Tweet
Hope the OP is still doing well and fully recovered. I grew up around addicts and alcoholics for most of my life. Friends, family, colleagues, etc. Three years ago I almost lost someone very close to me who was addicted to heroin, and I did everything in my power to help him get clean. The problem is, only the addict can get themselves the help they need or find the strength to quit. Addicts are master manipulators and when someone is hooked, they will tell whatever lie to themselves and others to get their next fix. If you want to know if an addict is lying to you, just see if their mouth is moving.
This is not a slam on addicts. It is a cold hard reality of what these drugs do to you. They rob you of your soul, your dignity, and passions in life. For anyone who is feeling apprehensive or ashamed of family finding out...make no mistake, if you use that shyt long enough you will be doing things to get your next fix that you could never have imagined yourself doing. If you are on the fence about asking for help, get off the fence. Get the help you need, the support you will need from your family, and take it one day at a time. At the same time, put as much distance between you and the people you were/are getting high with. Unfortunately, recovery is all or nothing at all. You can't have these people in your life so make a clean break. Delete their numbers, avoid at all costs.
Recovery is like prison, you don't count weeks, months, years while recovering, you check off each day. You wake up and make a conscious decision not to use or take a drink that day. Sometimes its overwhelming for people to give up vices when looking at it in terms of forever, so take it one day at a time. Small victories.
Lastly, leave the shame and regret behind. Don't beat yourself up over all the money you lost, people you hurt, bridges you've burned and all the compromises you made to get high. Once you've gotten yourself on the path to recovery, be a better friend to yourself, don't dwell on regrets. Learn from them, find an opportunity for growth, and when you are strong enough, perhaps one day you can help someone else get their life back.
This is not a slam on addicts. It is a cold hard reality of what these drugs do to you. They rob you of your soul, your dignity, and passions in life. For anyone who is feeling apprehensive or ashamed of family finding out...make no mistake, if you use that shyt long enough you will be doing things to get your next fix that you could never have imagined yourself doing. If you are on the fence about asking for help, get off the fence. Get the help you need, the support you will need from your family, and take it one day at a time. At the same time, put as much distance between you and the people you were/are getting high with. Unfortunately, recovery is all or nothing at all. You can't have these people in your life so make a clean break. Delete their numbers, avoid at all costs.
Recovery is like prison, you don't count weeks, months, years while recovering, you check off each day. You wake up and make a conscious decision not to use or take a drink that day. Sometimes its overwhelming for people to give up vices when looking at it in terms of forever, so take it one day at a time. Small victories.
Lastly, leave the shame and regret behind. Don't beat yourself up over all the money you lost, people you hurt, bridges you've burned and all the compromises you made to get high. Once you've gotten yourself on the path to recovery, be a better friend to yourself, don't dwell on regrets. Learn from them, find an opportunity for growth, and when you are strong enough, perhaps one day you can help someone else get their life back.
Comment