[PLEASE HELP] ok gentlemen, id like a mans point of view......

[nillamilkshake]

i have 4 really close girlfriends. and three of them are experiencing their marriages/relationships failing.

i happen to be their ear/shoulder...and dont share with the others what they say. there is a common theme tho, and its upsetting to me.

so, while i have deep knowledge of a womans point of view (and i know all relationships are unique, people are different,etc) i would really like to know a mans point of view...

1. what does commitment mean to you?
2. what does being in a relationship/marriage mean to you?
3. how do you feel about your woman remaining an individual in your relationship?
4. what will you not tolerate in a relationship?
5. what does compromise mean to you?
6. how do you keep the love alive...in other words, how often do you feel you have to reinforce the feeling to your woman that 'shes the one' or that she is appreciated?


i know its a lot. but im baffled. i dont understand why people who are obviously head over heels with one another...STILL after so many years...let bull**** get in the way. and im equally baffled why people who DONT feel that way about each other are STILL in relationships that arent failing.

sigh

[-MAKAVELLI-]

1. what does commitment mean to you?

calling her back at halftime

2. what does being in a relationship/marriage mean to you?

no more other poon allowed


3. how do you feel about your woman remaining an individual in your relationship?


that's fine

4. what will you not tolerate in a relationship?


disrespect

5. what does compromise mean to you?


listening to her concerns and i guess tryin to do something about it if i can

6. how do you keep the love alive...in other words, how often do you feel you have to reinforce the feeling to your woman that 'shes the one' or that she is appreciated?


if its real love, it doesn't need to be 'kept' alive...it lives on its own

[squealpiggy]

i have 4 really close girlfriends. and three of them are experiencing their marriages/relationships failing.

i happen to be their ear/shoulder...and dont share with the others what they say. there is a common theme tho, and its upsetting to me.

so, while i have deep knowledge of a womans point of view (and i know all relationships are unique, people are different,etc) i would really like to know a mans point of view...

1. what does commitment mean to you?
2. what does being in a relationship/marriage mean to you?
3. how do you feel about your woman remaining an individual in your relationship?
4. what will you not tolerate in a relationship?
5. what does compromise mean to you?
6. how do you keep the love alive...in other words, how often do you feel you have to reinforce the feeling to your woman that 'shes the one' or that she is appreciated?


i know its a lot. but im baffled. i dont understand why people who are obviously head over heels with one another...STILL after so many years...let bull**** get in the way. and im equally baffled why people who DONT feel that way about each other are STILL in relationships that arent failing.

sigh

The number one cause of failing relationships is that people don't want to put in the effort to make them work. You get people with bullshit like "I still love her but I'm not IN LOVE with her".

Garbage. You need to expend constant effort to make a relationship work. Life is not a romance novel, and not just because life doesn't have stupid shirts and silly haircuts.

[TRAV1$]

*reads thread title*

Gentlemen, start your fapping!

[Sweet Pea 50]

Women are like cars.

A little loving care, followed by a whole lot of wide open throttle.

[TRAV1$]

Women are a lot like guns, keep one around long enough and you'll want to shoot it.

[TRAV1$]

Kidding, of course... currently in a long term relationship I'll help with your thread when I've got a moment.

[nillamilkshake]

1. what does commitment mean to you?

calling her back at halftime
because you want her to know shes important to you or cos you feel you have to?

2. what does being in a relationship/marriage mean to you?

no more other poon allowed
alright.what about flirting?what about emotional closeness with someone else? if she was ok with al of that cos you were ok with her having/doing the same...would you remind her she was number one and keep somth very special between you that you gave to noone else???


3. how do you feel about your woman remaining an individual in your relationship?


that's fine

so like you can do whatever you can so she can continue to pursue her own individual interests, just as you do?

4. what will you not tolerate in a relationship?


disrespect
agreed. and willyou also give respect? how EXACTLY?

5. what does compromise mean to you?


listening to her concerns and i guess tryin to do something about it if i can

even to the point of giving something up cos you know it bothers her?

6. how do you keep the love alive...in other words, how often do you feel you have to reinforce the feeling to your woman that 'shes the one' or that she is appreciated?


if its real love, it doesn't need to be 'kept' alive...it lives on its own

awwww. sweet but naive

[KING MEAT]

Women are like cars.

A little loving care, followed by a whole lot of wide open throttle.

women are like cars.

you gotta test drive before you purchase.

[paul750]

The number one cause of failing relationships is that people don't want to put in the effort to make them work. You get people with bullshit like "I still love her but I'm not IN LOVE with her".

Garbage. You need to expend constant effort to make a relationship work. Life is not a romance novel, and not just because life doesn't have stupid shirts and silly haircuts.

Men are not naturally monogamous, so it's always going to happen. The question is, are most men who cheat doing it because they can't control themselves or are they just selfish?

It's hard for me to imagine cheating on somebody I love, but I haven't been 'in love' yet so I don't know. Lots of relationships are just based on convenience anyway. Too many people can't live on their own. So what happens is that people don't wait until they are truly happy with themselves and just rush into things, and it all falls apart in the end.