[PLEASE HELP] I feel stuck in life

[NYG]

Early 20s and i reached a point where i dont know what i want anymore. I cant seem to make a decision about a lot of things, my mind is all over the place. One day i want people around me and the next day i want to roam free with no worries. I'm caring less and less about certain things and i am developing a "**** it, you only live once" attitude but cant seem to really go through with it. I just want to be free and live my life but feel stuck and confused.

How do i fix this? I feel like getting up and starting all over somewhere else. I didnt go out to explore much as a teenager so maybe these feelings come from that? I want to explore and get out there but then i feel like i dont, very indecisive. Just feel like its time to really decide what i want to do but i just cant

Anybody ever feel this way?

[Mike D]

Yep for real some days I do daydream about what it would be like to just up and leave and start somewhere new

I lived in this area for the vast majority of my life, grew up here and am still here, just the adventure aspect alone of going somewhere new, somewhere where I want to be, is pretty appealing

[Mukuro]

First world problem. Easy access to food, ****, entertainment, just about everything. It keeps us in check and living fake lives with no real gravity.

People have to break out of it to accomplish anything. It is not much more than choosing discomfort over comfort. There is a momentum you can gain that is addicting but it is never easy to begin. It's not all positive. You step out of the comfort zone and there is probably more negative than positive. It depends on the person too though I suppose.

I grabbed the things that were most important to me, and experienced negative things I couldn't even imagine in the process. It's not good or bad, it just is natural I guess.

Anyway my advice is to cut off the stimuli that keeps you in check if you want to break out of your small world. Stop being satisfied with cheap and easy things, and you will naturally seek out more real ones.

[jas]

make a goal at the start of each day

[Rockybigblower]

I think your biggest problem is that you talk too much. You talk yourself into something...then talk yourself out of it. The only way forward is action. Get your feet moving. Adventure is right outside your doorway.

[GhostofDempsey]

Do you have a career that you are satisfied with? Not knowing what you want to do in life is something that afflicts most of us, regardless of age. If you are single, no kids, and not married to your job, then by all means explore other opportunities. Maybe take a road trip cross-country. See some of the sights, different states, cities, change of scenery for a couple of weeks. Back when I did that in my twenties it gave me a good idea of where I would never want to live and some places that I might consider living. It was just a fun experience overall.

Meanwhile, find something you like to do and do more of it. Set some goals for yourself, short term and long term. Do something spontaneous, if you have a passport pick a country you always wanted to visit and go. If money is a limiting factor, find inexpensive getaways, get a roommate to free up some of your money to do the things you want to do. Plan something with friends, or go alone. The most important thing of all, is that you don't sit around and give you mind a playground with too much idle time to think. That typically doesn't end well. Keep your mind busy. Read, ride a bicycle, go for a swim or learn to swim, find a local boxing gym and hit the bags, check out Meetup.com and find people with and groups with similar interests and make new friends.

[Lomadeaux]

First world problem. Easy access to food, ****, entertainment, just about everything. It keeps us in check and living fake lives with no real gravity.

Well fkin said.

[-jose-]

Welcome to the real world...















...that's all I got.

[Lomadeaux]

Wish I was in my early 20's and felt lost... lol... I'd know exactly where to go.

[NYG]

Thanks for the help. I will try some of these things and see what happens