How has Boxing affected your Relationships?

[mgkirkpatrick]

In highschool when I was fighting I never once had a steady girlfriend. A hook up here a fancy fondle there but that was about it. Whenever I would meet a girl that wanted to get into a relationship boxing was always a problem with it. While she wanted to hang out or go out I had to work and then train after school. Not much time for anything else really. I wanted to fight which meant that I had to train. The girls could never understand how I could put boxing infront of them. And if you know my story I did eventually put a girl infront of boxing and it was a disaster.

Rockin'

man i still dont konw your story.. u posted it somewhere a while ago? can u give the link?

[Rockin']

Ya know, I actually never got to how it worked with the girl in the story. I have told people on here about it though in different threads.

Trust me when I say dont let a girl stand infront of your dreams. You have only one oppertunity in life to catch them dont let it get away. If your with a girl that doesnt work with you for you dreams and even fights with you about them then kick her to the curb, quick, and work hard to accomplish whatever it is thats in your heart. Girls will come and go through life, dont let your dreams go for nothin'!!!!

Rockin'

[fraidycat]

My father thinks I'm nuts. My mother -- well, we weren't on good terms to begin with. She and my stepdad are real peacenik hippie types, taught me "noble pacifism," turn the other cheek, all that bull****.

My boss thinks I'm insane. Most of my friends don't get it; one buddy who's a cop understands, and another who's an extreme athlete -- rock-climber, base-jumper, all-around adrenaline junkie -- is psyched about it.

My wife had her doubts when I took it up, but between my losing 30 pounds, gaining endurance like I've never had during our 4 years of marriage, and becoming an actual MAN who stands up for himself, she's behind it. I dunno if she'll come see me fight, though. Her father is finally giving me respect. So that's nice.

All in all, yeah. It's good.

[Exige Jr]

Ok I mentioned it in my other thread, about it affected my relationships with people. Not just my relationship with them, but their relationship with me.

People have respected me for boxing. I speak to some really good sportsmen in my college (some play semi-professional football/soccer etc) and they say to me "you do boxing, dont you?" "yeah, its a great sport" I say. They say something like "**** that, I couldnt handle that". People respect you for taking a challenge and doing something unique I find. At the time I started nobody that I knew in my school boxed, and I knew a fair few peps.

On top of that respect you get, people either fear you or they honour you enough to not start anything with you. I never really got started on before, but I wouldnt blame anyone if I did. I was like 5'5 in high school, and maybe an easy target. Still I never really got that. Since boxing I have had one confrontation with someone because he attacked me. I defended against it and told him to get up and fight me. He stayed seated.

Now this is gonna contrast to what I say next, but boxing does actually make you more calm. I just couldnt have that boy stepping on the scene like that and just doing that. It was to my credit I didnt just smack him one as he was doing it. I told him after that im ready, I didnt lay a fist on him.

Anyway the confidence you get from boxing helps in relationships with girls. You find independence also, which girls like. A whole load of other **** that is only gonna help with the ladies. I wont go on, because I have been having a rough time with them at the moment ironically.

Erm parents, both dont agree with me boxing really. However since I do, they encourage me to train etc. They just have reservations like "you know boxing causes brain damage". I just brush it off. When you are in control of the amount of punishment that you take you tend to worry about it less. I am in control so it doesnt phase me. To them it must be murder thinking about what could be happening. Nothing does, however. Someone gets knocked out, and its not me.

With complete strangers it just goes back to the whole confidence thing. You are sure of yourself after boxing for a while, because you know in your head what can be done with your ability, and more often than not it makes you look good. For instance more physical fitness period just breeds confidence. It doesnt have to be through boxing, but you hear about these people that were 300lbs and had poor relationship/trust/confidence issues. They get the weight down and they find a new lease of life. Same principle.

Ok thats my answer.

[Scottie2Hottie]

my friends and my father are very supportive of my boxing, but my mother is totally against it (youre not in college to become a pro boxer, youre gonna get your handsome face wrecked, etc) and i lost my last girlfriend because i was training too much to see her. kind of a shame, cuz we were at a high point in our relationship, but i told her that if i had to choose between who i love (her) and what i love (boxing), then id choose boxing.

[Exige Jr]

my friends and my father are very supportive of my boxing, but my mother is totally against it (youre not in college to become a pro boxer, youre gonna get your handsome face wrecked, etc) and i lost my last girlfriend because i was training too much to see her. kind of a shame, cuz we were at a high point in our relationship, but i told her that if i had to choose between who i love (her) and what i love (boxing), then id choose boxing.

Man, to do that takes dedication to the sport.

I done the same recently.

[Toddy]

mine has gotten better as i no that there is better chance thta nothing bad will happen to me or my girls and ive made new friends si that helps but she is a bit concerned about how the physical aspects will affect me

[Scottie2Hottie]

Man, to do that takes dedication to the sport.

I done the same recently.

yeah, im not gonna lie, it definitely hurt to do it, but it wasnt a hard choice. even if i did stay with her and cool it with my training, i wouldve ended up resenting her for holding me back.

[Exige Jr]

yeah, im not gonna lie, it definitely hurt to do it, but it wasnt a hard choice. even if i did stay with her and cool it with my training, i wouldve ended up resenting her for holding me back.

The chances are you are gonna meet some girl as the result of boxing anyway. So you could have a girl who accepts your boxing a little more and have the best of both worlds.

When I went to an amateur show last the amount of girls there was pretty amazing. I was thinking to myself, "all these pretty girls like fighting?".

[Scottie2Hottie]

The chances are you are gonna meet some girl as the result of boxing anyway. So you could have a girl who accepts your boxing a little more and have the best of both worlds.

When I went to an amateur show last the amount of girls there was pretty amazing. I was thinking to myself, "all these pretty girls like fighting?".

i never see any girls around my gym, but ive ****** a couple simply because they thought it was hot that i was a boxer.