if you found out someone close to was on a forum and you knew his/her username, would you spy or privately stalk someone them without them knowing it?
or alternatively, how would you feel if someone you cared about was spying on you here secretly without you knowing it. it wouldn't have to be a g/f or wife, it could be anyone you are close to?
Please discuss...
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My story: my husband belongs to a few forums, as do I, but obviously we don't belong to the same forums. We both know what the sites are but we respect each others privacy and don't "spy" or stalk each other. We haven't shared our usernames. Any way, he has posted some pics on one of his forums of this room he built (he was so proud) and wanted to ask me a technical question on how he could make the pics smaller. So, I am checking out the pics and i notice the post beneath them in which he is complaining about me having the "honey-do lists" and him rolling hs eyes and saying "yeah, honey, i'll get right on that" (since i have been put on bed rest). it was rather funny because he and i know the REAL truth, but it made me realize that when he is not with me he likes to portray himself as a typical guy. while i was immediately curious what else he may have posted, particularly about me, i'd really rather not know. plus, i just respect and trust him and would not feel right intruding on his privacy. i know the real him - not the "him" that he portrays to a group of guys or strangers. plus, i would hate if he did it to me. it's kinda like reading someone's diary, IMO.
so i chose not to spy on him as i would not want to be spied on.
or alternatively, how would you feel if someone you cared about was spying on you here secretly without you knowing it. it wouldn't have to be a g/f or wife, it could be anyone you are close to?
Please discuss...
__________________________________________________ _______________
My story: my husband belongs to a few forums, as do I, but obviously we don't belong to the same forums. We both know what the sites are but we respect each others privacy and don't "spy" or stalk each other. We haven't shared our usernames. Any way, he has posted some pics on one of his forums of this room he built (he was so proud) and wanted to ask me a technical question on how he could make the pics smaller. So, I am checking out the pics and i notice the post beneath them in which he is complaining about me having the "honey-do lists" and him rolling hs eyes and saying "yeah, honey, i'll get right on that" (since i have been put on bed rest). it was rather funny because he and i know the REAL truth, but it made me realize that when he is not with me he likes to portray himself as a typical guy. while i was immediately curious what else he may have posted, particularly about me, i'd really rather not know. plus, i just respect and trust him and would not feel right intruding on his privacy. i know the real him - not the "him" that he portrays to a group of guys or strangers. plus, i would hate if he did it to me. it's kinda like reading someone's diary, IMO.
so i chose not to spy on him as i would not want to be spied on.
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