View Full Version : Biggest hardship in your life?


Smokin'
11-25-2006, 09:01 PM
And how did you endure it and did it make you a better person in the end?

I'm trying to think right now, I've had some but nothing really serious that is worth discussing here.

The Raging Bull
11-25-2006, 09:12 PM
The hardest thing I've ever been through is when I was younger, around 9-10. My mum had been married since I was around 6, and we moved over to Blackburn which was away from all our family in Liverpool. Her husband started hitting her and made her slave around all day looking after him because he supposedly had diabetes.

This really affected me personally because there was nothing anyone could do because my mum wouldn't speak up. When she finally did, she kicked him out and had a restraining order put on him. Then she became clinically depressed because of all the pressure she had been under and this really took its toll on me, especially since I had been watching the way that bastard had been treating her.

During the divorce procedure he kept sending us letters, saying he was going to break into our house and kill us etc. and the police wouldn't do anything about it. So I lived in fear for a good few years waiting for him to return but thankfully he never did.

This is by far the most traumatic period of my life.

phallus
11-25-2006, 09:13 PM
And how did you endure it and did it make you a better person in the end?

I'm trying to think right now, I've had some but nothing really serious that is worth discussing here.



i have a very, very, dysfunctional family. i saw things growing up that no kid should ever see. all i can say is, without my faith in God, i wouldn't be alive today, whether that is good or bad, i can't really say. i can say, it's kept me out of trouble, i can think of several times where i should have been arrested, or where i lost everything, and somehow things always turned around - not because of anything i did. i don't know about any of this "better person" crap, i'm as ****ed up as anybody, but i do know, there's no way i could get through life if i had to do it on my own

Smokin'
11-25-2006, 09:14 PM
The hardest thing I've ever been through is when I was younger, around 9-10. My mum had been married since I was around 6, and we moved over to Blackburn which was away from all our family in Liverpool. Her husband started hitting her and made her slave around all day looking after him because he supposedly had diabetes.

This really affected me personally because there was nothing anyone could do because my mum wouldn't speak up. When she finally did, she kicked him out and had a restraining order put on him. Then she became clinically depressed because of all the pressure she had been under and this really took its toll on me, especially since I had been watching the way that bastard had been treating her.

During the divorce procedure he kept sending us letters, saying he was going to break into our house and kill us etc. and the police wouldn't do anything about it. So I lived in fear for a good few years waiting for him to return but thankfully he never did.

This is by far the most traumatic period of my life.

Damn that's some terrifying ****. Nothing in my life even compares to that. I've had a ton of little hardships - most of which I have all endured with flying colours which is why I attribute myself to having a good sense of confidence in daily life.

phallus
11-25-2006, 09:17 PM
The hardest thing I've ever been through is when I was younger, around 9-10. My mum had been married since I was around 6, and we moved over to Blackburn which was away from all our family in Liverpool. Her husband started hitting her and made her slave around all day looking after him because he supposedly had diabetes.

This really affected me personally because there was nothing anyone could do because my mum wouldn't speak up. When she finally did, she kicked him out and had a restraining order put on him. Then she became clinically depressed because of all the pressure she had been under and this really took its toll on me, especially since I had been watching the way that bastard had been treating her.

During the divorce procedure he kept sending us letters, saying he was going to break into our house and kill us etc. and the police wouldn't do anything about it. So I lived in fear for a good few years waiting for him to return but thankfully he never did.

This is by far the most traumatic period of my life.


something like that stays with u for the rest of your life

The Raging Bull
11-25-2006, 09:18 PM
Damn that's some terrifying ****. Nothing in my life even compares to that. I've had a ton of little hardships - most of which I have all endured with flying colours which is why I attribute myself to having a good sense of confidence in daily life.

It was hell the five or so years he was with us. I don't really talk about it much, but it's always good to let things out.

"What doesn't kill you can only make you stronger".

Smokin'
11-25-2006, 09:20 PM
It was hell the five or so years he was with us. I don't really talk about it much, but it's always good to let things out.

"What doesn't kill you can only make you stronger".

That quote is true as hell. That's why no one should regret ANYTHING they do unless it's something like murder or a mortal sin because every single experience good or bad makes you a better person.

The Raging Bull
11-25-2006, 09:22 PM
That quote is true as hell. That's why no one should regret ANYTHING they do unless it's something like murder or a mortal sin because every single experience good or bad makes you a better person.

Yep I say it a lot when I'm feeling down or I've done something wrong. What is the most scared you have ever been?

Smokin'
11-25-2006, 09:25 PM
Yep I say it a lot when I'm feeling down or I've done something wrong. What is the most scared you have ever been?

I can't really think of many man...

There was the one time where I was almost kidnapped but that was when I was around 10. I've had **** loads of times where my manhood & inner strength was tested and most of the time I got through it...but sometimes I didn't.

The Raging Bull
11-25-2006, 09:29 PM
I can't really think of many man...

There was the one time where I was almost kidnapped but that was when I was around 10. I've had **** loads of times where my manhood & inner strength was tested and most of the time I got through it...but sometimes I didn't.

I would seriously **** it if I was kidnapped. Life is just a test to shape your personaly and character. Everyone faces tough times in their life. That's what I think.

Smokin'
11-25-2006, 09:31 PM
I would seriously **** it if I was kidnapped. Life is just a test to shape your personaly and character. Everyone faces tough times in their life. That's what I think.

Yeah imagine how much it would suck if all you had to do was coast, try a little and you would have everything you wanted. How fun is that?

The Raging Bull
11-25-2006, 09:32 PM
Yeah imagine how much it would suck if all you had to do was coast, try a little and you would have everything you wanted. How fun is that?

Exactly. It's good to look back on things and say "I got throught that", or just laugh.

phallus
11-25-2006, 09:34 PM
Exactly. It's good to look back on things and say "I got throught that", or just laugh.

when i look back on things, i think, " how the **** did get away with that?"

Smokin'
11-25-2006, 09:36 PM
when i look back on things, i think, " how the **** did get away with that?"

Yeah I've done some illegal **** that could of definitely ****ed me over a lot, I'm glad I learned from a couple close calls and stopped doing what I was doing.

phallus
11-25-2006, 09:39 PM
Yeah I've done some illegal **** that could of definitely ****ed me over a lot, I'm glad I learned from a couple close calls and stopped doing what I was doing.

yeah, there was one time i should have got charged with assault - i beat the **** out of another guy i went to school with just because he pissed me off. i should have done time for that, but he was so scared after he said nothing. even the witnesses, and there were lots, could have turned me in, but none of them did. i still can't believe that

Smokin'
11-25-2006, 09:41 PM
yeah, there was one time i should have got charged with assault - i beat the **** out of another guy i went to school with just because he pissed me off. i should have done time for that, but he was so scared after he said nothing. even the witnesses, and there were lots, could have turned me in, but none of them did. i still can't believe that

Sounds like a bully to me, no offense. Or just some good ol fashioned good luck.

I was doing a little bit of illegal **** about 4 or 5 months ago. Stealing from clothing stores b/c I was broke, stealing from cars late at night with a couple buddies, and some other trivial stupid ****. Thank God I'm done with that stage which only lasted about 1 month thankfully.

PacmanP4p1
11-25-2006, 09:47 PM
everyday of my life is hard

phallus
11-25-2006, 09:47 PM
Sounds like a bully to me, no offense. Or just some good ol fashioned good luck.

I was doing a little bit of illegal **** about 4 or 5 months ago. Stealing from clothing stores b/c I was broke, stealing from cars late at night with a couple buddies, and some other trivial stupid ****. Thank God I'm done with that stage which only lasted about 1 month thankfully.

ten years ago i wouldn't have had a problem with doing anything illegal, now i just think about getting caught. everybody's luck runs out eventually, i figure now it's time to stay out of trouble... when i beat up that guy, i just snapped one day, the dude had been getting in my face for a year. i never planned to do anything, i just lost my temper. before that, i hadn;t been that angry at someone for years

Smokin'
11-25-2006, 09:51 PM
ten years ago i wouldn't have had a problem with doing anything illegal, now i just think about getting caught. everybody's luck runs out eventually, i figure now it's time to stay out of trouble... when i beat up that guy, i just snapped one day, the dude had been getting in my face for a year. i never planned to do anything, i just lost my temper. before that, i hadn;t been that angry at someone for years
Yeah exactly. I had a couple of close calls (I was in a dudes garage ****ing around when I heard the cop helicopters in the vicinity) and I just decided to ****ing stop b/c my luck would run out sooner or later and the risk far outweight the reward.

as for beating the **** out of the guy...if you would of nipped the problem in the bud (made the guy respect you) that situation never would of happened.

phallus
11-25-2006, 09:56 PM
Yeah exactly. I had a couple of close calls (I was in a dudes garage ****ing around when I heard the cop helicopters in the vicinity) and I just decided to ****ing stop b/c my luck would run out sooner or later and the risk far outweight the reward.

as for beating the **** out of the guy...if you would of nipped the problem in the bud (made the guy respect you) that situation never would of happened.

yeah, i handle things a lot differently now... otherwise stuff can get out of control

Hard Boiled HK
11-25-2006, 10:09 PM
*Sigh* my hardship is about to begin real soon.

evilp0ptart
11-25-2006, 10:37 PM
Sounds like a bully to me, no offense. Or just some good ol fashioned good luck.

I was doing a little bit of illegal **** about 4 or 5 months ago. Stealing from clothing stores b/c I was broke, stealing from cars late at night with a couple buddies, and some other trivial stupid ****. Thank God I'm done with that stage which only lasted about 1 month thankfully.

Ha, boy do I know alot about that. Unfortunately, I guess I got the bad side of what you got. I got more and more addicted to it as time went on and we kept doing worse and worse stuff and we did get caught, this was almost 2 years ago and still paying for it.

I dont regret it one bit =)

* FeistyWench *
11-26-2006, 08:28 AM
And how did you endure it and did it make you a better person in the end?

I'm trying to think right now, I've had some but nothing really serious that is worth discussing here.

when faced with hardships, i go into denial mode a bit. i just refuse to let myself dwell on it or think about it too much. i just do what i have to do to get through it. i am a great problem solver so i try to be proactive and figure out a way to "solve" the situation or to get through it. plus my hardships are never too long lasting. i just remind myself that i can get through it. i also try to take the mindset of it can ALWAYS be worse and to be lucky for whatever good there is in my life. and if all else fails just be happy to be alive cuz in the end, no matter what, i feel life is better than death.

* FeistyWench *
11-26-2006, 08:40 AM
I can't really think of many man...

There was the one time where I was almost kidnapped but that was when I was around 10. I've had **** loads of times where my manhood & inner strength was tested and most of the time I got through it...but sometimes I didn't.

when i was in kindergarten, i was fairly adventurous. i explored my neighborhood and walked home alone. there was this old guy who was really friendly and always seemed to be out in his yard. he seemed lonely but very nice. he bought a puppy and i used to play with it in his yard. i didn't even know the guy's name. one day he he lured me into his house and tried to trap me in his bathroom. i will spare you the details. but by some miracle i escaped. no one knew i visited this guy and who knows what exactly this guy had in mind - rape or murder - who knows.
scary stuff...

eazy_mas
11-26-2006, 09:22 AM
i have couple of these hardship and comebacks and hardships.

the biggest i dont know but some of these hardship is when i feel everybody is against me and not one is with me or at least to help me. but it looks like i a, a person people love to hate even if i dont do anything.

thank God for the family and friends i have.
Yes it help me to release not everyone is your friend and not everyone is as same as you are. now i could read people though i bit but not that could but sometimes i know what this person is going to do so most of the time i dont have big expectation on many people because i was let down and backstabbed more than once that there isnt a place for a knife to put in my back.

flipside
11-26-2006, 10:04 AM
when my girl got pregnant. that was a tough time for me. i was going to law school after i graduate from college but she got pregnant so i had to stop and i was a lazy mother****a i didnt know if i could feed my fam. moms was hella mad but was very happy when she saw her grandson. found a job and kept it and going to law school next term :D

THE REAL NINJA
11-26-2006, 12:35 PM
The hardest thing I've ever been through is when I was younger, around 9-10. My mum had been married since I was around 6, and we moved over to Blackburn which was away from all our family in Liverpool. Her husband started hitting her and made her slave around all day looking after him because he supposedly had diabetes.

This really affected me personally because there was nothing anyone could do because my mum wouldn't speak up. When she finally did, she kicked him out and had a restraining order put on him. Then she became clinically depressed because of all the pressure she had been under and this really took its toll on me, especially since I had been watching the way that bastard had been treating her.

During the divorce procedure he kept sending us letters, saying he was going to break into our house and kill us etc. and the police wouldn't do anything about it. So I lived in fear for a good few years waiting for him to return but thankfully he never did.

This is by far the most traumatic period of my life.

Same thing but my former stepdad was a drunk and crackhead . He would be gone for weeks at a time then come home yelling and want to hit her. I was around 13 when they got together i'd fight him but he was built and would overpower me with no prob . Until oneday he told me no matter how old he gets or how strong I get he will always have his way . YUP YUP so I started to lift weights 3-4 times a day took wrestling at school read ever boxing /martial arts book I could find and fought everyone willing in the streets at school didn't matter . I learned a lot and soon found that I didn't fear pain or being hit anymore . I always promised from an early age that I would never let someone hurt my mom because I seen what the damage that my grandfather killing my grandmother has had on the family . I have always kept this in mind and have made whatever sacrifice needed to end the curse of past violence. Anyway as I got older I started to get the upperhand in every conflict until finaly she had the courage to kick him out . I still see him evry once in a while walking the streets up to no good i'm sure . And have talked to him a few times I know he's not a bad man and is sorry but a part of me always want's to knock his ass out . But I don't I got him out of my life and that's what I wanted so I look past it .

platinummatt!
11-26-2006, 12:49 PM
Man, what happened to that old guy? did you tell anyone

* FeistyWench *
11-26-2006, 02:25 PM
Man, what happened to that old guy? did you tell anyone

matty, you have got to start hitting reply when you ask a question so people know who you are talking to (addressing). lol! :cop:

if you were referring to me, i told my brother and begged him not to tell my mom, but of course, he did. since the guy never got an opportunity to hurt me and since it was a 5 year-old's vs. his word, nothing happened. however, my step-dad was an italian with a mean temper and i am sure he scared the hell out of this guy with some threat. my guess is the cops kept an eye on him too. we ended up moving within the year so i never saw him again.

platinummatt!
11-26-2006, 02:27 PM
matty, you have got to start hitting reply when you ask a question so people know who you are talking to (addressing). lol! :cop:

if you were referring to me, i told my brother and begged him not to tell my mom, but of course, he did. since the guy never got an opportunity to hurt me and since it was a 5 year-old's vs. his word, nothing happened. however, my step-dad was an italian with a mean temper and i am sure he scared the hell out of this guy with some threat. my guess is the cops kept an eye on him too. we ended up moving within the year so i never saw him again.

Oh right cool, yeh I was referring to you, and yes I should show who I am reffering toi

platinummatt!
11-26-2006, 02:28 PM
*Sigh* my hardship is about to begin real soon.

Whys that man?

Larry Merchant
11-26-2006, 02:31 PM
I have a small penis.

Oasis_Lad
11-26-2006, 02:31 PM
my dad, two of my cousins and two of my uncles all died within months of each other in the same year. that was pretty tough to deal with

Larry Merchant
11-26-2006, 02:31 PM
just kidding

Oasis_Lad
11-26-2006, 02:32 PM
I have a small penis.

poor sod! :(

The Raging Bull
11-27-2006, 08:13 AM
my dad, two of my cousins and two of my uncles all died within months of each other in the same year. that was pretty tough to deal with

I feel for you man. I wouldn't wish that on anyone, and I'm glad no-one close to me has ever died.

MANGLER
01-02-2010, 02:44 AM
And how did you endure it and did it make you a better person in the end?

I'm trying to think right now, I've had some but nothing really serious that is worth discussing here.

My planned marriage fallin apart was nasty. Go from lovin a ***** to hatin her almost overnight. **** was awful.

I just learned that trustin people is a guaranteed fail. Maybe not right away, but they'll turn on you eventually. Now I just don't **** wit trust as far as people who ain't got the same blood in their veins as me.