I Got a problem hitting people

[LetsgetSAVAGE]

^^ Tbh I agree with this guy. I am a relentless fighter, I am scared to spar, But that doesnt mean give up. It just makes me want to train harder and go the distance.

[Squabbles94806]

^^ Tbh I agree with this guy. I am a relentless fighter, I am scared to spar, But that doesnt mean give up. It just makes me want to train harder and go the distance.

Word. Don't be scared though. Think of it this way. Your opponent is just as scared as you. But don't act like you're "not scared". Act like you don't know the definition of the word scared.

Fear no man. He breathes the same air as you. He bleeds just like you do. He's a man just like you. Why be afraid of him.

Nervous is okay, but not scared.

[Ramamaiden]

I kind of have the same problem, so i apply what somone said. I go at the intenisty my partner goes.
I have never competed yet, but i would love to do it at least once so i can go with all i have and not feeling sorry and stopping for the other guy if i connect a good punch. Well, the other way around is also possible, :P

[sweet*science]

Truthfully, I have that problem now when I spar against the regulars in the gym. Its easier for me to go hard on someone who I dont know versus one of the regulars in the gym, a guy I have grown to be friends with. At the same time if neither one of you go hard you wont get ne better, neither of you. Good luck.

[Landon S]

I guess I sorta agree with squabbles. You should go hard but as long as your not trying to be a KO artist all the time then thats great. But if you do see an opportunity to land a great shot, dont pass it up, because you earned that shot. That is how I spar. I'll take the opportunity, however, sometimes if I know the guy can hardly take a body punch (for example) then I might take a little steam off it but I throw it like its hard (if that makes any sense). However if you always run in there being a spaz I dont see how that benifits anybody.

[j]

i completely understand and sympathize with you.

i have had this problem. i can impale someone on my fist, but controlling the "ouput" requires more skill.

i have "tapped" severel of my friends before, and now they are more likely to flinch then to put up a decet challenge. it really can be a tough place to be in. for me, it is not so much how hard i try to hit, but just light hits feel heavy to others i have been told over and over.

i remember lightly giving my friend, who is much larger and weighs 50+ pounds more than me. and he is fighter, not shy of physical contact. so, i tapped, and he popped me back on my leg as we were sitting. i asked, why u try to hit so hard? he said, what is light for you is heavy on me.

it is moments like that where you know what u have been doing has been working. i am just a small guy compared to him, but my method of hitting is more developed and i suppose a light knuckle tap feels like being tapped by a heavy sledgehammer hammer. or so i was told.

i suppose it sort of shocked me almost as i didnt think there would be so much of a difference at the time considering he is an athletic guy taller, wider, and larger than me.

so, i still stay carefull as to how hard i smash someone in sparring or even just two person sets.

on the other end, i have been "tapped" by my superiors and have felt what i can imagine i have done, not on purpose, to others.

so, i agree with other peeps here. just try to aspproximate their intenseness, and power. and, if u happen to have developed good power or heavy hands, be careful!

[Juof]

dont listen to these ass holes about quitting do what u feel is good sparring ur not ment to hurt your opponent its just practice for the real thing i like to hold back in sparring to practice defence and counters but u dont have to hit them hard unless ur gym is full of idiots who try to ko u then just tryin hurting them

[Squabbles94806]

I guess I sorta agree with squabbles. You should go hard but as long as your not trying to be a KO artist all the time then thats great. But if you do see an opportunity to land a great shot, dont pass it up, because you earned that shot. That is how I spar. I'll take the opportunity, however, sometimes if I know the guy can hardly take a body punch (for example) then I might take a little steam off it but I throw it like its hard (if that makes any sense). However if you always run in there being a spaz I dont see how that benifits anybody.

Plus the intention of punches. As fighters we can tell that. Since hitting and being hit is part of the game, it's all business. You can almost tell when someone hits you and means to hurt you. At least i can tell. But if you keep your technique clean and crisp it's all gravy.

Last night i had a guy on the ropes and i kept him there for about 13 seconds. Str8 ****ing to the body and throwin all types of sets. After it was all said and done everything's cool.

I also have this theory. You form a bond between your training comrades if you push each other. How do you expect to perform with such intensity on the stage if you don't practice with intensity. If someone hits you, by all means hit them back.

It's not personal, it's business.

[potatoes]

I have not boxed in any matches, but i have sparred and i have problem fighting with other people i am always worried that i will hurt the person and i hold back a lot and by doing this i just tend to miss the person just a bit and hardly land any punches. I know i shouldn't be having this problem with a fighting sport, but how can i go about holding back from not being ******, but without it effecting my sparring this much. I don't mind being critisized or whatever i just want it told how it is. Maybe u guys had this problem 2 and overcame it, really need help on this one guys.

Thanks RD

Unless you are a natural puncher chances are you won't hurt anybody unless you make a concerted effort to hurt them. If the man in front of you is too easy to hit, find another sparring partner.

[BrooklynBomber]

I used to have that when I was just starting, it was actually my biggest problem, I was not afraid to get hit, but was afraid to hurt my opponent. It went away after a couple of weeks.