. But while trying to not drift apart, don't cling on too heavily and too often either. Both should focus on their lives, but obviously make time together...see where it heads.

Hahaha, this story is gold. I get a bit jealous too sometimes, I especially don't like when we're discussing exes. IMO her talking about her boss who happens to be male probably didn't warrant the silent treatment bro. Yeah social media is a bitch (as others in this thread have said). Thanks for the advice homie.

Sexting is not as good as boning. Hopefully you were phenominal in bed while you were together, otherwise she's probably gonna find a new weener.

that's because she gets lots of practice with that other man shes always with that she keeps telling you not to worry its just her cousin

Yeah, not really my concern guys

"Amor de lejos, es de pendejos"

I put this in Google translate and it came up with, 'Love from afar, is assholes.'

Drawbacks of a Long-Distance Relationship

14. You have to start faking orgasms just to keep the phone bill down.

13. Disconcerting to hear a stranger breathlessly answer the phone while "Love the One You're With" plays in the background.

12. Every time you hang up, you know she's *69ing someone.

11. Established pattern: Meet in airport, spend two days in custody for public lewdness.

9. Now that MCI has placed an account executive in your apartment, you're constantly being chided for "holding back" when expressing your feelings.

8. Awfully hard to storm out when you need him to drive you to the airport.

7. You need an alarm clock without his "morning appendage" poking you in the back at 6AM.

6. It doesn't matter who visits whom,*someone* is violating their parole.

5. That "You hang up first," "No, YOU hang up first" crap is really only funny the first two or three hundred times.

4. No matter how much Viagra you take, the distance is still too damn far.

3. FedEx's drug-sniffing dogs, apparently unable to distinguish panties from cocaine, keep freaking over your Letter-Paks.

2. That awkward moment when she faxes you home to meet Mom and Dad.

1. All of the carpal, none of the tunnel.

[betmen]

Why are atheists looked down upon so much in Indo?

Is the first principle from Pancasila the official philosophical foundation of the Indonesia "Belief in the one and only God" as a kid we chant it every day in school.
an atheist or nonbeliever is the greatest sinner in Islam and christianity, also a lot of older generation still associates atheist with communism because of the new order and west propaganda.
but this change in younger generation i see many atheist-indo group in facebook and twitter. also several of my friends know i'm an atheist and they cool with it.

[-MAKAVELLI-]

im about to give up...real close..LDR suck ass

[Dinamita 03]

im about to give up...real close..LDR suck ass

How long have you guys been at it?

[SkillspayBills]

Never work. At least in my case and many others I know. It wears on you quickly and swiftly. Going to be the toughest 6 months of your life unless you go visit her beforehand.

[-MAKAVELLI-]

How long have you guys been at it?

3 years...i just cant do it anymore

[Grand Champ]

I hate to be the bringer of bad news buddy but long distance anything doesn't seem to last much of anything...

It's a kinda out of sight, out of mind deal with us humans. We tend to move on :/

[Grand Champ]

I've been in a long distance relationship for the past 2.5 years with my fiance and future wife.


it's tough man. The best thing to do is talk all day every day. Be creative, don't just limit yourself to words on a screen.


We do nightly skype/movie dates. We watch a movie or a tv show and put each other on skype on our phones and just sit and watch the movie and talk.


Dropping her off at the airport absolutely blows and makes me shed tears every time.... but a long distance relationship could make your bond even stronger if you stay committed and remain faithful and honest. Trust is key bro, if either of you have any doubts, it probably won't work.



Stay strong bro, just remember.... keep working/studying- stack your money and look forward to the future when you guys can live together and take on the world together

Bro... I'm sorry. I really am .. :/

[paulf]

My girlfriend has been in jail since January. We put our relationship on hold after she went in, but we had a talk last month when I went to see her, and I decided I'm going to wait around. I write two letters a week and see her every other week.

I'm a pretty independent guy, but still it ****ing suuuuuuuuuucks.

[Krewella Boyy]

Sl00ts gonna sl00t