View Full Version : do u find it easy to let go?


Nacho_Analstain
09-18-2006, 04:49 PM
meaning some 1 u love,if u had to,do u think ur strong enough to let go easily,how do u think u would cope?

* FeistyWench *
09-18-2006, 04:58 PM
meaning some 1 u love,if u had to,do u think ur strong enough to let go easily,how do u think u would cope?
as in a break-up or as in death?

Nacho_Analstain
09-18-2006, 05:16 PM
break up...

* FeistyWench *
09-18-2006, 05:27 PM
break up...
obviously break-ups are harder the more you care about or love the person. if you are really in love, then obviously breaking up is not going to be easy.

i really loved my ex- and he loved me, but we just wanted really different things for our futures, so we had to end it after 4 years. we weren't mad at each other or anything. no one was to blame, but just having to break-up just SUCKED, but i practicied alot of cognitive therapy on myself! lol!
i gave myself time to mourn and be sad, but then i just wouldn;t allow myself to think about him. if i found myself trying to rehash the past, i would sing or talk to myself about something else. try that sometime. it is impossible to think about something else while you are purposely talking about something specific (not just rambling). i also reminded myself that i would find someone again. i had a great future to look forward to. i avoided the places i knew he went to regularly, because that was just too hard initially, but after i established a new life without him, i was ok with the possibility of bumping into him in public.

so is it easy? hell no. is it possible to do it without being completely heart broken? yes.

THE REAL NINJA
09-18-2006, 05:28 PM
I think there is something wrong with me because i don't really miss people . I mean I feel bad but i get over it within a day or so :confused:

* FeistyWench *
09-18-2006, 05:30 PM
I think there is something wrong with me because i don't really miss people . I mean I feel bad but i get over it within a day or so :confused:
then you've never really been in love, have you?

BrooklynBomber
09-18-2006, 05:32 PM
Some break-ups used to out in me into a depression for weeks, or at least til a find a new tail to chase. So it used to be hard.
Now, I just dont take relationships easily and usually try to find a girl who is not taking relationships seriously, so I won't hurt her.

THE REAL NINJA
09-18-2006, 05:36 PM
then you've never really been in love, have you?
Well one girl had me like that but it mostly only showed up when we were at a party drinking and i'd see her with her new boy friend . The rest of the time I wanted her back but when I finaly knew it was over it was just that feelings and all went away . So I guess i do feel it but it doesnt last very long .

Hard Boiled HK
09-19-2006, 01:45 AM
then you've never really been in love, have you?

I think she's actually right this time.

julDilla
09-19-2006, 04:21 AM
Easy......

manasah mauler
09-19-2006, 09:35 AM
for me, it actually depends on the level of your relationship with the other person and maybe the reason for breaking up..I mean, if she's a girl friend for just a couple of weeks, then maybe it would be easy, but if you have been with a person for years and you felt you two had something special going...it would be a bit difficult to let go.

Not unless you get cheated upon...now that's extra incentive to let go and forget fast

* FeistyWench *
09-19-2006, 04:20 PM
I think she's actually right this time.
what's that mean???!!! lol!
i am never right? sheesh! :o

Hard Boiled HK
09-20-2006, 11:41 PM
what's that mean???!!! lol!
i am never right? sheesh! :o

Now that's the second time you're actually right.

.::EnRiQuE::.
09-21-2006, 12:44 AM
for me, it actually depends on the level of your relationship with the other person and maybe the reason for breaking up..I mean, if she's a girl friend for just a couple of weeks, then maybe it would be easy, but if you have been with a person for years and you felt you two had something special going...it would be a bit difficult to let go.

Not unless you get cheated upon...now that's extra incentive to let go and forget fast
not rly.
it just puts alotta self-doubt into yer head.
drives you nuts.

Vanilla Gorilla
09-21-2006, 12:53 AM
I think there is something wrong with me because i don't really miss people . I mean I feel bad but i get over it within a day or so :confused:


That is a lie. Dont lie, everyone misses someone one way or another.

THE REAL NINJA
09-21-2006, 09:10 AM
That is a lie. Dont lie, everyone misses someone one way or another.
You know nothing about me or my life so dont tell me what I FEEL.

phook
09-21-2006, 09:28 AM
You know nothing about me or my life so dont tell me what I FEEL.

look at u ur pissed.. ur taking it out on others

Nacho_Analstain
09-21-2006, 10:22 AM
not rly.
it just puts alotta self-doubt into yer head.
drives you nuts.

no i think hes right on that 1,if ur cheated on u need 2 let go its jus not worth it

Katz
09-21-2006, 11:14 AM
its not easy to let go...when you already so attached... :D

K-DOGG
09-21-2006, 12:48 PM
break up...

You have to. Sure, if you truly love this person, then you owe it to yourself and him/her to try and work things out; but if they want out....you gotta let it go, for they have the right to look for their own happiness, just as you do. To hold on when the person you love has made it clear that they do not love you, either through words or action, is a symptom of obsession....and taht's just not healthy. Remember, there are some 6 Billion people on the planet and, quite honestly, you can find something to love about any of them.....that's your choice. You can either choose to love or not love someone; the "attraction" part is essentially chemical/hormonal and if it's only felt by you....you need to realize it, accept it, and "let it go".

Some things you have to do, for you have no choice if you value your own sanity.

THE REAL NINJA
09-22-2006, 08:54 AM
look at u ur pissed.. ur taking it out on others
No not at all I just mean that i'm not going to explain in detail every word I post on a net forum. But you were correct everyone does miss someone at some point in some way . What I mean is I don't let it drag on and ruin my life .

MANGLER
01-04-2010, 03:40 AM
meaning some 1 u love,if u had to,do u think ur strong enough to let go easily,how do u think u would cope?

If you have to, **** it. You obviously wouldn't let go of em if you had the option of keepin the relationship alive. It might suck, but you gotta do whatchu gotta do. No point stayin wit sumthin that ain't workin.