Originally Posted by nillamilkshake
I have to agree with you about that chemistry.
If its not there the whole thing is just sorta meh. Might as well. Get off on a rabbit or bullet.
Pretty much. Physical attraction, knowing what your partner likes/wants, wanting to give that to your partner is what makes for fantastic sex.
I think being a giving partner is important as well. Generally you will give more to someone you have feelings for. As you said, if I just wanted to get my knickers wet, I'd grab a vibrator.