Hey fellas,
First of all, I apologize for clogging up the boards with semi-dramatic, poor-me crap. Thats not the intention. I just figured if I dissapear, some of the guys I talk to might wonder why. I'm 22, been boxing for 2 months, and tonight was my first time sparring. Well, I have never had my confidence killed so badly, ever. Me and another guy who's been boxing for far less time than me, less coordinated, poor technique, etc. My trainers have been telling me I'm making good progress, etc. Well, we get in the ring and I found out two things.
One - I have a good chin.
Two - I have no talent for boxing at all.

First, the guy was hitting me so often that my coach told him to focus on speed and not throw so hard. Then, I'm still getting hit in vast quantities, so coach tells the other guy to jab only. What happens? My ass is still getting kicked. So eventually the guy feels sorry for me and starts throwing slow jabs (because my coach tells me that I need to work on slipping; really?) and I still can't hit him. Everyone in the gym is yelling "move, fight back!" and I'm trying, and failing. I wanted to experience what its like to box, and I did, and I suck. No big deal, I guess, but I refuse to embarass my gym by putting on a performance like that in two weeks. Since I discovered my total lack of boxing ability, I won't be giving any more advice, because if advice comes from someone who can't do what they say, it is suspect anyway. Just wanted to let you guys know that if you think you have it rough, you might, but I was one step away from being wrapped in leather and suspended by chains from the roof.

If you guys will excuse me, I have some aleve to take and a headache to cope with.

Keep the faith, fellas.

You don't know but what the guy is really skilled. 2 months isn't enough time to even learn how to climb in the ring. But, if you don't have the heart to fight, noone can give you that. So maybe you should give it up....

u got arturo gatti in youre avatar?he would call u a *****,i heard barerra cried the first time he went to boxing,look at him now,u have been boxin for 2 months,thats about the same as me,im not gonna go into the ring with confidence cause i have nothin to be confident about in terms of boxing,i beleive in myself yes,but i cant expect to be brilliant after 2 months,2 months is jack ****,get back down to the gym and be a warrior like that man in ur avatar

bro, i know what u mean...but to a less intense degree

it couldve been just a bad day...

**** happens...sorta a similar situation i had but i had to fight a guy 30 lbs. less than me, so it wasnt that bad

its that all?
i agree yrrej, u got Gatti in your avatar... he would call u a *****.

even the best have bad days, all the best fighters have off days, just keep going to gym and learning, u only a novice, the real learning starts when u jump in the ring for bouts.

I seen KT dominated and many other great fighters dominated in sparring, sparring is about learning, getting technique rhthym down and trying new things, sparring aint meant for bashing ya sparring partner.
I always show up most respect for my sparring partners, becos not everyone has enuff balls to jump in square ring.

we all have had similar days... if boxing was all fun and games and always winning, then we would all be doing it!

Man jst get bac in the ring, and always fight with confidence u hav to think ur good to be good

Hey fellas,
First of all, I apologize for clogging up the boards with semi-dramatic, poor-me crap. Thats not the intention. I just figured if I dissapear, some of the guys I talk to might wonder why. I'm 22, been boxing for 2 months, and tonight was my first time sparring. Well, I have never had my confidence killed so badly, ever. Me and another guy who's been boxing for far less time than me, less coordinated, poor technique, etc. My trainers have been telling me I'm making good progress, etc. Well, we get in the ring and I found out two things.
One - I have a good chin.
Two - I have no talent for boxing at all.

First, the guy was hitting me so often that my coach told him to focus on speed and not throw so hard. Then, I'm still getting hit in vast quantities, so coach tells the other guy to jab only. What happens? My ass is still getting kicked. So eventually the guy feels sorry for me and starts throwing slow jabs (because my coach tells me that I need to work on slipping; really?) and I still can't hit him. Everyone in the gym is yelling "move, fight back!" and I'm trying, and failing. I wanted to experience what its like to box, and I did, and I suck. No big deal, I guess, but I refuse to embarass my gym by putting on a performance like that in two weeks. Since I discovered my total lack of boxing ability, I won't be giving any more advice, because if advice comes from someone who can't do what they say, it is suspect anyway. Just wanted to let you guys know that if you think you have it rough, you might, but I was one step away from being wrapped in leather and suspended by chains from the roof.

If you guys will excuse me, I have some aleve to take and a headache to cope with.

Keep the faith, fellas.

well when I first sparred I was in with a guy who'd only been boxing about a year longer than me and he totally kicked my ass. I head a head ache for like 3 weeks afterwoods and I was embarrassed at how badly I performed.
I stuck with it and a few sparring sessions and hard work later we were competing on equal terms. These days whenever we spar I've got his number, so with time you can improve at anything.
Hope you don't totally give up bro.

stuff like that happens your first spar. i was swinging wildly on my first spar and hardly connecting.ahaha.u just have to adjust,well at least u finally know what it feels like to be a boxer,makes u think higher of the ppl that r in the ring doing it professionally

word...i always thought it was easy going for 15 rounds at "only" 3 minutes...

yet i couldnt breathe after 2 rounds :D

word...i always thought it was easy going for 15 rounds at "only" 3 minutes...

yet i couldnt breathe after 2 rounds :D

it seems so easy on t.v huh.ahaha.

Hey fellas,
First of all, I apologize for clogging up the boards with semi-dramatic, poor-me crap. Thats not the intention. I just figured if I dissapear, some of the guys I talk to might wonder why. I'm 22, been boxing for 2 months, and tonight was my first time sparring. Well, I have never had my confidence killed so badly, ever. Me and another guy who's been boxing for far less time than me, less coordinated, poor technique, etc. My trainers have been telling me I'm making good progress, etc. Well, we get in the ring and I found out two things.
One - I have a good chin.
Two - I have no talent for boxing at all.

First, the guy was hitting me so often that my coach told him to focus on speed and not throw so hard. Then, I'm still getting hit in vast quantities, so coach tells the other guy to jab only. What happens? My ass is still getting kicked. So eventually the guy feels sorry for me and starts throwing slow jabs (because my coach tells me that I need to work on slipping; really?) and I still can't hit him. Everyone in the gym is yelling "move, fight back!" and I'm trying, and failing. I wanted to experience what its like to box, and I did, and I suck. No big deal, I guess, but I refuse to embarass my gym by putting on a performance like that in two weeks. Since I discovered my total lack of boxing ability, I won't be giving any more advice, because if advice comes from someone who can't do what they say, it is suspect anyway. Just wanted to let you guys know that if you think you have it rough, you might, but I was one step away from being wrapped in leather and suspended by chains from the roof.

If you guys will excuse me, I have some aleve to take and a headache to cope with.

Keep the faith, fellas.

every time u step up, u're gonna get humbled, u should learn to deal with it now. 2 months isn't enough time to develop any skills, u need solid fundamentals to beat those guys. think about what happened to u and og back to the gym and train harder, one day it'll be u handing some noob his ass

First time I sparred I got my ass handed to me too. My coach made me just stop half way through the first round because my opponent didnt miss with a single punch, and I landed maybe ten at most. Nothing surprising that you got your ass kicked. I once read the first time Ali sparred he barely did enough to beat the other guy, who was a complete begginer like himself.

Why would you want to quit and go out like that? You're supposed to get motivated to train harder after this.

First time I sparred I got my ass handed to me too. My coach made me just stop half way through the first round because my opponent didnt miss with a single punch, and I landed maybe ten at most. Nothing surprising that you got your ass kicked. I once read the first time Ali sparred he barely did enough to beat the other guy, who was a complete begginer like himself.

Why would you want to quit and go out like that? You're supposed to get motivated to train harder after this.

almost every fight i've ever had was against a better fighter than me. i was an amateur, but i got the chance to spar against a local club fighter, a professional, he handed me my ass. it pissed me off, so i went back to the gym and trained harder. a few months later i sparred him again, the first time i wasn't able to hit him, the second time i was, and i caught the ****er good with a big right hand. after we were done, he shook my hand and said i was a much better fighter than the first time.

one of my favorite fighters is lamon brewster, for this reason - no matter how bad he's losing, he never stops trying to win the fight

Brewster is a throwback to the old heavyweights. The Wlad fight was an awesome display of chin and persistence. I just wish he'd get himself into old school shape and lose the doughnut around the waist. He'd be a killer at 210-215 lbs.

Brewster is a throwback to the old heavyweights. The Wlad fight was an awesome display of chin and persistence. I just wish he'd get himself into old school shape and lose the doughnut around the waist. He'd be a killer at 210-215 lbs.

if brewster was better skilled, he'd be the modern joe frazier. i became a fan of brew's for life during the wlad fight, because of the way he kept getting up ( five times, in fact ) and he knocked wlad out. brew is an old school heavyweight, that must be why i like him so much

I agree about the Frazier thing too. Do or die attitude, big left hook, strong chin, fight like it's their last day on earth.

You have good tastes in fighters for sure. I just wish Brewster would come to fight in great shape. He's clearly the best American heavyweight.

If your going to quit when ever something starts to get hard in life, then your not really going to be successful in life let alone be a good boxer.

It takes time and dedication and confidence, just dont give up straight away like this, start believing in yourself then who knows what you will be able to achieve.

don't ****ing quit, give it a few weeks and you'll not know yourself. theres always gonna be hard times and setbacks, who gives a ****, a year from today you could be the best boxer in your gym. get back in there now!

Hate to say it, but quit bein a wuss.

My first thumping was back in my old kung fu class when i was 17 years old. A guy I'd tooled in sparring almost a year earlier trained hard, came back, and broke my foot en route to kickin my azz.

I didn't spar again for a long time, like years.

When I did, it was at another kung fu school and I got beat down by all the seniors there. It stunk, I got rocked by these little dudes, but i kept at it and improved. Unfortunately that wasn't the end of me getting trounced at that school, a huge noobie at that school came in and started going full out with throws on me, with no notice- I didn't hold up too well. I had to move after that and never got my rematch.

Unfortunately getting trounced happens.
Years later, been boxing & kickboxing a few years and I still get my butt handed to me occasionally by smaller, faster guys with less experience. Sometimes we all just have bad days.

Whether you're truly a boxer or not has little to do with how well you do in every single sparring session; but in how well you bounce back when you suffer set backs.

A positive mental attitude is a hard thing to maintain- and by that I mean a mental attitude that keeps you moving forward instead of taking 4 steps back, not just being upbeat. A lot of times you're going to want to give up. You need to embrace the trauma of that situation and work harder to make sure the next time it happens, you're more prepared.

Hey fellas,
First of all, I apologize for clogging up the boards with semi-dramatic, poor-me crap. Thats not the intention. I just figured if I dissapear, some of the guys I talk to might wonder why. I'm 22, been boxing for 2 months, and tonight was my first time sparring. Well, I have never had my confidence killed so badly, ever. Me and another guy who's been boxing for far less time than me, less coordinated, poor technique, etc. My trainers have been telling me I'm making good progress, etc. Well, we get in the ring and I found out two things.
One - I have a good chin.
Two - I have no talent for boxing at all.

First, the guy was hitting me so often that my coach told him to focus on speed and not throw so hard. Then, I'm still getting hit in vast quantities, so coach tells the other guy to jab only. What happens? My ass is still getting kicked. So eventually the guy feels sorry for me and starts throwing slow jabs (because my coach tells me that I need to work on slipping; really?) and I still can't hit him. Everyone in the gym is yelling "move, fight back!" and I'm trying, and failing. I wanted to experience what its like to box, and I did, and I suck. No big deal, I guess, but I refuse to embarass my gym by putting on a performance like that in two weeks. Since I discovered my total lack of boxing ability, I won't be giving any more advice, because if advice comes from someone who can't do what they say, it is suspect anyway. Just wanted to let you guys know that if you think you have it rough, you might, but I was one step away from being wrapped in leather and suspended by chains from the roof.

If you guys will excuse me, I have some aleve to take and a headache to cope with.

Keep the faith, fellas.

no matter how hard something is dont' ever quit on bad terms like that.. all that means is train harder.... you gotta desire the fight.. maybe you should have moved around more.. you have to have a passion for the fight also maybe that guy was more nervous than you and he felt he had to prove himself.. it's not the dog in the fight it's the fight in the dog..

Sparring and getting your ass kicked are both part of the learning experience. I did a lot of it back in my karate and later kung fu days. You have bad days and good days but when you have a bad day, you have to see it as an opportunity to learn what you did wrong in that day and work on correcting the problem. Look, Bernard Hopkins lost his first pro fight and look what he went on to achieve.
When I was in 8th grade and 13 years old, we used to have these sparring matches in the locker room in gym class when the gym teacher wasn't in the area. I was taking karate at the time so the resident 8th grader (this was his third year in 8th grade and he was 16 when all the rest of us were 13 and 14) challenged me to a sparring match to "test" my karate. His name was Rich and he was bigger than me, not taller, but much stockier and certainly much stronger than I was at the time. Plus, he had been in many of the school fights so he was much more experienced than I was in fighting. I accepted the challenge.
Needless to say, he kicked my ass and even accidently (supposedly) nailed me in the balls with a low kick, taking me out of the fight, so to speak. But I got a few shots on him too. I won respect of many of my classmates for stepping up to him and I even won Rich's respect. He offered me a second match, probably not expecting me to accept it. I took it and the second time I did much better against him and felt that I had already taken his best. I'd still say he "won" the match, he got more on me than I did him but it was a learning experience and I managed to hold my own with him much better than the first time. It was a big confidence builder for me. Needless to say, Rich didn't want a third match and he and I were friendly until he finally dropped out of school.
It's not that you lose in the end, it's how you pick yourself up and become better as a result of losing that defines you.

It was your first time sparring big deal , what were you expecting to be like? Mike tyson? you have only been training 2 months and so what if you got out classed by someone whos not been there as long as you , he may go on to be a really good boxer.Plus you have lots of time to improve.
My first sparring session was with a pro i got my ass whooped but i didnt decide to quit
Boxing is a really hard sport if not one of the hardest.
If your gonna call it a day at that theres not much hope for you.

man the **** up dude. if you cant take an ass kicking, then youre not gonna have success wherever you go after quitting boxing.

I've seen enough of your posts to safely make the assumtion you are a pretty cool kid, You seem to want to learn. So you have learned your first and quite possibly most important lesson. This is hard. Very hard. I will guarantee that it will be the hardest thing you do when you add up the physical mental and emotional toll. But what doesn't kill you WILL only make you stronger. I'm not going to patronize you. You're at a crossroad that we all come to in this game. "is it worth it" I'll say one thing. Get over this hump, learn the game and what ever life throws at you from now on will be easy. All of the suddon the easy just gets easier.

Hey fellas,
First of all, I apologize for clogging up the boards with semi-dramatic, poor-me crap. Thats not the intention. I just figured if I dissapear, some of the guys I talk to might wonder why. I'm 22, been boxing for 2 months, and tonight was my first time sparring. Well, I have never had my confidence killed so badly, ever. Me and another guy who's been boxing for far less time than me, less coordinated, poor technique, etc. My trainers have been telling me I'm making good progress, etc. Well, we get in the ring and I found out two things.
One - I have a good chin.
Two - I have no talent for boxing at all.

First, the guy was hitting me so often that my coach told him to focus on speed and not throw so hard. Then, I'm still getting hit in vast quantities, so coach tells the other guy to jab only. What happens? My ass is still getting kicked. So eventually the guy feels sorry for me and starts throwing slow jabs (because my coach tells me that I need to work on slipping; really?) and I still can't hit him. Everyone in the gym is yelling "move, fight back!" and I'm trying, and failing. I wanted to experience what its like to box, and I did, and I suck. No big deal, I guess, but I refuse to embarass my gym by putting on a performance like that in two weeks. Since I discovered my total lack of boxing ability, I won't be giving any more advice, because if advice comes from someone who can't do what they say, it is suspect anyway. Just wanted to let you guys know that if you think you have it rough, you might, but I was one step away from being wrapped in leather and suspended by chains from the roof.

If you guys will excuse me, I have some aleve to take and a headache to cope with.

Keep the faith, fellas.

Its the fighter that returns the next day for more, thats the way you do it. ...............Rockin':boxing:

Boxing shows a mans true colours. Are u gonna quit cause things are too hard, or are u gonna be mentally strong and learn from this experience and take the rough road till u get better.This is make or break time.

U will find that boxing and what it teachs u applys to every day life. If u cant hack it in the ring when the going gets tough and u wanna quit, u will be a quiter out the ring too.Maybe not, but all i know is when my life gets mental and i wanna cry like a big baby i draw on my boxing and think i wouldnt give up in the ring so i aint gonna give up on this. If u understand. U will gain more from continuing to box then not boxing.

If u can go back after this it shows heart, and that is a massive lesson u wud have learned, no one can teach u this, u have to do it yourself. Man up. I do stuff i dont wanna do all the time, but it makes us who we are.

Alright...to get the technical, non-dramatic stuff out of the way, here's the main issue:

I'm a *****.

Ok. I took my licks, physical, then verbal. You guys were right (so was my girlfriend, and my dad - who hates the idea of me boxing), I shouldn't quit. I got pissed because I thought I was better than I am. Got that out of my system, at least. I decided that I'm going to go talk to my coach Tuesday and just ask him not to put me in the ring until I get more movement and parry work in (neither of which I've ever practiced with another person). Hopefully he'll understand, because I thought about it, watched my favorite bouts, thought some more, and I realized I like boxing. Honestly I didn't make this post to be dramatic, I really thought I was going to quit. I didn't like getting my ass kicked, but I'd rather suck it up than be called a quitter. Thanks for the responses.

thats the spirit,all u gotta do is watch a gatti fight thattle keep u goin

You can't just let that destroy your self-esteem...

I've been in scenarios... and plenty of them, where my opponent outclassed me in speed, strength, reach (definitely) and size during sparring...

Every one of these sessions are a learning lesson for me, besides no one is laughing at you, you have to start somewhere... I always look at it not as a ego destroyer, but something where I can reflect on and say to myself... "I need to improve in this area".

Alright...to get the technical, non-dramatic stuff out of the way, here's the main issue:

I'm a *****.

Ok. I took my licks, physical, then verbal. You guys were right (so was my girlfriend, and my dad - who hates the idea of me boxing), I shouldn't quit. I got pissed because I thought I was better than I am. Got that out of my system, at least. I decided that I'm going to go talk to my coach Tuesday and just ask him not to put me in the ring until I get more movement and parry work in (neither of which I've ever practiced with another person). Hopefully he'll understand, because I thought about it, watched my favorite bouts, thought some more, and I realized I like boxing. Honestly I didn't make this post to be dramatic, I really thought I was going to quit. I didn't like getting my ass kicked, but I'd rather suck it up than be called a quitter. Thanks for the responses.



good to hear man. and even if u do suck ass at boxing and never get n e better itd be a shame for u to lose interest, you're seem a top bloke and u give good advice. but keep plugging you'll be fine.

First time I boxed I had my ass handed to me within a minute. Both nostrils bleeding, head ringing, bloody mouth - and I was supposed to win.

You know what I did? I got better. 2 years later I haven't lost yet.

Need to get some will and not give up so easily; unless you just don't like to box. If it's unjoyable then quit.. if it's fun then don't quit.

My first time sparring I was just sparring with my coach. The jerk gave me a fat lip!!! All I had done up to that point was hit the heavy bag and hand pads. I remember getting hit with my first punch, it was right directly in the nose. I couldn't believe how much it hurt, and I was thinking during the sparring session that I was never doing this again. Anyways, six years later I'm still at it.

Hey fellas,
First of all, I apologize for clogging up the boards with semi-dramatic, poor-me crap. Thats not the intention. I just figured if I dissapear, some of the guys I talk to might wonder why. I'm 22, been boxing for 2 months, and tonight was my first time sparring. Well, I have never had my confidence killed so badly, ever. Me and another guy who's been boxing for far less time than me, less coordinated, poor technique, etc. My trainers have been telling me I'm making good progress, etc. Well, we get in the ring and I found out two things.
One - I have a good chin.
Two - I have no talent for boxing at all.

First, the guy was hitting me so often that my coach told him to focus on speed and not throw so hard. Then, I'm still getting hit in vast quantities, so coach tells the other guy to jab only. What happens? My ass is still getting kicked. So eventually the guy feels sorry for me and starts throwing slow jabs (because my coach tells me that I need to work on slipping; really?) and I still can't hit him. Everyone in the gym is yelling "move, fight back!" and I'm trying, and failing. I wanted to experience what its like to box, and I did, and I suck. No big deal, I guess, but I refuse to embarass my gym by putting on a performance like that in two weeks. Since I discovered my total lack of boxing ability, I won't be giving any more advice, because if advice comes from someone who can't do what they say, it is suspect anyway. Just wanted to let you guys know that if you think you have it rough, you might, but I was one step away from being wrapped in leather and suspended by chains from the roof.

If you guys will excuse me, I have some aleve to take and a headache to cope with.

Keep the faith, fellas.


Winners never quit, Quitters never win.

Winners are simply willing to do what losers won't.