Can't Motivate Myself

[Joe Frazier]

Well, the thread title says it all really.

I've lost my last two fights, the second one decisively, and now I simply can't get myself into the right mind set to go back to town with regards to training.

I'm worried that I'm never going to shake this loser's fatigue, I can't even eat properly some days because I'm so nervous about training.

I don't know if it's just my imagination, but my trainer seems a lot less interested in me now that I've lost a fight - My head coach died of a heart attack five months ago and since then the club physio has taken up the head training position. At first he was all over me and taking my training on a one-on-one basis, now he just tells me I know what I need to do and then does ten minutes of bag work with me to pick on my posture.

Is this a normal bug for someone trying to pick themselves back up? Any tips on how I should get myself back into the right mind set?

P.S - Before I get ragged on for losing, I won my last 15 fights straight before I lost the first time, I didn't take the matchup seriously enough and got beaten by someone far less experienced than myself. The second time around I just wasn't motivated for the fight and got completely dusted. I give all credit to both fighters, though, and I'm sure they both have bright futures ahead of them.

[Sam Donald]

hmmm... 15wins in a row and then lose two straight off. Head coach has died and interest in boxing has gone down hmmmmm

Well, first off. Remind your self on why your in the gym, why do you do it.. do you want to win, is it a hobby, do you want to prove people wrong??

It depends on why you box? Come on.. ask yourself why do you box

Get back to winning ways, atleast 5 in a row and move club

[Joe Frazier]

hmmm... 15wins in a row and then lose two straight off. Head coach has died and interest in boxing has gone down hmmmmm

Well, first off. Remind your self on why your in the gym, why do you do it.. do you want to win, is it a hobby, do you want to prove people wrong??

It depends on why you box? Come on.. ask yourself why do you box

Get back to winning ways, atleast 5 in a row and move club

I hear what you're saying. When I was winning I thought I had what it took to eventually go pro or something, now I just feel like reality has struck and I was ****** for ever thinking it could go that far.

In reply to your message on my profile: I'd rather not go into gym names, I want to keep my anonymity whilst I basically call out my coaching staff.

[Sam Donald]

I hear what you're saying. When I was winning I thought I had what it took to eventually go pro or something, now I just feel like reality has struck and I was ****** for ever thinking it could go that far.

In reply to your message on my profile: I'd rather not go into gym names, I want to keep my anonymity whilst I basically call out my coaching staff.

Well you said that you lost because you didnt take it serious enough and the 2nd loss was due to not motivating yourself. You gotta figure on why you wanna do well and motivate yourself. Wor hard and remember how you won those 15fights

[Weebler I]

Well presumably you lost your last two because you were getting hit too much, tighten up your defence.

Keep training, the motivation will return. The only way to beat the nervousness is to keep facing it.

[dannnnn]

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!

Don't get too hung up on wins/losses, especially in the amateurs. The most important thing is that you're learning and improving. Believe it or not, those losses will almost certainly make you a better fighter because you're now carrying that extra experience - it all adds up.

Everybody loses, the important thing is that you recognise the mistakes you made. You underestimated your opponent the fist time you lost and you weren't motivated the second time. You don't win 15 in a row by fluke.

At the end of the day, people can give you all the advice in the world, but the actual desire to train and to box has to come from you. Only you know if you really want it. For what it's worth, I would advise you to train your ass off and put everything you have into at least one more fight because, as unlikely as it may seem, one good performance could change your entire attitude.

[pacquiao-king]

Ok so you've lost 2 fights and ultimitly confidence in your ability. Relax...

“Losers live in the past. Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present toward the future.”

“If you're not making mistakes, you're not taking risks, and that means you're not going anywhere. The key is to make mistakes faster than the competition, so you have more changes to learn and win.”

“A quitter never wins and a winner never quits” my gyms motto

This could be a blessing in disguise. You've gotta use this and come back stronger than ever.

[mushahadeen]

**** your head coach.

[Oriachim]

your losses will make you a better fighter, amir khan when he started amateurs lost loads of fights and now hes a super star pro... so there.

[paulsinghnl]

"A champion is someone who gets up when he can't."
Jack Dempsey

"I hated every minute of training, but I said, "Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion."
Muhammad Ali

"Only a man who knows what it is like to be defeated can reach down to the bottom of his soul and come up with the extra ounce of power it takes to win when the match is even."
Muhammad Ali

also, one of my favorite fighters is Juan Manuel Marquez, always finds a way out, mainly because one quote he made, i don't remember where, but loosely translated:

"we have to intensify according to our opposition."

when you're a fighter, the only person that counts is you. no one else. you know what you got. if you fall down, you get back in the gym the next day, and get bigger, stronger, faster, smarter. keep working, keep studying boxing films, keep learning. as long as u progress, learn from your mistakes.

There's no one that can stop you. you will for sure reach the top. you gotta believe in yourself, push yourself. what can you do after you fall? dust yourself off, stand up and start all over.

The only moment you really lose is when you stop trying. you have to keep learning, improving, and then when you lose, you learn from it, go to the gym the next day and keep fighting and improving. that's what champions are made of: perseverance, never-say-die attitude. everyone loses, but champions keep pushing, learn from it, until they finally reach the top.