Sex, Flirting etc...cheating? why or why not?

Its gay, you're probably talking to someone of the same sex and you don't know it

that is a good question but hell if I know! :lol:

lets say it has led to telephone conversation...so you know its a person of the opposite sex / or the same depending on your sexual preference

[quote:814e15eae7="Kato"]lets say it has led to telephone conversation...so you know its a person of the opposite sex / or the same depending on your sexual preference[/quote:814e15eae7]

I'm pretty sure I have NEVER done anything like that before *batting eyes*

:lol:

I'm pretty sure bob is gonna read this anf be unhappy :(

I'd say it was cheating of you lied to your siginficant other about it or tried to hide it and sneak around.

May not be as bad as physical cheating, but on some level, you are compromising the trust in your realtionship.

God damn right its cheating? Why do you ask!?
Say hello to my little friend. (machine gun sounds)

I am with LSG on this one, any kind of romantic interludes outside of a relationship is cheating. I am the jealous type, but I think everyone is.

my friends mom talked to some guy online and ended up having an affair with him, she said he was a player adn that was his goal praying on weak women who are pissed cause there husbands are insensative wth bad comunication.

whihc brings up the father

is watching **** instead of attending to your woman cheating?

it was only a question my love, I agree with everyone here so far, but I've heard people that are in denial.

As far a **** is concerned I dont think its cheating, there is not sentimental/sexual connection between one living being and another. Now if you are watching **** instead of having sex, then there is something wrong that should be discussed... not all people are open minded so many people tend to fantisize.

I feel that anything you do that you keep away from your partner is some sort of unfaithful action on your part. That being going out with a friend of the opposite sex for lunch, having long personal discussions, etc. Not only in cyberspace.

LSG and Waylander hit the nail on the head this time.

well.. i dont think so.. if so a lot of folks cheat!

but of course u wouldnt be glad if my gf told me that she has net-sex with a dude all the time!

and if it involves web-cams its cheating for sure!!

Of course it's cheating.

And as we all know, infidelity should always be punished via disembowlment.

What if your "partner" has went out and physically slept with your enemy, is it then wrong of you to do it back. I mean I know 2 wrongs don't make a right but what should that person do?

[quote:3585fc06af="Big_Papa"]What if your "partner" has went out and physically slept with your enemy, is it then wrong of you to do it back. I mean I know 2 wrongs don't make a right but what should that person do?[/quote:3585fc06af]

Do you mean is it ok to cheat when cheated? if you feel the need to do so, then I do not believe staying together is the answer. End the relationship before you get yourself in the mud... that is no life...to live in mistrust and resentment

Im not jeaulous as long as the intercourse is in the computer its ok for me.

Cyber sex is stupid, and no I don't think it's cheating.
But, if this "friendship" over the net grows into phone calls, well then I'll have a problem.

Dude!!! You guys are hardcore!! Don't forget, some people have different perimeters already agreed to in their relationship.

For instance, was this cheating?
I satisfy my man as much as he wants. But he's a busy man working to bring in money for both of us right now and I'm afraid my sex drive is a bit over the top, plus we have somewhat different ideas of what is a turn on. He knows I'm a **** puruser par excellance! So, last night a friend of ours, whom we see practically every weekend, sent me some kick ass sites and then did a little cybering just for fun. She's so good at that! And she has that phone sex voice too! She's such a sweetie! Anyway, the point is 1) I know her, and 2) she's is a female. My honey has no problem with women what so ever. Heh heh, he's like the more the merrier! :wink: But meeting up with some man or talking to him on the phone would be another matter entirely. I think just flirting on the Net with a man (just a little bit- like what happens in posts sometimes- when its just in jest), he'd roll his eyes and call me a hussy, but it doesn't go beyond that.
I hope that made some sort of sense~

Disembowlment...

And by that I mean it should happen to you.

awww Lei Tong! How sweet! I live less than 40 minutes from you. Be a man and come do it yourself

Nope, because I have enough self control to not let myself do such a thing, just like I have enough self control as to not need a meaningless fling over the internet.

Besides, you're a teacher... and I wouldn't want to emotionally scar the little bastards.

Oh Lei Tong! You're such a big strong man! Don't be a *****! Its easy to make threats over the Internet, isn't it? Why don't you be a man and back those harsh words of yours up? Come on. I'm waiting for you.

OK, I have a bad temper, that's for sure, but I'd never advocate spousal abuse as you seem to be. You sound eerily familiar to another poster on another forum. He also basically said, smack the ***** around if you don't like the situation. He also had difficulties reading (or perhaps comprehending) what I posted. So, let me spell it out for you:
[b:9649aa9091]If you think that my 36 year old, married with three children girlfriend who has been here for me throughout my pregnancy is a threat to my husband's manhood and my marriage because she IM's me that she's gonna take me over her knee and smack my ass for not answering her email, well, you have a much different view of the world than we do.[/b:9649aa9091]

Or perhaps we just have different views of what cybering is?
My definition: any mention of sexual activity while on the Internet
So you see, my parameters may be set differently than others.

So, please, either be respectful (and I will be to you) or come out here and do what you threatened~

Whew! Antsy pregger chicks, eh?...........maybe I need something to eat.........::rummages threw empty pantry:: :(

I never threatened you. Threatening would've been saying "I should come over there and BLAH-BLAH."

I was simply stating my disdain by saying I think someone who would advocate what I consider to be unfaithfulness should be punished in a rather extreme form.

Also, I do not advocate spousal abuse. I personally turned in my cousin for such a crime. My view that unfaithfulness should be harshly punished applies to people of either gender. If it had been a guy instead of you, I would have been just as harsh with my words.

Finally, yes, we apparently do have a difference of opinion on what "cyber'ing" is and isn't. I don't consider your example as such (although I don't condone it), but like i said, we have different ideas as to what constitutes "cyber'ing," so I still don't know what your's is, exactly.

If I misunderstood what you said, I apologize.

However, if you are indeed condoning anything further than that, I stand by my previous statements.

Alrighty, I apologize too~ :)

yeah so how bout that laker/dodger game eh?

:lol:

daymn...

this thread took a weird turn.

in this honor: what do you define cybering to be?

Roleplaying out sex with one another over a text interface on the internet or other means of computer communication.

I agree with your definition.

Sex, Flirting etc...cheating? why or why not?
It depends on the mindset of the individual doing it. I know girls who would get off on seeing their husband/boyfriend watching a live cam of some other girl. Some people just get into the dirty talk - those seeking an emotional connection, or who are reacting to anger with their partner - they're cheating emotionally...

I think most of us wouldn't feel like we committed an awful sin because we flirted with an e-person with no intention of every seeing, talking to, or interacting with in any capacity, the real person typing into the keyboard on the other computer