I'm a failure at boxing.

[andalusian81]

Man I wonder how ill feel If I also lost on my first match. Im nervous.

[TredKiller]

dont beat yourself up bro,
everyone gets cought,
joe louis got Knocked out 2 times,
henry armstrong started with a record of like 3-5

what if he had quit,

jus belive in yourself

[Gojira]

You cant be too bad. Ive been boxing for almost a year and a half and i havnt even been approached by my trainer about my first bout yet.

[Del Coqui]

BHop lost his first fight and he's a legend.... you can bounce back.... use it to motivate you not destroy you... would be cool if you could put it up on youtube or somethin.

[pyrovampx]

I've tried motivating myself by believing in myself but that can only get me so far. I;ve done a few fights actually this is an exhibition I've won one out of 2 fights. Because the guy was more advanced than me. I can't learn to box myself I need a coach but my coach ignores me. He does pads with everybody even kids that don't compete and he never does pads with me. my technique is way off because I train alone. Then when I get into fighting he tries to impose his way of fighting all of a sudden. This gym is so close to my house too like 3 mins walking that's why I go there.

[Professional]

I got knocked out today. I fight in the 140 lb category. I was outpointing the dude like crazy in the first round. I was moving around the ring getting alot of points I'm the taller and leaner guy the other guy was ripped and shorter. My coach started yelling at me to keep my feet apart and was yellling at me even though I'm winning. Get this he never even trains me. I wanted to do it my way but I did it his way to make it happy. While I had my feet apart I was too stationary and was focusing on making the old fart happy and I got clocked by a hit that took away my legs and knocked me down I got up. Now I lost all respect. I don't have that great of a defense either that's why I move alot. Well anyways now I'm thinking what was I thinking blowing all that money in boxing wasting all that time training and quitting my part time job and skipping homework and projects.

Facts:

1) Your not satisfied w/ your trainer
options: find a new coach, find a way to work things out with your trainer (that doesn't mean you guys have to be buddy/buddy but obviously your relationship is hurting you mentally, you have to come to some kind of mutual agreement), stop boxing.

2) It's not your coaches fault you lost.
It may be true that his advice wasn't the greatest but you got stopped, not him. Blaming him isn't going to do any good. If he is a bad coach then find an alternative (complaining=not an alternative) Until you recognize, understand, and accept that, you won't prosper from your loss. Going into the fight there was a 50% chance you were going to lose, everyone loses, it's really only a big of a deal as you make it. This is probably the hardest part of losing fighters have to accept. Win your next fight and I can guarantee this bout won't bother you as much.

3) Quitting isn't going to make you feel better.
It sounds to me like this sports means a lot to you. Don't quit when things are at their worst. When you look back your memories are going to be of your loss, your "bad" coach, quitting, etc. Give it one more go around and if things don't work out then maybe it wasn't meant to be but if you give it your all, truly, you have nothing to be ashamed of. You can walk out knowing that you didn't quit when things got rough and that you gave it your best shot, that's part of what growing up and becoming a man is all about.

4) You have all ready clarified some things you need to work on.
1) your defense
2) your relationship w/ your coach
3) your support system (try talking w/ your family)
4) your confidence and mentality
5) your school/work/boxing balance (your going to regret a lot more than this boxing match if you skip a majority of your homework & projects. You also quit your job? Is it possible that there is more to your parents not liking boxing that you are willing to admit?)


5) If this message makes you angry that means..
1) you have an ego. (good, competitors need that. your all ready beginning your comeback)
2) there is some truth to it.

If you think you had a rough start then study boxing history. Watch this video and maybe it will put some of your "hardships" into perspective.

youtube.com/watch?v=Elp5rbsNfnI

6) There's nothing you can do to change the past. Don't worry yourself about things you have no control over.
What you can control is your attitude and how hard you work towards your next fight. Don't let your fear of losing control you whether it's in boxing or any other facet of life. The more time you spend thinking of what you "lost", more time is going out the window.

7) Your only a failure if you convince yourself that you are one

The main thing I want to stress is that this is supposed to be FUN. Enjoy yourself! There are so many kids out there who wish they had an opportunity to do what you have all ready done. Make the best out of the opportunities life has presented you and just remember WHY your doing it in the first place.


The choice is yours from here on out...

[Richie-G]

Facts:

1) Your not satisfied w/ your trainer
options: find a new coach, find a way to work things out with your trainer (that doesn't mean you guys have to be buddy/buddy but obviously your relationship is hurting you mentally, you have to come to some kind of mutual agreement), stop boxing.

2) It's not your coaches fault you lost.
It may be true that his advice wasn't the greatest but you got stopped, not him. Blaming him isn't going to do any good. If he is a bad coach then find an alternative (complaining=not an alternative) Until you recognize, understand, and accept that, you won't prosper from your loss. Going into the fight there was a 50% chance you were going to lose, everyone loses, it's really only a big of a deal as you make it. This is probably the hardest part of losing fighters have to accept. Win your next fight and I can guarantee this bout won't bother you as much.

3) Quitting isn't going to make you feel better.
It sounds to me like this sports means a lot to you. Don't quit when things are at their worst. When you look back your memories are going to be of your loss, your "bad" coach, quitting, etc. Give it one more go around and if things don't work out then maybe it wasn't meant to be but if you give it your all, truly, you have nothing to be ashamed of. You can walk out knowing that you didn't quit when things got rough and that you gave it your best shot, that's part of what growing up and becoming a man is all about.

4) You have all ready clarified some things you need to work on.
1) your defense
2) your relationship w/ your coach
3) your support system (try talking w/ your family)
4) your confidence and mentality
5) your school/work/boxing balance (your going to regret a lot more than this boxing match if you skip a majority of your homework & projects. You also quit your job? Is it possible that there is more to your parents not liking boxing that you are willing to admit?)


5) If this message makes you angry that means..
1) you have an ego. (good, competitors need that. your all ready beginning your comeback)
2) there is some truth to it.

If you think you had a rough start then study boxing history. Watch this video and maybe it will put some of your "hardships" into perspective.

youtube.com/watch?v=Elp5rbsNfnI

6) There's nothing you can do to change the past. Don't worry yourself about things you have no control over.
What you can control is your attitude and how hard you work towards your next fight. Don't let your fear of losing control you whether it's in boxing or any other facet of life. The more time you spend thinking of what you "lost", more time is going out the window.

7) Your only a failure if you convince yourself that you are one

The main thing I want to stress is that this is supposed to be FUN. Enjoy yourself! There are so many kids out there who wish they had an opportunity to do what you have all ready done. Make the best out of the opportunities life has presented you and just remember WHY your doing it in the first place.


The choice is yours from here on out...

he pretty much summed up this thread

great post.

[georgian]

ey look man first off if your coach is not doing pad work with you then it might mean that you are not putting in the work that he wants to see, so in his mind he doesnt want to ***** the effort maybe im wrong and hes just an ***whole if thats the case find a new gym. Any other gym will welcome you with open arms especially if you got some training and fights under your belt. Make sure you have a healthy relationship with your coaches and that you all are on the same page. Dont worry about what anyone thinks as long as you perform and get better people will respect you. Keeping training and dont train to be okay train like a champ.

[cottothechamp]

dont waste ur time on boxing if u have regrets, ur dreams can end in one night.

[One - Shot]

I got knocked out today. I fight in the 140 lb category. I was outpointing the dude like crazy in the first round. I was moving around the ring getting alot of points I'm the taller and leaner guy the other guy was ripped and shorter. My coach started yelling at me to keep my feet apart and was yellling at me even though I'm winning. Get this he never even trains me. I wanted to do it my way but I did it his way to make it happy. While I had my feet apart I was too stationary and was focusing on making the old fart happy and I got clocked by a hit that took away my legs and knocked me down I got up. Now I lost all respect. I don't have that great of a defense either that's why I move alot. Well anyways now I'm thinking what was I thinking blowing all that money in boxing wasting all that time training and quitting my part time job and skipping homework and projects.

quit boxing its not for you...