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Smokin'
08-14-2006, 09:17 PM
Sup ladies and gents,
I been thinking lately if my high school buddies are over with. We always chill and **** on the weekends but it seems we are all doing our own thing in the next couple weeks. I am continuing to work full time making the big bucks while 3 other guys are going to school (not really college or university, kind of an upgrading kind of school). I'm a little scared our friendship will slowly drift apart as they will probably/maybe be meeting new people in school and I will be working from Mon-Fri and won't have that much time to hang out. Any of this ever happen to you guys and did you guys drift apart or stay together?

RAESAAD
08-14-2006, 09:20 PM
Sup ladies and gents,
I been thinking lately if my high school buddies are over with. We always chill and **** on the weekends but it seems we are all doing our own thing in the next couple weeks. I am continuing to work full time making the big bucks while 3 other guys are going to school (not really college or university, kind of an upgrading kind of school). I'm a little scared our friendship will slowly drift apart as they will probably/maybe be meeting new people in school and I will be working from Mon-Fri and won't have that much time to hang out. Any of this ever happen to you guys and did you guys drift apart or stay together?
It will......you will be lucky to know any of your highschool buddies in 10 years.I still am very good friends with the guy who was my best friend all through Highschool......we bagged many a *****es together......LOL he has since been married and divorced and I have a 5 year old and he is 31 and dating a 21 year old stripper......reliving what he missed being married.It will change alot bro and you will find that alot of people you think are your friends you will not even know in a couple of years........cherish a true friend there are a handful in life if you are lucky.

7001
08-14-2006, 09:45 PM
It will......you will be lucky to know any of your highschool buddies in 10 years.I still am very good friends with the guy who was my best friend all through Highschool......we bagged many a *****es together......LOL he has since been married and divorced and I have a 5 year old and he is 31 and dating a 21 year old stripper......reliving what he missed being married.It will change alot bro and you will find that alot of people you think are your friends you will not even know in a couple of years........cherish a true friend there are a handful in life if you are lucky.
Very well said. I have about 3 good friends, the rest are just people I talk to. And nobody from High School.

Nacho_Analstain
08-14-2006, 09:47 PM
ur true friends will always be there in the end

RAESAAD
08-14-2006, 09:52 PM
Very well said. I have about 3 good friends, the rest are just people I talk to. And nobody from High School.
Yeah well us older dogs speak from experience......life is a ***** and I don't know it all but I know a fair portion for my age.....I know that much.

Hard Boiled HK
08-14-2006, 10:02 PM
Once you're in college, you make new friends. Unless you were really good friends with some people in high school, you will most likely not see/talk to them until class reunion.

7001
08-14-2006, 10:06 PM
Yeah well us older dogs speak from experience......life is a ***** and I don't know it all but I know a fair portion for my age.....I know that much.
I wish I was smart enough to have listened to the old dogs when I was young. I'll never admit that to my parents.

RAESAAD
08-14-2006, 10:13 PM
I wish I was smart enough to have listened to the old dogs when I was young. I'll never admit that to my parents.
I hear ya one that one......but is funny how you start to sound like them with kids and all....

neils7147933
08-14-2006, 10:19 PM
Other than family, I don't see any friends I had 10 years ago. It happens. A couple are local but most have moved away. They have their own jobs. They have their own families. It's part of growing up...

Smokin'
08-14-2006, 10:34 PM
I know but I'm only 17. Will it at least be all good in the short term?

RAESAAD
08-14-2006, 10:40 PM
I know but I'm only 17. Will it at least be all good in the short term?
It will gradually happen and poof before you know it you will be like I wonder what happened to so and so.

Smokin'
08-14-2006, 10:41 PM
damn, thats harsh as hell.

RAESAAD
08-14-2006, 10:43 PM
damn, thats harsh as hell.
Its life......young *****.

Hard Boiled HK
08-14-2006, 11:12 PM
I know but I'm only 17. Will it at least be all good in the short term?

Never think short term. It's the long term that will eventually matter.

Dirt E Gomez
08-15-2006, 04:11 AM
I feel ****ty about one friend in particular. We were best friend from the second grade all through high school. We drifted apart a little in high school but were still very close and hung out frequently. I have seen him... maybe 3 or 4 times since the summer before my first semester at college. He has since gotten married... to a girl I've never met, and I missed the wedding.

I still keep in touch with friends from High School and some are still very good friends... but I've definately drifted further than I planned to originally. It's somewhat depressing.

* FeistyWench *
08-15-2006, 08:16 PM
Sup ladies and gents,
I been thinking lately if my high school buddies are over with. We always chill and **** on the weekends but it seems we are all doing our own thing in the next couple weeks. I am continuing to work full time making the big bucks while 3 other guys are going to school (not really college or university, kind of an upgrading kind of school). I'm a little scared our friendship will slowly drift apart as they will probably/maybe be meeting new people in school and I will be working from Mon-Fri and won't have that much time to hang out. Any of this ever happen to you guys and did you guys drift apart or stay together?
at each milestone things change. when you graduate high school, from college, get a job, get married...things just change.
you still have the weekends to get together. are they living at home or in dorms? how far is the school? i suspect that if they are close, you may not drift apart (you still have weekends).

phallus
08-15-2006, 08:21 PM
there's a couple guys i went o high school with, we were like best friends in the old neighborhood, but now i hardly ever see them - maybe a couple times a year, but whenever we meet up again, it's just like we pick up where we left off, and it's just like the old days again

King Koyle
08-21-2006, 11:36 AM
I drifted from many of my high school buddies.I miss them :(

7001
08-26-2006, 10:56 PM
I don't miss anybody from high school. They can all kiss my ass.

BBKing
08-26-2006, 11:50 PM
Sup ladies and gents,
I been thinking lately if my high school buddies are over with. We always chill and **** on the weekends but it seems we are all doing our own thing in the next couple weeks. I am continuing to work full time making the big bucks while 3 other guys are going to school (not really college or university, kind of an upgrading kind of school). I'm a little scared our friendship will slowly drift apart as they will probably/maybe be meeting new people in school and I will be working from Mon-Fri and won't have that much time to hang out. Any of this ever happen to you guys and did you guys drift apart or stay together?

I only have 2 friends left from highschool. I have about 6 left from college. The rest are friends I've made in my late 20's and 30's.

Growing up and drifting apart from old friends is part of life. It's a little bit sad, but no big deal.

Exige Jr
08-27-2006, 01:09 AM
The thing about drifting apart from people is you feel scared about it, only because you think you cant make more friends that were equally as good. Let me tell you, once you choose a career path and pursue it (this is if you are an ambitious person) you will look back at your friends and think they were pathetic, many times.

If that doesnt happen then you will not be sad about losing friends as much as you think, because you will socialise with others who take their place. And in time you begin to think that the new friends are better etc etc.

Same with girls.

Smokin'
08-27-2006, 01:11 AM
**** that is a good way of looking at it, EXIGE.

Exige Jr
08-27-2006, 01:21 AM
**** that is a good way of looking at it, EXIGE.
Yep, I was sad when I moved from primary school to high school. So between the age of 10 and 11. In primary I had so many good friends, but I have made even better ones growing up with other people. Remember back in the day at primary you cant really socialise with people and never find out their true character. So I thought, yeah they are good friends, but to be honest the friends I currently have hold more value because they have known me through my "prime years". **** im pissed, what am I talking about. Basically the friends I have now, have been there when I have had problems. Since when you reach about 15 onwards **** happens that draws people closer together. Im talking about perhaps a loss of a relative or some such thing. At 10, these things just get brushed off, and friends dont really know the meaning of comforting you. At 15 the mind is more mature, so the friends that surround you at that point help you out to an extent. This is when you know what true friendships are about. Everyone is much more complex and proper friendships are formed later on, is the basic message of what im saying I guess.

The thing about thinking friends are pathetic was mentioned to me by my uncle the other day. He was talking about when you go into the military, the friends you once had you look back at and find out what they are doing now and think they are extremely sad. Meanwhile the friendships you make in the forces last forever. Mainly because if they dont, your gonna get your ass handed to you in any battles on the front line. So yes, a slight digression from the topic, but still a useful way to look at losing friends etc.

Smokin'
08-27-2006, 01:24 AM
Yeah you're definitely right with that but it is under my opinion that you only have a couple really good friends in a lifetime. These guys have been my boys for so long I don't really wanna lose them because we have bonded over things for years (basically since high school started).

Exige Jr
08-27-2006, 01:28 AM
Yeah you're definitely right with that but it is under my opinion that you only have a couple really good friends in a lifetime. These guys have been my boys for so long I don't really wanna lose them because we have bonded over things for years (basically since high school started).
When you guys move apart you will get over losing friends real quick. You think now that it will **** you up permanently. 10 years time you wont be mourning over them, because you will see their faults. In your head this will justify you not speaking to them anymore.

The best advice you can get is make many friends groups and never make someone a priority when, to them, you are just an option. This way you just move onto the next group of friends and never get used. In college I had like 3 main groups I would speak to. At the same time everyone else just had 1 friends group and when **** went wrong as it always does, they dont have any alternatives.

Smokin'
08-27-2006, 01:30 AM
When you guys move apart you will get over losing friends real quick. You think now that it will **** you up permanently. 10 years time you wont be mourning over them, because you will see their faults. In your head this will justify you not speaking to them anymore.

The best advice you can get is make many friends groups and never make someone a priority when, to them, you are just an option. This way you just move onto the next group of friends and never get used. In college I had like 3 main groups I would speak to. At the same time everyone else just had 1 friends group and when **** went wrong as it always does, they dont have any alternatives.
That's a good idea, yeah. But I jus think it's wierd socialising with people different then me. I don't know why.

Smokin'
08-27-2006, 01:36 AM
I just thought you were 17 or 18...and you said you been through college and ****, so wtf.

Exige Jr
08-27-2006, 01:47 AM
I just thought you were 17 or 18...and you said you been through college and ****, so wtf.
In this country college comes after high school.

Primary = 4-10
High school = 10-16
College = 16-18
University = 18/19-21/22.

Raesaad, I havent changed. This is me, and im not being false whatsoever. In real life im a little different but thats obvious. At least im not frontin' to win e-popularity contests. These are my views and this is my personality, so people can take it or leave it. They know where they stand.

RAESAAD
08-27-2006, 01:48 AM
In this country college comes after high school.

Primary = 4-10
High school = 10-16
College = 16-18
University = 18/19-21/22.

Raesaad, I havent changed. This is me, and im not being false whatsoever. In real life im a little different but thats obvious. At least im not frontin' to win e-popularity contests. These are my views and this is my personality, so people can take it or leave it. They know where they stand.
You are good peeps I know that......no hard feelings huh kid.

Dirt E Gomez
08-27-2006, 04:56 AM
No offense to Exige and his opinion... but you are like 17 so I sincerely doubt you'd had to come to these crossroads to be speaking from personal experience.

The best advice I can give on the subject (which I haven't all ready) is to simply live life. I've never made a conscious effort to "keep" or "hold on" to a friend. If they're really friends it doesn't matter how often or as little as I see them. I have a friend who I went to middle school with... we went to seperate high schools and saw eachother maybe once ever 2-3 months. To this day, I only seem him once a month or so due to our schedules and whatnot but I easily consider him one of my best friends.

Also, in the deepest part of anybody's heart and mind they know what they truly want. They know what friends are truly worth keeping and what they would really do if they had to make decisions for them.

Exige Jr
08-27-2006, 06:22 AM
No offense to Exige and his opinion... but you are like 17 so I sincerely doubt you'd had to come to these crossroads to be speaking from personal experience.

Fair play, but I have actually endured a few things like that. Nothing to say that I am the master of this subject, but everything that I said was either my findings from my own experience or others, like my uncle who I spoke about briefly. The only thing I think I said that I couldnt account for myself was choosing the career and moving on like that, since I havent had a career yet. Thats where what I hear from others influences my opinion.

Im 18 btw, and have already lost a lot of friends for this and that reason, but yeah I guess what you said is true to an extent. I havent lived my life at all yet, but I think what I said is pretty accurate still.

Exige Jr
08-27-2006, 06:25 AM
You are good peeps I know that......no hard feelings huh kid.
I dont see a reason to have hard feelings. Especially when its about a difference of opinion on politics.

MANGLER
01-06-2010, 02:37 AM
Sup ladies and gents,
I been thinking lately if my high school buddies are over with. We always chill and **** on the weekends but it seems we are all doing our own thing in the next couple weeks. I am continuing to work full time making the big bucks while 3 other guys are going to school (not really college or university, kind of an upgrading kind of school). I'm a little scared our friendship will slowly drift apart as they will probably/maybe be meeting new people in school and I will be working from Mon-Fri and won't have that much time to hang out. Any of this ever happen to you guys and did you guys drift apart or stay together?

My high school crew was all but dead 2 yrs after we graduated. All turned out to be a bunch of disloyal *****es, save for a couple of em. I was glad to see em go.

If you tight wit your real homies it gotta suck to drift apart, but that's life. Do whatchu gotta do to keep in touch, but the fun ends when you get out on your own and it's time to handle your career.