i spar today with a guy thats been fighting for some time my trainer tells me to spar and i didnt learn anything but the jab one two. i got beat and everyone at the gym thought it was funny. i been training for a 1month half. i didnt like that the trainer had me spar so soon this has really got me feeling down because i was getting beat. what the best way to get my confidence back up. iam mad about this.

It's the first time, you're bound to get jitters, bro. You can't expect to just start something and be great at it. Now that you got your first time done with, hit the bag and practice your technique. You will get better with time.

i sparred on my second session,3 times,won 2 but got pretty beat in 1,but really sparrin isnt about winnin,its about practice and learnin what uve been told,jus take it on the chin,jus cause he knows more than u doesnt mean u cant be as good as him in time,keep trainin

You sparred someone experienced, they beat you down, and people laughed?

Get the **** out of there. That's what you should be doing.

You sparred someone experienced, they beat you down, and people laughed?

Get the **** out of there. That's what you should be doing.

Run like a dog with its tail between its legs, ha Exige. Your gym must train some awsome shadow boxers. True fighters come back for more and learn in the process.


Speed E, as long as you were not physically hurt then go back and roll some more. Thats how we all learned. Dont get any better by sparring people that you can always beat. Some times youll leave with lumps on your head and some times you wont. But the true fighters always show up the next day.

Rockin':boxing:

Run like a dog with its tail between its legs, ha Exige. Your gym must train some awsome shadow boxers. True fighters come back for more and learn in the process.


Speed E, as long as you were not physically hurt then go back and roll some more. Thats how we all learned. Dont get any better by sparring people that you can always beat. Some times youll leave with lumps on your head and some times you wont. But the true fighters always show up the next day.

Rockin':boxing:

nice words,but i agree with exige in that they shouldnt have laffed at him,hes jus learnin

nice words,but i agree with exige in that they shouldnt have laffed at him,hes jus learnin

we have all been beginners at some time or another. Just keep showing up and they will respect you in time. Well atleast everybody besides Exige has been a beginner at some time or another.

Ive laughed at guys trying it out for the first time, cause it is funny. God, some of these guys just didnt get what boxing was about yet, few do actually when that green. All he has to do is keep showing up, working hard and trying. Respect is earned in the gym, not granted.

Rockin':boxing:

they most likely didnt laugh at you for getting hit, just the situation probably...

everyone gets their ass handed to them first few sparring sessions...you only get better

what do u mean that green?

Rockin', listen.

Stop with the disrespect, right now. Just do that. Keep my name out of your posts. Simple as.

By green I mean a beginner, somebody like say...........Exige! One-two back up jab. One-two back up jab. One-two back up jab.:kiss:

Rockin':boxing:

Run like a dog with its tail between its legs, ha Exige. Your gym must train some awsome shadow boxers. True fighters come back for more and learn in the process.


Speed E, as long as you were not physically hurt then go back and roll some more. Thats how we all learned. Dont get any better by sparring people that you can always beat. Some times youll leave with lumps on your head and some times you wont. But the true fighters always show up the next day.

Rockin':boxing:thanks for telling me this i felt so embrassed. i will go back and keep my head up. because now iam the joke of the gym.

ur a ****in warrior if u say u are,no joke

thanks for telling me this i felt so embrassed. i will go back and keep my head up. because now iam the joke of the gym.



Definately go back to the gym, But keep that head low and more importantly that chin down. You are not the joke of the gym, we have all had our moments. Its the guy that keeps showing up for more that will earn the respect.

Rockin':boxing:

my first time sparring i got my ass whooped, but i kept wanting more it gets addictive, just like this website is addictive

let it motivate u man.

how do i relax i was not relax at all.

i remember i had to spar one of the co-trainers my first time...he kept snickering during the rounds :o

thank all for the support. I could not sleep thinking about the spar.

Depending on your situation (which I dont know too well at this point) I would leave a gym that I was not satisfied with the atmosphere of. Having said that I have only ever trained at one gym so I dont know what its like to change gym. If you are not comfortable training around those individuals and those trainers, and feel it is detrimental to your progress as a fighter... like you might progress 100% more in half the time somewhere else... then dont hesitate to leave that place and find a more suitable gym.

The fact they laughed or found it funny is not a good sign straight away! In our gym we mess around and joke, but when it comes to the newcomers we dont laugh at them because they are doing something wrong. Reason being we all realise the dedication this sport takes, and the amount of motivation it takes to want to get punched. Not to mention you learn more when you are with your friends and not in a hostile environment.

Hope that helps a little.

Yeah I agree with little EXIGE, there definitely is a problem with people laughing at you but don't switch gyms over it. We are all men here (most of us) and the true character of a man is when he can do something he doesn't want to do and accomplish a task. Go back there, keep learning (you're not the laughingstock as you say you are) and whip some of their asses that were talking the ****.

And yeah, I had an experience like you. I got treated like ass in one of the jobs I went to because I was green as hell and all these guys were experienced, I just kept working at it and working at it and earned their respect (it helps if you give htem a piece of your mind, also).

Yeah I agree with little EXIGE, there definitely is a problem with people laughing at you but don't switch gyms over it. We are all men here (most of us) and the true character of a man is when he can do something he doesn't want to do and accomplish a task. Go back there, keep learning (you're not the laughingstock as you say you are) and whip some of their asses that were talking the ****.

And yeah, I had an experience like you. I got treated like ass in one of the jobs I went to because I was green as hell and all these guys were experienced, I just kept working at it and working at it and earned their respect (it helps if you give htem a piece of your mind, also).
Oh man it was so funny... this boy in my gym was talking a load of **** to me about a year ago. He was around the same weight as me with a bit more experience and a year younger than me... we kinda had a friendly rivalry going on and then one day it just switched and the friendly banter turned pretty serious. We knew that next time we got in the ring together there were gonna be some heavy digs going in. He was taking the outspoken approach; "im too strong for you, had too many more bouts than you and my defense is much better than yours". So that covers pretty much everything in boxing that he was better than me in apparently. ;)

I was all like "ok, well we will see on the day" just taking the quiet approach with him. The day came about 2 weeks later... I stopped him in sparring with a left hook to the body about a minute into our first sparr together, in the first round. Proud moment, that one.

Remember that a year ago I was only about 4-5 months into my boxing and this boy had like 17 fights or something, been boxing for 4 years. He was a good fighter, I just pressured pressured pressured until his stamina wasnt good enough. (he had done a few rounds before too).

As a matter of fact the next time I saw him after that was last week. And thats the story of me as a beginner stopping someone who was experienced and talking ****... so perhaps its an idea to just keep on "speed e".

:) Good luck.

i spar today with a guy thats been fighting for some time my trainer tells me to spar and i didnt learn anything but the jab one two. i got beat and everyone at the gym thought it was funny. i been training for a 1month half. i didnt like that the trainer had me spar so soon this has really got me feeling down because i was getting beat. what the best way to get my confidence back up. iam mad about this.

I have a couple of questions about this. One I know you were frustrated, The other guy was more advanced "not necessarily better" and got the best of you. Ones ego can be fragile I know this. Were they really laughing that bad?
Or maybe could you be over reacting? And are you so sure they was be littling you by laughing or could they have been letting loose some of there own nervs? My advice is if you love this sport. I say love not like cuz you have to love this **** like no other to stick with it. Go right back do it again. Do it ofted. Spar twice as much as the others. When the time comes. They will see your accomplishments "or feel them" and it will be your turn to laugh.
you've heard the phrase he who laughs last right?

Oh man it was so funny... this boy in my gym was talking a load of **** to me about a year ago. He was around the same weight as me with a bit more experience and a year younger than me... we kinda had a friendly rivalry going on and then one day it just switched and the friendly banter turned pretty serious. We knew that next time we got in the ring together there were gonna be some heavy digs going in. He was taking the outspoken approach; "im too strong for you, had too many more bouts than you and my defense is much better than yours". So that covers pretty much everything in boxing that he was better than me in apparently. ;)

I was all like "ok, well we will see on the day" just taking the quiet approach with him. The day came about 2 weeks later... I stopped him in sparring with a left hook to the body about a minute into our first sparr together, in the first round. Proud moment, that one.

Remember that a year ago I was only about 4-5 months into my boxing and this boy had like 17 fights or something, been boxing for 4 years. He was a good fighter, I just pressured pressured pressured until his stamina wasnt good enough. (he had done a few rounds before too).

As a matter of fact the next time I saw him after that was last week. And thats the story of me as a beginner stopping someone who was experienced and talking ****... so perhaps its an idea to just keep on "speed e".

:) Good luck.
There's nothing worse then someone who talks a lot of **** but can't back it up. We played against this U-17 USA player when we were all 16 named Jeremy Hall and he was talking mad **** to all of our players even though he wasn't that special. He sure didn't like it when he was face down on the grass from a huge knee right in the back from yours truly (off a goal kick):)

I wasn't a dirty player or a goon at all but some guys you need to bring them back down to earth.......

My very first day in the gym i had to spar some1, i kept missing and almost fell through the ropes, then i took a body shot and got winded and had to stop. Guess what, people were laughing.................

Am glad this happened because i knew what was expected of me. I knew i had to be in great shape and train hard to get good.

Not all sparring sessions will knock ur confidence. U get a confidence crisis in ur first few sessions and then with training u build urself in2 a better person/fighter.

Dont worry bout it.

If they laugh, turn it into a positive and make sure they dont find u funny, will they be laughing when u give them a beat down. Change ur way of thinking and turn that negative energy into determination.

Depending on your situation (which I dont know too well at this point) I would leave a gym that I was not satisfied with the atmosphere of. Having said that I have only ever trained at one gym so I dont know what its like to change gym. If you are not comfortable training around those individuals and those trainers, and feel it is detrimental to your progress as a fighter... like you might progress 100% more in half the time somewhere else... then dont hesitate to leave that place and find a more suitable gym.

The fact they laughed or found it funny is not a good sign straight away! In our gym we mess around and joke, but when it comes to the newcomers we dont laugh at them because they are doing something wrong. Reason being we all realise the dedication this sport takes, and the amount of motivation it takes to want to get punched. Not to mention you learn more when you are with your friends and not in a hostile environment.

Hope that helps a little.

thanks for advise I will see how goes today. the guy sparred with thinks he the bad ass of the gym.

thanks for advise I will see how goes today. the guy sparred with thinks he the bad ass of the gym.
If he is experienced then its gonna be a while before you can overcome him. But be patient and keep on fighting... you will catch up with him. Its exactly what I did with that boy I was speaking about.

thanks for advise I will see how goes today. the guy sparred with thinks he the bad ass of the gym.

The absolute worst thing you can do is form a grudge. Or start a competition. He's been there longer learn from him. He is a training partner. take it all in. Not just from the one guy. From everybody you can. Ask the stupid questions. Offer to spar every time you can. Take in there techniques, and use them to improve you own. That is exactly what they are there for. Don't take things personal. It's a learning process that you will never completely master. or perfect. You can only hope to continuously improve and progress

My very first day in the gym i had to spar some1, i kept missing and almost fell through the ropes, then i took a body shot and got winded and had to stop. Guess what, people were laughing.................

Am glad this happened because i knew what was expected of me. I knew i had to be in great shape and train hard to get good.

Not all sparring sessions will knock ur confidence. U get a confidence crisis in ur first few sessions and then with training u build urself in2 a better person/fighter.

Dont worry bout it.

If they laugh, turn it into a positive and make sure they dont find u funny, will they be laughing when u give them a beat down. Change ur way of thinking and turn that negative energy into determination.

I had got winded and the guy was was just throwing body shots I didn't even feel them as I kept moving out of way that's when everybody though it was funny because. but the trainer only show me how to jab. the guy tried to take me down but he could not get me to move. he was talking a lot of **** after the sparr. I was mad and I know he's going to be talking **** today

i spar today with a guy thats been fighting for some time my trainer tells me to spar and i didnt learn anything but the jab one two. i got beat and everyone at the gym thought it was funny. i been training for a 1month half. i didnt like that the trainer had me spar so soon this has really got me feeling down because i was getting beat. what the best way to get my confidence back up. iam mad about this.

i know how you feel man. my trainer did the same thing to me, his philosophy is not to keep guys out of the ring til theyre good enough to not get killed, but to get them in the ring early and see if theyve got the heart to take a beating. he had my ass in the ring after about two weeks. i got smoked at first, but give it some time and youll find that youll improve quickly. youll lose your ring jitters fast and start to be able to fight back.

i spar today with a guy thats been fighting for some time my trainer tells me to spar and i didnt learn anything but the jab one two. i got beat and everyone at the gym thought it was funny. i been training for a 1month half. i didnt like that the trainer had me spar so soon this has really got me feeling down because i was getting beat. what the best way to get my confidence back up. iam mad about this.




6 weeks is not necessarily too early to start sparring. It all depends on the talent you bring to the gym and the training you receive. From what you have said I suspect you did not get the ring drills to prepare you for defense. If everybody in the gym has had much more experience, those are the guys with whom you must spar. Then of course you would need more defensive prepartion. If I was training you that is what would happen.


How many boxing clubs are there in your area? Sounds to me like you should try another one where they actually train people!

6 weeks is not necessarily too early to start sparring. It all depends on the talent you bring to the gym and the training you receive. From what you have said I suspect you did not get the ring drills to prepare you for defense. If everybody in the gym has had much more experience, those are the guys with whom you must spar. Then of course you would need more defensive prepartion. If I was training you that is what would happen.


How many boxing clubs are there in your area? Sounds to me like you should try another one where they actually train people!

I didn't do any ring drills. the guy i spar with spar with me like I was a pro.

my trainer told me i was gonna spar and all i did was throw punches at someone who was training for a fight and he would defend himself
wasnt that bad tho

lol they tried to do that to me at my gym, but i was a little sick that day. They didnt train me much either in a month, one day out of nowhere the coach told me to throw hooks when i hadnt learned them yet. Gym's still good though. Do you by any chance go to Charm city?