Bookmark Website  | Free Registration  | The Team
The Lounge  | Champions  | The Wire |  Schedule |  Audio  |  Arcade  |  The Top Ten  |  Historical  |  Email  |  Video

Resistance Is Natural - but Not Helpful - in Times of Change


Here are five feelings we all experience in changing times. Check these out for yourself by thinking about times when you were experiencing significant life change, either personal or professional.

1. We feel that our personal security is being threatened;

2. Our conventional expectations are disrupted;

3. Strong "out-of-control" feelings want to take over;

4. Awkwardness and embarrassment occur; and

5. We feel fear that we look foolish - that we're "flailing around."Resistance is normal any time change is occurring, because none of us like these feelings, and yet we all feel them. And the feelings are usually directly proportional to the degree and rapidity of the change that's being asked of us.

In a way, change is a kind of death, because it involves a loss of what has been familiar -- often for a long time. This is true whether or not the change is positive or negative. A terrific new job, for instance, means that an old, familiar job will be lost. A divorce may involve many losses simultaneously - spouse, children, a life style, standing in the community, a home, and so forth.

Don't discount the significance of these losses.

A very important way of looking at resistance is that it isn't something to avoid...it's something to recognize, to pay attention to, to take responsibility for, and to talk about with another person. Unfortunately, many people squash their feelings and thoughts, pretending that things are just going along as usual.

It's far more productive to fully admit the importance of the circumstances, to recognize the losses involved. And if you can find someone else to talk with who's already gone through it, you'll find yourself being supported, because that person has been there, knows what it feels like, and has come out the other side.

Taking responsibility for your thoughts and feelings, and doing the things that honor the underlying emotions that spring from change, will serve you well. The good news is that after a time, your feelings will change and you will begin to move from resistance to the exploration of alternatives.It may be helpful to give you a shot at whatever's going on with you right now. In fact, what's coming up right now may be a reflection of exactly what brought you to the decision to read this article.

On a plain piece of paper jot down these items, then write your answers.

Item #1: Think about a change (or possible change) in your life. List some of the reasons you feel resistant to this change.

Item #2: Now list whatever specific ways you can think of to overcome your resistance.

Item #3: What other thoughts, ideas and feelings are you experiencing right now?

Now, here's what I want you to do with this work. Put aside the paper you've been writing on. Forget it...until tomorrow. Then, look at it again. Ask yourself a couple of questions:

- "Have my reasons changed?"

- "Can I think of any new ways to overcome both old and new feelings?"

Write down your answers, and go do the rest of your day.Do this each day for a week and see what happens!

Copyright 2002, 2005 Optimum Performance Associates/Paul McNeese.Paul McNeese is CEO of Optimum Performance Associates, a consulting firm specializing in transitional and transformational change for individuals and institutions through publication. His publishing company, OPA Publishing, is an advocacy for self-publishing authors of informational, instructional, inspirational and insightful nonfiction. Email: pmcneese@opapublishing.comWebsites: http://www.opapublishing.com and http://www.opapresents.com


MORE RESOURCES:

Israeli film provides ample 'Motivation' for enjoyment
Worcester Telegram
"Zero Motivation" is a quirky Israeli film about human bliss and misery that starts and ends with a bus ride. In between, it explores the fragile relationships among several female soldiers — as well as between them and their boss. They are all ...



Engage Workers With Pleasing Perks And Practices; Mix Up Motivation
Investor's Business Daily
"Organizations need to holistically assess on an ongoing basis how they are motivating their team." • Individual palates. A manager who lets staffers bring their dogs to work as a special perk will inevitably annoy those who don't appreciate pooches.



Port Huron Times Herald

Pawlak has extra motivation in Battle Creek
Port Huron Times Herald
“I was pretty upset when I lost my individual chances, but it does motivate me a lot. This is my last chance to prove myself to my team and everyone else. I'm not going to let them down.” As one of the state's best 152-pound wrestlers, Pawlak gives the ...



How Barbara Corcoran Turned Her Ex-Boyfriend's Insults Into Motivation to ...
Entrepreneur
If you're struggling to recover after a bad breakup – or any difficult event, for that matter – this video is for you. Looking back on her early days in the real-estate business, Shark Tank star Barbara Corcoran recalls the moment when her boyfriend ...

and more »


Where there's a will there's a way: Enhancing motivation
Practical Ethics (blog)
There are at least two way we might understand motivation and, correspondingly, at least two ways in which it could be enhanced. The first we might call intrinsic motivation. Intrinsic motivation is the psychological mechanism (and accompanying ...



Blackhawks' Timonen motivated by Stanley Cup aspirations
Comcast SportsNet Chicago
TAMPA, Fla. — Kimmo Timonen was lying in a Finland hospital last summer, pondering his future. The veteran defenseman was stricken with blood clots in his leg and lungs. It would take months but he would recover, and doctors told him if he followed ...

and more »


Quad-Cities Online

Geneseo has extra motivation for matchup with Washington
Quad-Cities Online
Geneseo has extra motivation for matchup with Washington. Geneseo junior wrestler Hunter Grau helped his team with a pin in 2:38 at the Class 2A Geneseo Sectional wrestling meet at Geenseo, Tuesday, Feb. 24, 2015. Buy this photo ...

and more »


South China Morning Post (subscription)

Film review: Zero Motivation - tale of Israeli female soldiers takes risks
South China Morning Post (subscription)
Lavie denies that any of Zero Motivation's characters are based on herself. Still, it's easy enough to conclude that her sympathies lie with the two young female jobnikiotat (Israeli slang for soldiers who don't see combat) at the centre of the film ...
From 'Zero' to Box Office ChampJewish Exponent

all 4 news articles »


NBCSports.com

Webber: Vettel needed fresh motivation in F1
NBCSports.com
Former Red Bull driver Mark Webber believes that ex-teammate Sebastian Vettel needed to find fresh motivation in Formula 1, prompting his move to Ferrari for the 2015 season. Vettel first became associated with the Red Bull brand back in 1999, rising ...

and more »


The motivation equation
Winnipeg Free Press
Are today's employees motivated by a one-time reward or bonus for good work? How long does the pleasant effect of an annual financial bonus last versus recognition in front of one's peers? Then again, are in-kind rewards, such as guest tickets at a ...


Google News


Advertisement



Section Site Map - Submit News - Feedback - Comments - Advertise with Us

Copyright 2006 Luminati Inc. All rights reserved.