Losing trust in a sparring partner

[juggernaut666]

I'm a girl learning boxing in Korea. The girls here are all too weak and small so I have to spar with guys here.

There is a guy that I used to practice with, but our times at the gym haven't lined up very well so we haven't been able to spar in a long time. Today our trainer asked us to do some practice sparring where we pull our punches. In Korea they call it "meseu sparring" I don't know what its called in English.

I had already gone 6 rounds with other people and my left hand was injured, and he was fresh.

Well, the guy started hitting me without pulling his punches at all like I was a heavy bag. I asked him to stop 3 times in 20 seconds and he didn't stop. So I took my gear off and left the ring. My feelings were hurt far more than his punches, but the guy just gave me the cold shoulder from then on. He gave me a half hearted apology as I was about to leave.

My question is, how do you deal with this situation. I fear it's going to be awkward now. I don't think I trust going in the ring with him again now.

Slip some extasy in his water ,maybe with a little added prescription sleeping meds and then tee of on him you could even add some rubbing muscle cream like ben gay or flex all to the top of your glove to burn his eyes while hes finished most of his water.If he doesnt get the message time to move on to arsenic ,just small amounts that wont entirely put his life at risk.

If you want to play you have to pay !

[Redd Foxx]

I think a big ego is one of the reasons a lot of us fight.

If you accept that as being a legit excuse for not exhibiting control then don't complain about it and just suck it up. If you expect more out of people then say something.

[Suckmedry]

Your trainer should have been watching and stopped the sparring. Thats all there is to say.

Literally every novice who posts on here asking for advice has a ****ing **** trainer

theres so many idiots and charlatans posing as boxing trainers

Its disgusting because boxing is a sport where people can get hurt, particuarly the vulnerable participants like women and kids

Im really sorry you had to put up with that ****. Try find a new gym. If thats not possible, just tell the trainer that you would like more supervision when sparring men.

[Boxfan83]

He's just playing. He's actually a really good member, don't take it the wrong way. There's idiots here who will say something like that and actually mean it, and I think he's just mocking that mentality.

Lol thanks for having my back Foxx. Honestly i assumed she was a troll lol

[baya]

Lol thanks for having my back Foxx. Honestly i assumed she was a troll lol

you did well, my dude.

don't be discouraged by her aggressive reply.

[Boxfan83]

you did well, my dude.

don't be discouraged by her aggressive reply.

Gracias Baya, i do feel bad tho, i try & keep my training section responses legit bcuz its something i take seriously. I mustve been trolled that day & pissed. Forgot i even posted it but i was trying to look out for the homies looking for a pic doe... Haha

[MMartialArtist]

I've been through this a lot, particularly in jiu jitsu where you have to trust your partner not to dislocate your arm and such. There's always some insecure or inconsiderate pricks who don't get it and refuse to exhibit control. Don't be afraid to just tell them "no thanks" and if a coach asks, just say the individual is too aggressive. The strong ones in the gym are not the ones who refuse to take it down a notch, the strong ones are the ones who can make accommodations for someone without having their egos get involved.

I think this is a common problem over all styles and sports. When I taught Taekwondo we did Olympic style sparring, where the rules encourage kicks to the head. I hated when I stopped or slowed down a kick so as not to hurt my partner and they would grab it (against the rules) or take advantage kick me back. There is no way they didn't know I slowed it down for them. Nowadays, whatever kind of sparring I'm doing, if they take advantage I just steadily increase the power until they get it.

Egos are fragile man.

[ukbox]

Step back out of range, plenty of lateral movement then break into a k-pop routine

Guaranteed to work

Unless the dude is gay which is entirely possible in a taekwondo class

[Syf]

You are looking to learn. find someone who is willing to teach

[Mr.MojoRisin']

This is why you don't learn to box in Korea.