If you could read this and give your opinion, i'll be most grateful. And i'll rep you!
Ok, so very briefly, there's this girl that's at my uni and on the same course as me. In our second year, we started going places together and became closer. I developed feelings for her.
So I told her how I felt. And she said she felt the same. But there's a religion difference between us, which makes it difficult. She said that to me, and I said I understand, and whatever she's comfortable with i'll respect. We never talked about 'us' anymore after that.
But we still went out together, and the contact we were having, we were both eager to see each other, go somewhere, etc. So it wasn't official or anything, but the things that were said and the places we were going to, and how we wanted to see each other, etc. we both knew how we continued to feel for each other.
Now here's where my head's gone and I need some objective analysis.
She went back to her home place for the summer holidays, but we were contacting each other a lot. Then about 5-6 weeks ago, i hadn't heard from her for a few days, so i asked her if she was ok, and she said she'd been so busy with family things etc.
I felt bad, like I was treading on her toes. We were in contact again a couple more times after that, but it wasn't as frequent. I thought i'll just e-mail her, so it doesn't get in her way, she can reply when she has the time. But she never did. The e-mail wasn't bad or anything, I only asked her some questions, talked about what i'd been up to.
I never contacted her again after that, obviously feeling down/slightly annoyed/confused, i kind of assumed maybe she's not interested anymore.
Then today we started uni again, she sees me but doesn't approach me. I approach her, ask if she's ok, ask if I said something to annoy her, etc.
She said she lost her phone and hasn't had my number. I didn't believe it as she could have just replied to my e-mail, right? or sent me an e-mail asking for my number?
I didn't say that to her as I didn't want anything to be awkward. But we chatted to each other for a while.
Then after our lecture, she waited up for me, so she could talk to me. It was like how things were the last time we were together, laughing, chatting etc. No awkwardness. Which has now got me so confused.
Why did she blank me all those weeks, then wait up for me so she could talk to me? I assumed she was going to go straight out, speak to her friends, or whatever. Not wait for me.
I'm thinking maybe she just didn't get my e-mail or hasn't checked. But am i thinking that because i want it to be true? Because of my feelings for her.
And i'm thinking, if she didn't get my e-mail, she might not have approached me because she was pissed with me for not contacting her, (which obviously meant she couldn't get my number). Maybe she felt blanked by me????
This is long and slightly complicated I know, but if someone can offer their take on this i'd be grateful.
I'm thinking of texting her tonight to ask her what the situation is between us, just so i know and not have to keep thinking this through in my head. Im pretty nervous about it, might have to put on my Marquez shirt and go for my run so im pumped. But should i text her, or is it obvious how it is but i can't see it objectively anymore?
Is she not interested anymore? Would I be bothering her further by asking?
Ok, so very briefly, there's this girl that's at my uni and on the same course as me. In our second year, we started going places together and became closer. I developed feelings for her.
So I told her how I felt. And she said she felt the same. But there's a religion difference between us, which makes it difficult. She said that to me, and I said I understand, and whatever she's comfortable with i'll respect. We never talked about 'us' anymore after that.
But we still went out together, and the contact we were having, we were both eager to see each other, go somewhere, etc. So it wasn't official or anything, but the things that were said and the places we were going to, and how we wanted to see each other, etc. we both knew how we continued to feel for each other.
Now here's where my head's gone and I need some objective analysis.
She went back to her home place for the summer holidays, but we were contacting each other a lot. Then about 5-6 weeks ago, i hadn't heard from her for a few days, so i asked her if she was ok, and she said she'd been so busy with family things etc.
I felt bad, like I was treading on her toes. We were in contact again a couple more times after that, but it wasn't as frequent. I thought i'll just e-mail her, so it doesn't get in her way, she can reply when she has the time. But she never did. The e-mail wasn't bad or anything, I only asked her some questions, talked about what i'd been up to.
I never contacted her again after that, obviously feeling down/slightly annoyed/confused, i kind of assumed maybe she's not interested anymore.
Then today we started uni again, she sees me but doesn't approach me. I approach her, ask if she's ok, ask if I said something to annoy her, etc.
She said she lost her phone and hasn't had my number. I didn't believe it as she could have just replied to my e-mail, right? or sent me an e-mail asking for my number?
I didn't say that to her as I didn't want anything to be awkward. But we chatted to each other for a while.
Then after our lecture, she waited up for me, so she could talk to me. It was like how things were the last time we were together, laughing, chatting etc. No awkwardness. Which has now got me so confused.
Why did she blank me all those weeks, then wait up for me so she could talk to me? I assumed she was going to go straight out, speak to her friends, or whatever. Not wait for me.
I'm thinking maybe she just didn't get my e-mail or hasn't checked. But am i thinking that because i want it to be true? Because of my feelings for her.
And i'm thinking, if she didn't get my e-mail, she might not have approached me because she was pissed with me for not contacting her, (which obviously meant she couldn't get my number). Maybe she felt blanked by me????
This is long and slightly complicated I know, but if someone can offer their take on this i'd be grateful.
I'm thinking of texting her tonight to ask her what the situation is between us, just so i know and not have to keep thinking this through in my head. Im pretty nervous about it, might have to put on my Marquez shirt and go for my run so im pumped. But should i text her, or is it obvious how it is but i can't see it objectively anymore?
Is she not interested anymore? Would I be bothering her further by asking?
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