So How Do I Help My Friend Bros?

[i_am_a_champ]

Hey guys sorry haven't posted in a while been cray busy with work and all my new business projects.

But just wanted to get some feedback on my friend. If you read the first page thats the situation and backstory of him.

Well he turned 40 this year and he's pretty much been avoiding all contact with me ever since. Mostly because I think he feels I'm lecture him or get on his arse for still not having a girl in the picture what so ever.

Not much has changed since 2 years ago except that he's 40 now and that makes things far worse IMO. I did not want him to end up this way and frankly the fact that he's been avoiding me all this year since turning 40 is really pissing me off since I'm one of his last remaining friends who actually cares enough about him to even try to help him out.

A bunch of my friends say to cut him off or at least never bring up the girl situation at all ever again because it only leads to drama and awkward tension whenever I do. But I think thats the problem he keeps copping out and avoiding the topic all together?

What do you guys think? I don't want to cut him off since we've been friends for like 20+ years now.

A couple of my cousins feel he needs a traumatic experience like the loss of a close one or even a near death experience himself in order to over come his issues, but that doesn't exactly help me in terms of helping him?

I don't know. Serious feedback would be appreciated.

He needs to fall in love and get his heart broken.

That will wake him the **** up

[Tago Nang Tago]

jesus christ just leave him alone. can't u tell that he gets all insecure and his anxiety flares up when you bring up the fact that he's not a chick magnet? i bet you bring it up to his face when you're hanging out with other friends too huh? just to dog him and bring him down. you sound like a terrible friend,i'd drop all ties with you if i were him. you're only doing what your doing to make him feel down to prop yourself up in front of chicks. u are a terrible friend. you sound like a total doucher

[Zaroku]

Listen to this man! ^^^^^ he makes sense.

[TheGR8TESTOAT]

He needs to fall in love and get his heart broken.

That will wake him the **** up

I actually agree but the problem is how do we even get him to that point????

[TheGR8TESTOAT]

jesus christ just leave him alone. can't u tell that he gets all insecure and his anxiety flares up when you bring up the fact that he's not a chick magnet? i bet you bring it up to his face when you're hanging out with other friends too huh? just to dog him and bring him down. you sound like a terrible friend,i'd drop all ties with you if i were him. you're only doing what your doing to make him feel down to prop yourself up in front of chicks. u are a terrible friend. you sound like a total doucher

WTF? dude I'm like his literally only remaining friend who even cares enough about him to try to help him all these years bro. so should i just not give a F about him and chalk him up to being a lost cause like all his other friends did about 10 years ago? wouldn't that be more like not being his friend?

Are you trying to tell me if you were 40 and in his shoes you wouldn't want your last remaining friend to try to help you out but to just ignore it like the rest of our friends did?

[vaborikua2014]

WTF? dude I'm like his literally only remaining friend who even cares enough about him to try to help him all these years bro. so should i just not give a F about him and chalk him up to being a lost cause like all his other friends did about 10 years ago? wouldn't that be more like not being his friend?

Are you trying to tell me if you were 40 and in his shoes you wouldn't want your last remaining friend to try to help you out but to just ignore it like the rest of our friends did?

I think you're a good friend. You should just have one last talk with him. Maybe involve some alcohol and maybr some video games or something like that just to get him on your good side. Then be straight up and talk yo him. Tell him you know he has confidence issues with women and hes 40 now and has wasted his youth and that you're willing to help him and let him know youre just trying to help and if he doesn't want you to you will stop, but he might end up old and lonely. Maybe hes gay also you should have a deep convo with him one last time if he doesnt wanna hear it then don't help him out no more.

[TheGR8TESTOAT]

I think you're a good friend. You should just have one last talk with him. Maybe involve some alcohol and maybr some video games or something like that just to get him on your good side. Then be straight up and talk yo him. Tell him you know he has confidence issues with women and hes 40 now and has wasted his youth and that you're willing to help him and let him know youre just trying to help and if he doesn't want you to you will stop, but he might end up old and lonely. Maybe hes gay also you should have a deep convo with him one last time if he doesnt wanna hear it then don't help him out no more.

green k bro for your response and also for that hot bangin dime in a G string lol. Who is she? I need her name like yesterday please!

But yeah i pretty much came down hard on him when he turned 21, 25, 30, 35, 37 and then next thing you know he's 40. All I know is when I turn 40 I'm do it BIG like in Cabo or Cancun during spring break with all the bad college chicks and I'm get in crazy cut peak shape just for that week lol.

But yes back to my friend. When he turned about 30 and still never had a girlfriend or been on a date I basically told him he was my bro till we die and said if you are gay we still bros. He then said I appreciate you for being such a good friend, but I'm not gay I just want to get in shape and lose weight before I put myself out there. He then proceeded to do the whole Hooters, Strip Club, Pooorno conventions every year hard. So thats how I know he's not gay he really brags about being able to meet his favorite poooorno stars and takes pics with them as if they are some sort of trophy conquest.

He hits the VIP section hard of strip clubs where he drops like $500 in the vip room because that is his only real up close and personal interaction with females. Again thats another reason I know he's not gay since he's dropping $500 in the VIP room. He wouldn't do that just to cover himself up or whatever. Plus he's been known to go even solo without any of us. So there would be no incentive of going to a strip club alone unless you really wanted a lap dance, etc.

and yes if he was gay i think it be even easier since i could just let it go and be like yo dude go be gay go find a boyfriend or whatever so you won't be alone when you old, but again since he aint gay I can't even wish for that for him.

but i totally agree he wasted his youth away completely and all he's got is excuses like the weight thing which is not even a good reason.

[Syf]

green k bro for your response and also for that hot bangin dime in a G string lol. Who is she? I need her name like yesterday please!

But yeah i pretty much came down hard on him when he turned 21, 25, 30, 35, 37 and then next thing you know he's 40. All I know is when I turn 40 I'm do it BIG like in Cabo or Cancun during spring break with all the bad college chicks and I'm get in crazy cut peak shape just for that week lol.

But yes back to my friend. When he turned about 30 and still never had a girlfriend or been on a date I basically told him he was my bro till we die and said if you are gay we still bros. He then said I appreciate you for being such a good friend, but I'm not gay I just want to get in shape and lose weight before I put myself out there. He then proceeded to do the whole Hooters, Strip Club, Pooorno conventions every year hard. So thats how I know he's not gay he really brags about being able to meet his favorite poooorno stars and takes pics with them as if they are some sort of trophy conquest.

He hits the VIP section hard of strip clubs where he drops like $500 in the vip room because that is his only real up close and personal interaction with females. Again thats another reason I know he's not gay since he's dropping $500 in the VIP room. He wouldn't do that just to cover himself up or whatever. Plus he's been known to go even solo without any of us. So there would be no incentive of going to a strip club alone unless you really wanted a lap dance, etc.

and yes if he was gay i think it be even easier since i could just let it go and be like yo dude go be gay go find a boyfriend or whatever so you won't be alone when you old, but again since he aint gay I can't even wish for that for him.

but i totally agree he wasted his youth away completely and all he's got is excuses like the weight thing which is not even a good reason.

Porn ruins another life....


Porn, strip clubs, they have something in common. They undermine a dude's social skills and ability to relate to a lady. with one he just clicks and watches, with the other he pays for a fake experience.

They are both EASY. Society has been hotwired with so many social shortcuts that many dudes have become full on emasculated hermits, and don't even know how to relate to a real living breathing female. The irony is dudes take these shortcuts but getting a woman is not that hard.

My suggestion? No more porn, no more strip clubs. He can't handle it, its undermining his social skill with the ladies. he's gonna have to reinvent himself. Cut down on the life enveloping online games, mmos and such too.

Develop some form of hobby that gets him OUT of the house on a frequent basis. If that hobby also gets him in shape, bonus.

but yeah, his biggest problem is taking social shortcuts to get to the pink. Cuz... thats exactly what keeping him FROM the pink!

[vaborikua2014]

green k bro for your response and also for that hot bangin dime in a G string lol. Who is she? I need her name like yesterday please!

But yeah i pretty much came down hard on him when he turned 21, 25, 30, 35, 37 and then next thing you know he's 40. All I know is when I turn 40 I'm do it BIG like in Cabo or Cancun during spring break with all the bad college chicks and I'm get in crazy cut peak shape just for that week lol.

But yes back to my friend. When he turned about 30 and still never had a girlfriend or been on a date I basically told him he was my bro till we die and said if you are gay we still bros. He then said I appreciate you for being such a good friend, but I'm not gay I just want to get in shape and lose weight before I put myself out there. He then proceeded to do the whole Hooters, Strip Club, Pooorno conventions every year hard. So thats how I know he's not gay he really brags about being able to meet his favorite poooorno stars and takes pics with them as if they are some sort of trophy conquest.

He hits the VIP section hard of strip clubs where he drops like $500 in the vip room because that is his only real up close and personal interaction with females. Again thats another reason I know he's not gay since he's dropping $500 in the VIP room. He wouldn't do that just to cover himself up or whatever. Plus he's been known to go even solo without any of us. So there would be no incentive of going to a strip club alone unless you really wanted a lap dance, etc.

and yes if he was gay i think it be even easier since i could just let it go and be like yo dude go be gay go find a boyfriend or whatever so you won't be alone when you old, but again since he aint gay I can't even wish for that for him.

but i totally agree he wasted his youth away completely and all he's got is excuses like the weight thing which is not even a good reason.

Lol ty. I have no idea i found the gif on a gif website. I feel u though maybe he aint gay. Since he uses that as an excuse maybe depending on how stacked ur paper is u get him a personal trainer for like a month or 2 and twll him bo more ****ing excuses vro u been holding off for 20 ****ing years now. See what he says if he still puts an excuse then u know u cant help him unless he wants to help himself

[TheGR8TESTOAT]

Porn ruins another life....


Porn, strip clubs, they have something in common. They undermine a dude's social skills and ability to relate to a lady. with one he just clicks and watches, with the other he pays for a fake experience.

They are both EASY. Society has been hotwired with so many social shortcuts that many dudes have become full on emasculated hermits, and don't even know how to relate to a real living breathing female. The irony is dudes take these shortcuts but getting a woman is not that hard.

My suggestion? No more porn, no more strip clubs. He can't handle it, its undermining his social skill with the ladies. he's gonna have to reinvent himself. Cut down on the life enveloping online games, mmos and such too.

Develop some form of hobby that gets him OUT of the house on a frequent basis. If that hobby also gets him in shape, bonus.

but yeah, his biggest problem is taking social shortcuts to get to the pink. Cuz... thats exactly what keeping him FROM the pink!

I actually agree with you on this. He's been into pooorn all his life. His d!ckhead brother and dad got him into it at a very young age and I think it really screwed him up from a young age. It may have been one of the major reasons why he never was able to adapt to females in real life? But at the same time he keeps claiming the weight issues is the real reason. But again can you really blame your weight for almost 40 years especially when you never do anything about it?

On top of that you always see a bunch of big fat dudes with bad girls. I think some girls even prefer a bigger guy than to a petite small dude.

But in all seriousness I can't cut him off from porrrn or strip clubs I'm not his parents or his big brother I'm just one of his boys from back in the day who we all grew up together in the hood.

In order for that to happen his parents and family and myself would all have to do an intervention or something but I don't see that happening as his brothers even worse off than he is! and his parents baby the hell out of him to the point where they don't ever want him to grow up and leave them?

I did make some comments like reverse psychology like look at all these losers who go to those pooorn conventions and they never get laid, and he didn't get the point he still goes every year sometimes twice a year in both Vegas and LA.

But the real problem recently is he's been avoiding all contact with me. He doesn't answer the phone when I call and he makes excuses to hang or to even pick up the phone cause he knows I'm lecture him or get on him for not making anything happen yet?

He turned 40 at the beginning of the year and its now June so 6 months went by and he still avoids even speaking with me this long.