My "boxing" career is over.

[J_U_L_I_A_N]

Hey fellas,
First of all, I apologize for clogging up the boards with semi-dramatic, poor-me crap. Thats not the intention. I just figured if I dissapear, some of the guys I talk to might wonder why. I'm 22, been boxing for 2 months, and tonight was my first time sparring. Well, I have never had my confidence killed so badly, ever. Me and another guy who's been boxing for far less time than me, less coordinated, poor technique, etc. My trainers have been telling me I'm making good progress, etc. Well, we get in the ring and I found out two things.
One - I have a good chin.
Two - I have no talent for boxing at all.

First, the guy was hitting me so often that my coach told him to focus on speed and not throw so hard. Then, I'm still getting hit in vast quan******, so coach tells the other guy to jab only. What happens? My ass is still getting kicked. So eventually the guy feels sorry for me and starts throwing slow jabs (because my coach tells me that I need to work on slipping; really?) and I still can't hit him. Everyone in the gym is yelling "move, fight back!" and I'm trying, and failing. I wanted to experience what its like to box, and I did, and I suck. No big deal, I guess, but I refuse to embarass my gym by putting on a performance like that in two weeks. Since I discovered my total lack of boxing ability, I won't be giving any more advice, because if advice comes from someone who can't do what they say, it is suspect anyway. Just wanted to let you guys know that if you think you have it rough, you might, but I was one step away from being wrapped in leather and suspended by chains from the roof.

If you guys will excuse me, I have some aleve to take and a headache to cope with.

Keep the faith, fellas.

no matter how hard something is dont' ever quit on bad terms like that.. all that means is train harder.... you gotta desire the fight.. maybe you should have moved around more.. you have to have a passion for the fight also maybe that guy was more nervous than you and he felt he had to prove himself.. it's not the dog in the fight it's the fight in the dog..

[jason100x]

Sparring and getting your ass kicked are both part of the learning experience. I did a lot of it back in my karate and later kung fu days. You have bad days and good days but when you have a bad day, you have to see it as an opportunity to learn what you did wrong in that day and work on correcting the problem. Look, Bernard Hopkins lost his first pro fight and look what he went on to achieve.
When I was in 8th grade and 13 years old, we used to have these sparring matches in the locker room in gym class when the gym teacher wasn't in the area. I was taking karate at the time so the resident 8th grader (this was his third year in 8th grade and he was 16 when all the rest of us were 13 and 14) challenged me to a sparring match to "test" my karate. His name was Rich and he was bigger than me, not taller, but much stockier and certainly much stronger than I was at the time. Plus, he had been in many of the school fights so he was much more experienced than I was in fighting. I accepted the challenge.
Needless to say, he kicked my ass and even accidently (supposedly) nailed me in the balls with a low kick, taking me out of the fight, so to speak. But I got a few shots on him too. I won respect of many of my classmates for stepping up to him and I even won Rich's respect. He offered me a second match, probably not expecting me to accept it. I took it and the second time I did much better against him and felt that I had already taken his best. I'd still say he "won" the match, he got more on me than I did him but it was a learning experience and I managed to hold my own with him much better than the first time. It was a big confidence builder for me. Needless to say, Rich didn't want a third match and he and I were friendly until he finally dropped out of school.
It's not that you lose in the end, it's how you pick yourself up and become better as a result of losing that defines you.

[Manfredo Jr]

It was your first time sparring big deal , what were you expecting to be like? Mike tyson? you have only been training 2 months and so what if you got out classed by someone whos not been there as long as you , he may go on to be a really good boxer.Plus you have lots of time to improve.
My first sparring session was with a pro i got my ass whooped but i didnt decide to quit
Boxing is a really hard sport if not one of the hardest.
If your gonna call it a day at that theres not much hope for you.

[Scottie2Hottie]

man the **** up dude. if you cant take an ass kicking, then youre not gonna have success wherever you go after quitting boxing.

[KingDosia]

I've seen enough of your posts to safely make the assumtion you are a pretty cool kid, You seem to want to learn. So you have learned your first and quite possibly most important lesson. This is hard. Very hard. I will guarantee that it will be the hardest thing you do when you add up the physical mental and emotional toll. But what doesn't kill you WILL only make you stronger. I'm not going to patronize you. You're at a crossroad that we all come to in this game. "is it worth it" I'll say one thing. Get over this hump, learn the game and what ever life throws at you from now on will be easy. All of the suddon the easy just gets easier.

[Rockin']

Hey fellas,
First of all, I apologize for clogging up the boards with semi-dramatic, poor-me crap. Thats not the intention. I just figured if I dissapear, some of the guys I talk to might wonder why. I'm 22, been boxing for 2 months, and tonight was my first time sparring. Well, I have never had my confidence killed so badly, ever. Me and another guy who's been boxing for far less time than me, less coordinated, poor technique, etc. My trainers have been telling me I'm making good progress, etc. Well, we get in the ring and I found out two things.
One - I have a good chin.
Two - I have no talent for boxing at all.

First, the guy was hitting me so often that my coach told him to focus on speed and not throw so hard. Then, I'm still getting hit in vast quan******, so coach tells the other guy to jab only. What happens? My ass is still getting kicked. So eventually the guy feels sorry for me and starts throwing slow jabs (because my coach tells me that I need to work on slipping; really?) and I still can't hit him. Everyone in the gym is yelling "move, fight back!" and I'm trying, and failing. I wanted to experience what its like to box, and I did, and I suck. No big deal, I guess, but I refuse to embarass my gym by putting on a performance like that in two weeks. Since I discovered my total lack of boxing ability, I won't be giving any more advice, because if advice comes from someone who can't do what they say, it is suspect anyway. Just wanted to let you guys know that if you think you have it rough, you might, but I was one step away from being wrapped in leather and suspended by chains from the roof.

If you guys will excuse me, I have some aleve to take and a headache to cope with.

Keep the faith, fellas.

Its the fighter that returns the next day for more, thats the way you do it. ...............Rockin'

[Zigga]

Boxing shows a mans true colours. Are u gonna quit cause things are too hard, or are u gonna be mentally strong and learn from this experience and take the rough road till u get better.This is make or break time.

U will find that boxing and what it teachs u applys to every day life. If u cant hack it in the ring when the going gets tough and u wanna quit, u will be a quiter out the ring too.Maybe not, but all i know is when my life gets mental and i wanna cry like a big baby i draw on my boxing and think i wouldnt give up in the ring so i aint gonna give up on this. If u understand. U will gain more from continuing to box then not boxing.

If u can go back after this it shows heart, and that is a massive lesson u wud have learned, no one can teach u this, u have to do it yourself. Man up. I do stuff i dont wanna do all the time, but it makes us who we are.

[Ringo]

Alright...to get the technical, non-dramatic stuff out of the way, here's the main issue:

I'm a *****.

Ok. I took my licks, physical, then verbal. You guys were right (so was my girlfriend, and my dad - who hates the idea of me boxing), I shouldn't quit. I got pissed because I thought I was better than I am. Got that out of my system, at least. I decided that I'm going to go talk to my coach Tuesday and just ask him not to put me in the ring until I get more movement and parry work in (neither of which I've ever practiced with another person). Hopefully he'll understand, because I thought about it, watched my favorite bouts, thought some more, and I realized I like boxing. Honestly I didn't make this post to be dramatic, I really thought I was going to quit. I didn't like getting my ass kicked, but I'd rather suck it up than be called a quitter. Thanks for the responses.

[Nacho_Analstain]

thats the spirit,all u gotta do is watch a gatti fight thattle keep u goin

[Fearless]

You can't just let that destroy your self-esteem...

I've been in scenarios... and plenty of them, where my opponent outclassed me in speed, strength, reach (definitely) and size during sparring...

Every one of these sessions are a learning lesson for me, besides no one is laughing at you, you have to start somewhere... I always look at it not as a ego destroyer, but something where I can reflect on and say to myself... "I need to improve in this area".