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The Mouse
12-26-2002, 12:31 PM
My BDSM, from birth ‘till present.

I remember when ordinary pleasures would arouse me and ultimately fulfill my desires for personal gratification. As I look back upon how I was before, I see how much I have changed as I am some one completely different. No longer will sex or masturbation completely fulfill me like it once did. I have moved forth into a world of s/m, as well as the psychological aspect of domination and bondage. While both sections are quite different, they coexist together in the exploration and understanding of each other. This has been going on for sometime, increasing heavily as time progresses and molding me into who I am today.

My first time was with the sensations of a single-tail whip against the bare flesh of my back. Though beginners don’t usually start with the single-tail because of its intensity, I wanted to feel it for I knew what I wanted from the very start. Completely satisfied after the session as my back throbbed, I sat on the couch with my girlfriend who had come with me. With her sitting next to me on that couch, I knew right then that she could never satisfy me like the whip had; or any girl for that matter. For it was on that night that I was born into the extreme pleasures that pain could bring.

I would go regularly to different bondage and s/m clubs, mainly one named The Dungeon. This is where I met Sal and his students, who were experts and extremely knowledgeable of the world as they made their living in it as well as having extreme passion for it. They generously welcomed me into their circle and invited me to private parties outside of the clubs, where we could greater understand and appreciate this complex world without the boundaries of laws that wrapped around us at the clubs. It is here where I not only was able to reach deep inside of myself and greater understand my needs, but where I learned about the social attributes of the world along with its unspoken rules of the trade.

The term Vanilla refers to the social and economic group of those who are outside of the world of bondage and s/m and are rather closed minded about the whole idea. Like the Vanilla crowd of the world, there are common social attributes that are common within the world of bdsm that may be viewed harshly in the eyes of closed minded, Vanilla. A man, (or woman), is one of three characteristics. The first one is Top, which is the person who drives pleasure from domination and/or the giving of pain. Bottom, is referred to the person who derived pleasure from being submissive and/or receiving pain. And the third, which is harder to come-by, is the person who derives pleasure from being both the Top and Bottom. A Top may have a personal play partner, play with many, or even have a personal full-time slave. Bottom may have an owner, in which case he would be considered “leashed” and no one can play with him unless they asked the owner first.

I am considered a Switch, as I derive pleasure from beating and dominating others; as well as receiving pain. Throughout my involvement and birth into the world of bdsm, I have generally found my preferences and what I enjoy most. As a Bottom I enjoy whipping with a single-tail and a bull-whip across the naked flesh of my back, controlled electrocution, nipple torture, flogging, and newly added to my list of pleasures is the sensation of burning and cutting my own flesh. As a Top I enjoy the thought of pure domination of another person, as well as giving them as much pain as possible, taking pleasure in every moan and movement of their tormented and quivering body.

I have changed in many ways over the past years. To say that the person who lived five years ago is not me; wouldn’t be accurate. I am still who I was, but now I am more complex and understand myself better. Though sexual pleasure is still a strong desire in my life, it is not at the same level as it used to be as I have found other ways to feel gratified and fulfilled. I am still caring, loving, and understanding. I am still the same person, yet I am some one completely different as I am enlightened and born into the more extreme pleasures that this life has to offer. Life is short, I want to experience everything is has to offer me before it is taken away from me.

Tanner Rhoden
12-26-2002, 12:36 PM
I love this guy

Bzob
12-26-2002, 12:39 PM
you love all guys!

lil'surfer girl
12-26-2002, 12:44 PM
Damn, Matt's post literally turned me on....I need to be owned and leashed..I'd make a great "bottom"!!

The Mouse
12-26-2002, 12:47 PM
I'm actually very involved in the major groups of Los Angeles/ Hollywood aswell as the undergournd groups. It's another one of my passions beside fighting. To see a 'real' slave or collared servant of another, whether it be male or female, isn't foreign to me. I'm pretty used to it and wanted to share a little bit of that side with everyone. Seeing as how I am very serious about all of this, I was taking a risk of being made fun of or flamed, but I don't really give a ****, so take it as you will.

The Ensanity
12-26-2002, 12:48 PM
Matt, you are truly hardcore...you kick ass

Tanner Rhoden
12-26-2002, 01:26 PM
Originally posted by Matt Jensen
I'm actually very involved in the major groups of Los Angeles/ Hollywood aswell as the undergournd groups. It's another one of my passions beside fighting. To see a 'real' slave or collared servant of another, whether it be male or female, isn't foreign to me. I'm pretty used to it and wanted to share a little bit of that side with everyone. Seeing as how I am very serious about all of this, I was taking a risk of being made fun of or flamed, but I don't really give a ****, so take it as you will.


You ever been to a place in downtown LA called the Dungeon?

Allison
12-26-2002, 01:28 PM
He just said he frequents that place, dumbass.

lil'surfer girl
12-26-2002, 01:28 PM
Tanner...did you read his initial post?

The Ensanity
12-26-2002, 01:28 PM
Originally posted by Tanner Rhoden
You ever been to a place in downtown LA called the Dungeon? I would go regularly to different bondage and s/m clubs, mainly one named The Dungeon.

Leather
12-26-2002, 01:29 PM
Matt "the undreground fighter" Jensen...Great!! I think the man can have new experiences with drugs, films or like you Matt, with the extreme sex...It's good but I thing that it could be dangerous too.

lil'surfer girl
12-26-2002, 01:29 PM
LMAO....allison owned!

Tanner Rhoden
12-26-2002, 01:31 PM
"I would go regularly to different bondage and s/m clubs, mainly one named The Dungeon."

I stand corrected and yes, I was owned.

Matt, IM me

The Ensanity
12-26-2002, 01:31 PM
Originally posted by Allison
He just said he frequents that place, dumbass. Tanner=

http://www.attrition.org/gallery/computing/forum/owned02.jpg

The Mouse
12-26-2002, 01:33 PM
Matt "the undreground fighter" Jensen...Great!! I think the man can have new experiences with drugs, films or like you Matt, with the extreme sex...It's good but I thing that it could be dangerous too.

The **** you sayin to me? It's not about 'extreme sex'.. i don't use drugs or make films, (although i been offered to do a special on HBO that i turned down).. your conclussions about me are created on a fictional base in your own head, I'm not like that. So **** off with your biased comments.

LukeDothSucketh
12-26-2002, 01:34 PM
WTF happened to the forums??

Tanner Rhoden
12-26-2002, 01:35 PM
Originally posted by Tanner Rhoden
"I would go regularly to different bondage and s/m clubs, mainly one named The Dungeon."

I stand corrected and yes, I was owned.

Matt, IM me



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Leather
12-26-2002, 01:39 PM
Originally posted by Matt Jensen
The **** you sayin to me? It's not about 'extreme sex'.. i don't use drugs or make films, (although i been offered to do a special on HBO that i turned down).. your conclussions about me are created on a fictional base in your own head, I'm not like that. So **** off with your biased comments.

Sorry,sorry,...I said "man" in general, not particular!!
And i said it because I've had the new experience with LSD and it's great but dangerous.
Sorry guy.

Zen
12-26-2002, 01:47 PM
Mr. Jensen, I admire your openness and honesty, I also really respect the knowledge you have of yourself. I think our society really looks down upon people who make an effort to better know and understand themselves if it is outside of the "boundaries" of our main stream society. Keep doing your thing man!

The Mouse
12-26-2002, 01:53 PM
Yea that's true.. most of society has already deamed what is 'right' and 'wrong' and forces everyone to live by that with laws and the concept of 'social status' etc.. Yet one thing that people forget is that some of us don't get pleasure from what is socially acceptaple by the masses. If it brings pleasure some how to an individual, even if it is considered to be wrong by most, should be cherrished and respected.. but rather, it is rejected and shut down by today's society forcing us to keep it under wraps and to be somewhat secretive about the lifestyle. Nothing can be held down forever.. nothing! There will be one day, through our evolution, where it will be accepted like everything else. I may not see that day in my life time, but it will come.. and for that I am thankfull.

Valerie
12-26-2002, 02:44 PM
Matt, you goober! You going to the HAC on New Year's??? I hope so~ Are Sal and them gonna be there or at Blue? I'm thinking they need to add some preggie bondage into the show ::wink, wink::

Tanner Rhoden
12-26-2002, 02:46 PM
Originally posted by Valerie
Matt, you goober! You going to the HAC on New Year's??? I hope so~ Are Sal and them gonna be there or at Blue? I'm thinking they need to add some preggie bondage into the show ::wink, wink::

Blue...........las palmas and hollywood?

Valerie
12-26-2002, 02:48 PM
LOL, well even though you just IM'd me, I'll say on here, yes, that is where Blue is located at. That is where my avatar pic was taken at, back when Stigmata was still open~

The Mouse
12-26-2002, 03:52 PM
haha, I'm sure if u ask them, they will do a session with you up on the stage with pleasure.

Valerie
12-26-2002, 05:22 PM
But I don't know how to ask them...too shy...

Besides, we'll be at different places on New Years I think. But they had some shows going on last year at the HAC, wonder if they will this year too. Last year I was dancing too much, but this year, I won't have anything else to do all night ::wink::

The Mouse
12-26-2002, 05:43 PM
lol.. i dunno.. since last year, the old group has drifted apart... Sal's still there, but the rest of us dont tend to frequent the club anymore cuz of the new vibe.. (its like 90210 now, with bdsm).. the old regulars have stopped goin, and theres a new, less hardcore croud there now it seems.. )= so i dunno what they got planned. I'm gunna ask around. And damnit, you shouldn't be shy!! ****, I've asked for girls before, do I gotta ask them for you too? lol

Valerie
12-27-2002, 02:59 PM
:cool: Yes, yes you do! :)

Pac808
12-27-2002, 06:52 PM
I have an ass fetish, I like giving to girls in the ass, because of course... I feel as if I have dominated them like they will never be again, but thats only if I am the first to do her in the rear. Its no fun if anybody else did it first. Cuz you can always say, I did you in the ass beeatch. I am the sodomizer.

put 'em up
12-27-2002, 07:09 PM
to each his own

Pac808
12-27-2002, 08:33 PM
In fact, even before I saw American Psycho, I used to flex and in the mirror when I was humping my girlfriend, and make her look in the mirror when we was hittin it doggystyle. It was ****ing great. Mirrors are so much fun.

Wilhelm
12-28-2002, 12:43 AM
Originally posted by Valerie
But I don't know how to ask them...too shy...

Besides, we'll be at different places on New Years I think. But they had some shows going on last year at the HAC, wonder if they will this year too. Last year I was dancing too much, but this year, I won't have anything else to do all night ::wink::


I do believe there is a dedicated S&M room this year.



Wilhelm

Fallout
12-28-2002, 01:03 AM
S&M isn't my thing, but I can understand the idea behind it.

Thanks for taking the time to be honest with us Matt, once your UFC or PRIDE champ, I'm gonna smile and tell people that I know that guy

VulgarTheClown
12-28-2002, 02:27 AM
Mat, you are the ****.

You typed up what i wish i could have gotten out long ago but couldn't. S&M did wonders for me as a person both in and out of the scene.

You have gone quite a few steps past myself. I unfortunately had to leave the scene due to lack of $$$$. In Fl it seems to be more about fashion than S&M. Unfortunate.

Valerie
12-28-2002, 02:12 PM
I do believe there is a dedicated S&M room this year.

Well, good! That gives me something to do while you guys are being dancing queens! :crazy2: And you'd better keep me entertained Wilhelm~

Wilhelm
12-28-2002, 03:42 PM
Originally posted by Valerie
Well, good! That gives me something to do while you guys are being dancing queens! :crazy2: And you'd better keep me entertained Wilhelm~


Dont I always? :stupid:




Wilhelm

Valerie
12-28-2002, 07:34 PM
Grrrrrrrrrrrrr :cuss:

He always does that.......

MR. V
08-10-2006, 09:35 PM
Myme; wouldn’t be accurate. I am still who I was, but now I am more complex and understand myself better. Though sexual and born into the more extreme pleasures that this life has to offer. Life is short, I want to experience everything is has to offer me before it is taken away from me.


y was this ever put in the boxing lounge? LAME.

BrooklynBomber
08-10-2006, 09:41 PM
I was at S&M party once, and gotta tell you it was overrated.
On the other hand it was more of a mainstream party, that anyone could get into(well if you know people), but, meh, I did not like it. I actually thought I was gonna see some reafl freaky ****(like women ****in men with a strapon, men viciously gang baning women, etc..) but it was just some lame show, with a sequence from clockwork orange(if you saw that movie, you will understand which sequence) and people only faked it, no real fun.
Oh, well, was not into this to begin with.
Even though me being with a chick who was in a leather outfit and had a whip, immediatly gave me wood.

MR. V
08-10-2006, 09:55 PM
Even though me being with a chick who was in a leather outfit and had a whip, immediatly gave me wood.


ROLMAo. u tripp me out mann. :cool:

BrooklynBomber
08-10-2006, 09:58 PM
ROLMAo. u tripp me out mann. :cool:
I wore a freakin mask, because I was not supposed to be seen at that party, 2 days before my cousin demanded that I pretend to be her sex slave, I told my cousin to **** off and that I am not going there. But a night before the party my girl(well, **** buddy, really) called and invited me. Still that party was overrated.