So my wife doesn't want my son watching boxing/combat anymore

[nacho daddy]

I run things in my house, we all love boxing and MMA, even jhonny my lil hardcore Chihuahua loves watching men go to warー!

yea you run everything in your house...the vacuum dishwasher washing machine oven sink. hahah you freaking guys make me sick talking up a lot of s hit while your woman bosses you around cause if you tried anything you be arrested

[bballchump11]

If watching boxing is making him get into fights at school then he doesn't understand boxing as a sport. An option would be for him to go to a boxing gym and understand that it's a sport and it's about discipline and learning a craft. It's not about watching someone KO someone else on TV and trying to replicate that in the playground.

That's what I was going to suggest. I became less prone to fighting after I started my boxing training.

[bballchump11]

op must be trolling

lol you'd hope so. There's no way my son wouldn't watch boxing.

[HitmanTommy]

Bro! This is simple. Can't believe you asking this. This is family 101.

When your wife shouts at the child. Don't chastice her in front of the child even if you disagree with her. Let her say whatever to the child and then when the two of you are alone, sit down with her and explain to her men and women are not the same and they never will be. They are called the opposite sex for a reason.

How she as a woman solves disputes with other women aint the same as how men solve disputes with other men. Help her undersand that boys are different from girls, and deal with different challenges to girls in the playground.

Now, she will either listen to you, or she won't. If she doesn't listen, that's fine, there's a plan B, or a plan A2.

Plan A2/B: Again, let her rant and say whatever to the kid. Don't interupt her, don't chastice her, don't oppose her in front of the kid. Don't also say nothing, coz she'll jump on you and chasice you for not helping or backing her up.

So what do you do?

Back her up of course. Agree with her and also add some words to the kid, be a unit with her, be a team.

And THEN! When the kid is in his room sulking. Go to him, talk to him man to man. Tell him you had to agree with his mom at the time but you understand why he fought and why he will likely have to fight again. Tell him not to start fights and not be a bully, but always defend himself, and of course, make sure he understands that if his mother asks what you said to him, to tell her what she wants to hear, and not what you actually said.

This solves everything. Everyone is happy at the end.

Thank you very much for writing this up. It's perfect.

Thanks again!

[Eff Pandas]

To me there is a difference between violence & self defense. Unless there is some reason she &/or you are thinking he's actually starting fights I don't see a problem here with a kid defending himself & letting it be known he's not to be trifled with.

And this will likely have the byproduct of ultimately him being in less situations in the future off of his rep so I'd break it down to her that he's not starting fights with kids cuz he watches fights, he's finishing fights other kids started with him. This is a dangerous world. Everyone should have some ability to defend themselves. Your son just gots a early start likely from his enjoyment of watching fights.

And if that doesn't work I'd make a appointment with a divorce lawyer & start searching Tinder for an updated model of her with a more realistic outlook on the world. That "til death to us part" sh^t is just words not a part of the actual agreement.

[GrandpaBernard]

lol you'd hope so. There's no way my son wouldn't watch boxing.

I'd bet good money it's a troll

is this the state of America in 2019 males who have to negotiate with their wives for their son to become a man of controlled violence

[-Kev-]

Kids learn worst things than boxing in school.

Ask your wife if she instead wants her son to be bullied, suffer from depression because of it, suffer from trauma growing up, and end up suicidal.

Better to be mentally strong and defend yourself, stand your ground. Teachers and principals won’t do anything, and the bullies parents will think their little bully can do no wrong. Your son did the right thing. No one can defend him better than himself.

[Mr.365]

Kids learn worst things than boxing in school.

Ask your wife if she instead wants her son to be bullied, suffer from depression because of it, suffer from trauma growing up, and end up suicidal.

Better to be mentally strong and defend yourself, stand your ground. Teachers and principals won’t do anything, and the bullies parents will think their little bully can do no wrong. Your son did the right thing. No one can defend him better than himself.

Or a school shooter...................

He can always move his child to a different school too

[Mr.365]

She says boxing/ufc etc is setting a bad example for our son who is still a kid, even though he loves watching boxing just as much as I do. These past few months, he's been getting into fights at school and even got suspended once.

He's told us that he was defending himself. He said this last fight was because a bigger kid was picking on him and so in order to get him to stop, he punched him in the face without notice and the kid ended up with a bloody nose. Well he got into a fight again last week and now my wife no longer wants him to watch combat sports saying it's setting a bad example for him as according to her, violence doesn't solve anything.

He wanted to watch the Hurd vs Williams fight and sat in the living room with me, but when my wife saw what was on, she got mad and told him to go to his room or watch something else. I told her to calm down it's ok and then she started yelling at me saying I'm not helping the situation.

Any father been in this situation?

Tell your wife you will send your kid to learn non-'violent' combat such as submission holds, wrestling, takedowns, grappling, judo, karate, etc

[-Kev-]

Or a school shooter...................

He can always move his child to a different school too

Yep.

When they can’t fight, but know how to shoot, they’re handle business by shooting.