Bookmark Website  | Free Registration  | The Team
The Lounge  | Champions  | The Wire |  Schedule |  Audio  |  Arcade  |  The Top Ten  |  Historical  |  Email  |  Video

Do You Know Which Door To Open?


Do you remember that old television program that gave the contestant the opportunity to choose one of three doors and receive whatever was behind the door?

I was reminded of this television program the other day when I was pondering a decision I was struggling to make. My usual process for decision-making is to make a list of pros and cons, revisiting and revising the list every couple of days. When I feel that everything is listed in the right column, I weigh the pros and cons and make my decision.

During this last exercise I had pros and cons on the paper but internally I was reading the headings as success and failure. Now, you know I know better! It didn't matter what I knew when making the list, I still kept reading success and failure. So, in frustration I put the list away and decided to let things sit for a few days and go back to it. This was really good advice, if I do say so myself.

It was in this waiting period that I thought of that old television program and the three doors. Now, it wouldn't be prudent to just choose a door and go with whatever was behind it, but the thought of the three doors made me realize I had three options. If I chose Door #1, I would choose option #1. Choosing Door #2 would mean I opted for the second option and if I chose Door #3 I would be choosing not to choose.

When it comes to decision-making we sometimes forget that not choosing is making a choice. We lose sight of the fact that not choosing can be healthy and rewarding. Now, of course, I don't mean you can just go through life letting life happen all the time, with no decision-making effort on your part. But, sometimes, that is just what you should do. When the decision-making is really tough, when you are thinking about it all the time and feel like you are getting nowhere, why not choose Door #3?

The next time I made my list I listed headings of Door #1, Door #2 and Door #3. Under Door #1 I listed all of the really good things about that option and then I did the same thing for Door #2. I did not list any cons! I simply created a vision of the best of both options. Under Door #3 I wrote "serendipity" (the gift of discovering things accidentally).

By not forcing myself to choose I opened Door # 3 and allowed myself the freedom of discovery. By not labeling pros and cons the success/failure identifiers went away. I now am able to discover whether Door #1 or Door #2 holds the prize I want to attain by envisioning, and living in the vision, of the best of both options.

Interesting Word History: English author Horace Walpole coined the word serendipity. In a letter of January 28, 1754, Walpole says that "this discovery, indeed, is almost of that kind which I call Serendipity, a very expressive word." Walpole formed the word on an old name for Sri Lanka, Serendip. He explained that this name was part of the title of "a silly fairy tale, called The Three Princes of Serendip: as their highnesses traveled, they were always making discoveries, by accidents and sagacity, of things which they were not in quest of...."

Beth Densmore is a Personal Life Coach and Motivational Speaker who offers support, inspiration and motivation to those who are in transition and want to achieve a goal. For more information and more free articles like this, visit her site at http://www.newfocuscoaching.com.


MORE RESOURCES:

Motivation for Luiz Razia? The Long Beach podium staring him in the face
NBCSports.com
Luiz Razia, who entered the field as one of the top preseason championship contenders given his GP2 experience and near-F1 race opportunity, has some personal bulletin board material to motivate him to do better. The 25-year-old Brazilian has finished ...



Point to prove: Motivation a big factor in Harvick's early success
FOXSports.com
We saw Saturday night at Darlington a simply dominating performance from Kevin Harvick. I know it's an old cliche but it sure fits in this case -- "What a difference a year can make." In eight races so far this season, he already has two wins and has ...

and more »


Janae Van Burch lets determination be her motivation
The Jersey Journal (blog)
Janae Van Burch, 13 has figured out in the 8th grade that she possesses the ability to determine her fate by consistently motivating and applying herself to whatever challenge she is facing. She has an active life including school, track and field ...



New York Daily News

Peyton Manning says he will use Broncos' Super Bowl heartache as motivation
New York Daily News
In his first public comments since the highest-scoring team in NFL history was destroyed by the Seattle Seahawks from the opening snap two months ago, Manning said the Broncos' 43-8 loss will serve as motivation in 2014. THE ASSOCIATED PRESS.
Peyton Manning doesn't want to forget Super Bowl whipping as it provides ...Washington Times

all 166 news articles »


International Business Times UK

Casual pot use among young alters brain's motivation region: study
The Japan Times
LONDON – Young, casual marijuana smokers experience potentially harmful changes to their brains, with the drug altering regions of the mind related to motivation and emotion, researchers have found. The study, published Wednesday in the Journal of ...
Casual Marijuana Use 'Changes Shape of Brain Region Affecting Motivation and ...International Business Times UK
Marijuana's Effect on the Brain Changes Emotion and Motivation in Young ...Headlines & Global News
Study finds brain changes in young marijuana usersBoston Globe
Fox News -World Science
all 308 news articles »


Irish Examiner

Debate: Smoking weed affects young people's motivation, so is society too ...
The Independent
Debate: Smoking weed affects young people's motivation, so is society too relaxed about marijuana? Share. Young people who smoke marijuana may be at risk of “major” changes to the area of the brain that regulates motivation, a new study claims.
Cannabis use linked to brain changes in emotion and motivationIrish Examiner
Casual cannabis use alters brain, warn scientistsNew Zealand Herald

all 23 news articles »


The Independent

Smoking cannabis could change the part of the brain dealing with motivation ...
The Independent
Smoking cannabis just once or twice a week could result in “major” changes to areas of the brain important for emotion and motivation, US scientists have said. In a study which one expert said challenged the idea that “casual” marijuana use is largely ...



Howard educators barely get a passing grade in Gallup poll on motivation
Baltimore Sun
Educators and employees in Howard County schools are slightly more engaged than employees nationwide, according to the results of a Gallup poll released last week, even though more than 60 percent didn't meet that standard. Tim Hodges, director of ...

and more »


Customers' luxury motivation turns to self-reward, execs say
Automotive News
NEW YORK -- The definition of luxury automotive brands, and the motivation of luxury-car shoppers, is changing from a look-at-me display of wealth to a self reward for achieving success. That was the conclusion of a panel of luxury-brand executives at ...



How To Motivate People: 4 Steps Backed By Science
TIME
When tested in national surveys against such seemingly crucial factors as intelligence, ability, and salary, level of motivation proves to be a more significant component in predicting career success. While level of motivation is highly correlated with ...


Google News


Advertisement



Section Site Map - Submit News - Feedback - Comments - Advertise with Us

Copyright 2006 Luminati Inc. All rights reserved.