first spar today and i didnt know what i was doing

[Smokin']

Yeah I agree with little EXIGE, there definitely is a problem with people laughing at you but don't switch gyms over it. We are all men here (most of us) and the true character of a man is when he can do something he doesn't want to do and accomplish a task. Go back there, keep learning (you're not the laughingstock as you say you are) and whip some of their asses that were talking the ****.

And yeah, I had an experience like you. I got treated like ass in one of the jobs I went to because I was green as hell and all these guys were experienced, I just kept working at it and working at it and earned their respect (it helps if you give htem a piece of your mind, also).

[Exige Jr]

Yeah I agree with little EXIGE, there definitely is a problem with people laughing at you but don't switch gyms over it. We are all men here (most of us) and the true character of a man is when he can do something he doesn't want to do and accomplish a task. Go back there, keep learning (you're not the laughingstock as you say you are) and whip some of their asses that were talking the ****.

And yeah, I had an experience like you. I got treated like ass in one of the jobs I went to because I was green as hell and all these guys were experienced, I just kept working at it and working at it and earned their respect (it helps if you give htem a piece of your mind, also).

Oh man it was so funny... this boy in my gym was talking a load of **** to me about a year ago. He was around the same weight as me with a bit more experience and a year younger than me... we kinda had a friendly rivalry going on and then one day it just switched and the friendly banter turned pretty serious. We knew that next time we got in the ring together there were gonna be some heavy digs going in. He was taking the outspoken approach; "im too strong for you, had too many more bouts than you and my defense is much better than yours". So that covers pretty much everything in boxing that he was better than me in apparently.

I was all like "ok, well we will see on the day" just taking the quiet approach with him. The day came about 2 weeks later... I stopped him in sparring with a left hook to the body about a minute into our first sparr together, in the first round. Proud moment, that one.

Remember that a year ago I was only about 4-5 months into my boxing and this boy had like 17 fights or something, been boxing for 4 years. He was a good fighter, I just pressured pressured pressured until his stamina wasnt good enough. (he had done a few rounds before too).

As a matter of fact the next time I saw him after that was last week. And thats the story of me as a beginner stopping someone who was experienced and talking ****... so perhaps its an idea to just keep on "speed e".

Good luck.

[KingDosia]

i spar today with a guy thats been fighting for some time my trainer tells me to spar and i didnt learn anything but the jab one two. i got beat and everyone at the gym thought it was funny. i been training for a 1month half. i didnt like that the trainer had me spar so soon this has really got me feeling down because i was getting beat. what the best way to get my confidence back up. iam mad about this.

I have a couple of questions about this. One I know you were frustrated, The other guy was more advanced "not necessarily better" and got the best of you. Ones ego can be fragile I know this. Were they really laughing that bad?
Or maybe could you be over reacting? And are you so sure they was be littling you by laughing or could they have been letting loose some of there own nervs? My advice is if you love this sport. I say love not like cuz you have to love this **** like no other to stick with it. Go right back do it again. Do it ofted. Spar twice as much as the others. When the time comes. They will see your accomplishments "or feel them" and it will be your turn to laugh.
you've heard the phrase he who laughs last right?

[Smokin']

Oh man it was so funny... this boy in my gym was talking a load of **** to me about a year ago. He was around the same weight as me with a bit more experience and a year younger than me... we kinda had a friendly rivalry going on and then one day it just switched and the friendly banter turned pretty serious. We knew that next time we got in the ring together there were gonna be some heavy digs going in. He was taking the outspoken approach; "im too strong for you, had too many more bouts than you and my defense is much better than yours". So that covers pretty much everything in boxing that he was better than me in apparently.

I was all like "ok, well we will see on the day" just taking the quiet approach with him. The day came about 2 weeks later... I stopped him in sparring with a left hook to the body about a minute into our first sparr together, in the first round. Proud moment, that one.

Remember that a year ago I was only about 4-5 months into my boxing and this boy had like 17 fights or something, been boxing for 4 years. He was a good fighter, I just pressured pressured pressured until his stamina wasnt good enough. (he had done a few rounds before too).

As a matter of fact the next time I saw him after that was last week. And thats the story of me as a beginner stopping someone who was experienced and talking ****... so perhaps its an idea to just keep on "speed e".

Good luck.

There's nothing worse then someone who talks a lot of **** but can't back it up. We played against this U-17 USA player when we were all 16 named Jeremy Hall and he was talking mad **** to all of our players even though he wasn't that special. He sure didn't like it when he was face down on the grass from a huge knee right in the back from yours truly (off a goal kick)

I wasn't a dirty player or a goon at all but some guys you need to bring them back down to earth.......

[Zigga]

My very first day in the gym i had to spar some1, i kept missing and almost fell through the ropes, then i took a body shot and got winded and had to stop. Guess what, people were laughing.................

Am glad this happened because i knew what was expected of me. I knew i had to be in great shape and train hard to get good.

Not all sparring sessions will knock ur confidence. U get a confidence crisis in ur first few sessions and then with training u build urself in2 a better person/fighter.

Dont worry bout it.

If they laugh, turn it into a positive and make sure they dont find u funny, will they be laughing when u give them a beat down. Change ur way of thinking and turn that negative energy into determination.

[speed e]

Depending on your situation (which I dont know too well at this point) I would leave a gym that I was not satisfied with the atmosphere of. Having said that I have only ever trained at one gym so I dont know what its like to change gym. If you are not comfortable training around those individuals and those trainers, and feel it is detrimental to your progress as a fighter... like you might progress 100% more in half the time somewhere else... then dont hesitate to leave that place and find a more suitable gym.

The fact they laughed or found it funny is not a good sign straight away! In our gym we mess around and joke, but when it comes to the newcomers we dont laugh at them because they are doing something wrong. Reason being we all realise the dedication this sport takes, and the amount of motivation it takes to want to get punched. Not to mention you learn more when you are with your friends and not in a hostile environment.

Hope that helps a little.

thanks for advise I will see how goes today. the guy sparred with thinks he the bad ass of the gym.

[Exige Jr]

thanks for advise I will see how goes today. the guy sparred with thinks he the bad ass of the gym.

If he is experienced then its gonna be a while before you can overcome him. But be patient and keep on fighting... you will catch up with him. Its exactly what I did with that boy I was speaking about.

[KingDosia]

thanks for advise I will see how goes today. the guy sparred with thinks he the bad ass of the gym.

The absolute worst thing you can do is form a grudge. Or start a competition. He's been there longer learn from him. He is a training partner. take it all in. Not just from the one guy. From everybody you can. Ask the ****** questions. Offer to spar every time you can. Take in there techniques, and use them to improve you own. That is exactly what they are there for. Don't take things personal. It's a learning process that you will never completely master. or perfect. You can only hope to continuously improve and progress

[speed e]

My very first day in the gym i had to spar some1, i kept missing and almost fell through the ropes, then i took a body shot and got winded and had to stop. Guess what, people were laughing.................

Am glad this happened because i knew what was expected of me. I knew i had to be in great shape and train hard to get good.

Not all sparring sessions will knock ur confidence. U get a confidence crisis in ur first few sessions and then with training u build urself in2 a better person/fighter.

Dont worry bout it.

If they laugh, turn it into a positive and make sure they dont find u funny, will they be laughing when u give them a beat down. Change ur way of thinking and turn that negative energy into determination.

I had got winded and the guy was was just throwing body shots I didn't even feel them as I kept moving out of way that's when everybody though it was funny because. but the trainer only show me how to jab. the guy tried to take me down but he could not get me to move. he was talking a lot of **** after the sparr. I was mad and I know he's going to be talking **** today

[Scottie2Hottie]

i spar today with a guy thats been fighting for some time my trainer tells me to spar and i didnt learn anything but the jab one two. i got beat and everyone at the gym thought it was funny. i been training for a 1month half. i didnt like that the trainer had me spar so soon this has really got me feeling down because i was getting beat. what the best way to get my confidence back up. iam mad about this.

i know how you feel man. my trainer did the same thing to me, his philosophy is not to keep guys out of the ring til theyre good enough to not get killed, but to get them in the ring early and see if theyve got the heart to take a beating. he had my ass in the ring after about two weeks. i got smoked at first, but give it some time and youll find that youll improve quickly. youll lose your ring jitters fast and start to be able to fight back.