I think you gotta teach your kid how to defend themselves & allow them to defend themselves if an ugly situation arises. Sounds like you did the former, but hemmed him up on the latter.
While it probably woulda sucked to have been kicked off the basketball team, if I'm understanding you correctly on that being on the table potentially if he had fought, I think the greater good would be the word would have been out on him not being one to be trifled with in the future. A lot of fighting is a game of chicken almost with one person being dominate over another person. And most people aren't of the desire to play a game of that type with a kid who's proven he'll hit you in the face if pressed. Most cats don't actually wanna fight they just wanna get to the dominate/seen as a big man part.
So ultimately he'll likely just get into another altercation in the future, & I wouldn't be surprised if its one of the other kids involved in this situation, to redeem himself cuz some kids who've heard about or seen this incident will think he's a kid to be suckered.
Then again maybe schools are so p#ssified these days that my take is outdated, but that likely would be what would happen in my school days & beyond until this trophy for 9th place, everyone is a special snowflake who's capable of anything bs.
While it probably woulda sucked to have been kicked off the basketball team, if I'm understanding you correctly on that being on the table potentially if he had fought, I think the greater good would be the word would have been out on him not being one to be trifled with in the future. A lot of fighting is a game of chicken almost with one person being dominate over another person. And most people aren't of the desire to play a game of that type with a kid who's proven he'll hit you in the face if pressed. Most cats don't actually wanna fight they just wanna get to the dominate/seen as a big man part.
So ultimately he'll likely just get into another altercation in the future, & I wouldn't be surprised if its one of the other kids involved in this situation, to redeem himself cuz some kids who've heard about or seen this incident will think he's a kid to be suckered.
Then again maybe schools are so p#ssified these days that my take is outdated, but that likely would be what would happen in my school days & beyond until this trophy for 9th place, everyone is a special snowflake who's capable of anything bs.
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