Is there anyone here that can help me.

If I sent you a list of computer programs and equipment, can you help me determine the value? I'm inventoring everything my ex owns for settlement purposes and I have no idea where to go to get a value of it all. I just need a fair approximate value. I want to be fair with him.

He's already told the kids I'd better not go after "the games" or he'll go after my sewing machines...I had to laugh. I don't WANT his games and he CANNOT go after my machines. They are my only source of income at this point....so he'd lose that battle.

I guess he's just angry. I'm hurting.

If you want to email me on my myspace account feel free.....

I can't really offer anything but condolances I'm afraid:(

an easy way is to go on e-bay and see how much similar items are selling for (selling price - auction won price or buy it now prices). :D

Is there anyone here that can help me.

If I sent you a list of computer programs and equipment, can you help me determine the value? I'm inventoring everything my ex owns for settlement purposes and I have no idea where to go to get a value of it all. I just need a fair approximate value. I want to be fair with him.

He's already told the kids I'd better not go after "the games" or he'll go after my sewing machines...I had to laugh. I don't WANT his games and he CANNOT go after my machines. They are my only source of income at this point....so he'd lose that battle.

I guess he's just angry. I'm hurting.

an easy way is to go on e-bay and see how much similar items are selling for (selling price - auction won price or buy it now prices). :D

Yea, thats wat i would do.

Hows your leg doing MCM? Still hobbling around like a pirate?

Hows your leg doing MCM? Still hobbling around like a pirate?


LOL....yeah, still hobbling around. It's making my right side hurt because of being lopsided, but it's temporary.

Thanks for the suggestion on the ebay...I was hoping to find someone who has off the cuff knowledge because he has TONS of compter programs...he used to ***** at me for spending money on the kids...hahaha....I've been at this for over an hour and haven't gotten thru one third of it yet.

He spent a small fortune on computer equipment.

Hand his computer equipment back to him??? :confused:

Hand his computer equipment back to him??? :confused:


In a divorce settlement, we split everything obtained during the marriage 50/50. It doesn't matter who paid for it. What we each brought into the marriage or was an inheritance or gift is ours to keep without adding it as value to the settlement.

LOL....yeah, still hobbling around. It's making my right side hurt because of being lopsided, but it's temporary.

Thanks for the suggestion on the ebay...I was hoping to find someone who has off the cuff knowledge because he has TONS of compter programs...he used to ***** at me for spending money on the kids...hahaha....I've been at this for over an hour and haven't gotten thru one third of it yet.

He spent a small fortune on computer equipment.

Just list everything on the boards.

Adobe products you can list for a minimum of $100 each basically.

Also list the computer hardware if you can. A lot of it will depend on when he got it. Like a top of the line graphics card from early this year that might have been worth $300-$400 in January might just be worth $120-$150 now. And since many computer software programs are updated at least yearly, they lose value really fast. Can you claim the original value? If so, you're in good luck, cause that software adds up in a hurry.

In a divorce settlement, we split everything obtained during the marriage 50/50. It doesn't matter who paid for it. What we each brought into the marriage or was an inheritance or gift is ours to keep without adding it as value to the settlement.
So on a 50/50 settlement wouldnt it be easier to just say:

Whatever are his items, he has and takes.

Whatever are your items you have and take.

Just list everything on the boards.

Adobe products you can list for a minimum of $100 each basically.

Also list the computer hardware if you can. A lot of it will depend on when he got it. Like a top of the line graphics card from early this year that might have been worth $300-$400 in January might just be worth $120-$150 now. And since many computer software programs are updated at least yearly, they lose value really fast. Can you claim the original value? If so, you're in good luck, cause that software adds up in a hurry.


I doubt I can list the original value. I couldn't on a car, so probably not so on this stuff either. It works the same for my sewing machines, which are computerized and outdated. Their values dropped tremendously when they came out with the new models. Best thing for me? My dad bought and paid for my embroidery machine and he hasn't been paid back, so it's a gift to me. That's appx. $2,000 right there.

I just did the cars..his two versus my one...$10K difference.

I want insurance in exchange...at least until I get some of my own.

So on a 50/50 settlement wouldnt it be easier to just say:

Whatever are his items, he has and takes.

Whatever are your items you have and take.


Nope, it goes by value. Personal items such as clothes don't count. He has two cars worth $10K over my one.

Nope, it goes by value. Personal items such as clothes don't count. He has two cars worth $10K over my one.
So if it goes by value who has the house?

And which person paid the mortgage for the house?

what a pain in the ass!!
how unbelievale stressful that crap is - figuring out who get what as far as money, possessions, and children go - fighting for what you want. what a nightmare. :eek:

In a divorce settlement, we split everything obtained during the marriage 50/50. It doesn't matter who paid for it. What we each brought into the marriage or was an inheritance or gift is ours to keep without adding it as value to the settlement.

So if it goes by value who has the house?

And which person paid the mortgage for the house?


Doesn't matter who paid the mortgage. We bought it together.

We sell the house and all the debts are paid out of the proceeds then we split what's left. It's that simple.

what a pain in the ass!!
how unbelievale stressful that crap is - figuring out who get what as far as money, possessions, and children go - fighting for what you want. what a nightmare. :eek:


The worse part is the kids....it's been hard on them, especially when "daddy" is all fun and games right now.

Where was he when they needed him? Playing a game.
Where was he when I was in court with our son? Playing a game.
etc etc. etc.

I'm the bad guy for "divorcing daddy" yet they agree it needed to happen....they're angry at him, but they take it out on me because they can't show him their anger...I'm the safe parent...I won't stop loving them. He will ignore them until THEY apologize...which is what our marriage was like.

Doesn't matter who paid the mortgage. We bought it together.

We sell the house and all the debts are paid out of the proceeds then we split what's left. It's that simple.
It doesnt matter who paid the mortgage?

Well, if i was in your situation or indeed his situation, that would be the first thing i would be looking at.....

It doesnt matter who paid the mortgage?

Well, if i was in your situation or indeed his situation, that would be the first thing i would be looking at.....


We went into the purchase of the house together.

This is going to start up something all over again that you don't get....I was a stay at home mom for 20 years. I am still entitled to half....doesn't matter if I paid for anything or not.

That's the LAW.

We went into the purchase of the house together.

This is going to start up something all over again that you don't get....I was a stay at home mom for 20 years. I am still entitled to half....doesn't matter if I paid for anything or not.

That's the LAW.
So you stayed at home, therefore you contributed little money towards the purchase.

In my opinion he deserves the house that the mortgage was paid for, and he also deserves fair court proceedings (if it comes to that), as do you.

So you stayed at home, therefore you contributed little money towards the purchase.

In my opinion he deserves the house that the mortgage was paid for, and he also deserves fair court proceedings (if it comes to that), as do you.


So it doesn't matter to you that I stayed home and cared for his kids, him, the house, etc.?

I pity any woman that chooses to marry you.

So you stayed at home, therefore you contributed little money towards the purchase.

In my opinion he deserves the house that the mortgage was paid for, and he also deserves fair court proceedings (if it comes to that), as do you.
Man...

STFU and quit being a lil annoying bug man...

So it doesn't matter to you that I stayed home and cared for his kids, him, the house, etc.?

I pity any woman that chooses to marry you.
You pity any woman that chooses to marry me, because i dont accept what your opinion is?

I think this says a lot about the quality of your posts.....

You pity any woman that chooses to marry me, because i dont accept what your opinion is?

I think this says a lot about the quality of your posts.....

Why did u have to put that little dig in at the end?

Its so unnessecary. If u disagree, just leave it at that.

You pity any woman that chooses to marry me, because i dont accept what your opinion is?

I think this says a lot about the quality of your posts.....


It isn't my opinion that really matters at this point.

It's the LAW that matters. We split the stuff WE acquired as a MARRIED couple 50/50...that's it.

He can have "his" stuff....I don't want it. He just needs to stop threatening to take "mine"

I guess I should explain my last post to you....

A marriage is supposed to be a union of two people...you still have invidual interests....but you pretty much share a lot. Including debts...so if half the debts that are incurred are mine, so are half the assets. No matter what. And most of the debts are in HIS name....should he get all those too? As well as the house? Nope...law says otherwise.

Why did u have to put that little dig in at the end?

Its so unnessecary. If u disagree, just leave it at that.


No worries...he's stating his opinion....based on what knowledge, I have no clue....

Why did u have to put that little dig in at the end?

Its so unnessecary. If u disagree, just leave it at that.
I kept everything "above the belt" until a dig was made at me. I reply back with one.... go re-read the thread....

It isn't my opinion that really matters at this point.

It's the LAW that matters. We split the stuff WE acquired as a MARRIED couple 50/50...that's it.

He can have "his" stuff....I don't want it. He just needs to stop threatening to take "mine"

I guess I should explain my last post to you....

A marriage is supposed to be a union of two people...you still have invidual interests....but you pretty much share a lot. Including debts...so if half the debts that are incurred are mine, so are half the assets. No matter what. And most of the debts are in HIS name....should he get all those too? As well as the house? Nope...law says otherwise.
If the debts are his should he pay them? Erm. Let me think. Yes!

Thats generally what people do, no matter what the situation.

Should he keep the house he paid for? No hesitation. Yes.

Simple as that. And if the law in America states otherwise, then frankly, the law is ****ed. Hence "in my opinion", being inserted into the sentence you quoted....

No worries...he's stating his opinion....based on what knowledge, I have no clue....
Well, when i comment on the quality of your posts, generally im referring to the posts you have already made.

I kept everything "above the belt" until a dig was made at me. I reply back with one.... go re-read the thread....

Hey your rite!

She did say "i pity da fool who marries u"


Im only reading bits. Enter the Dragon is on.

Hey your rite!

She did say "i pity da fool who marries u"


Im only reading bits. Enter the Dragon is on.
Of course im right homie. :D

*throws in tidbit*

A woman who is a stay at home mom saves about 400 bucks week in day care, for 1 child. (add that up for a year) Now figure out what a cleaning woman would make in a year, say 25 thousand or around there. (I'm being generous in the pay department).

Now, does a husband actually pay his wife via paycheck, with 40 hour work weeks on a time card? Paid vacation & holidays? How about overtime? Staying at home is usually a decision made by both husband & wife because of the income situation. In reality, the wife has in a way, accepted a "pay cut" to be able to do this.

Thats the reason most 'things' are split, including houses & vehicles. Both have an acquired interest in them.

when i get married im gonna make sure to sign that one paper they have (i forgot the name of it)but yeah im gonna sign that paper so all that 50/50 crap doesnt go down. how stressful

when i get married im gonna make sure to sign that one paper they have (i forgot the name of it)but yeah im gonna sign that paper so all that 50/50 crap doesnt go down. how stressful

pre nup.

Rite?

What if u marry a super rich dude? And u also lose your job. C'mon...u know ud want half!

yeah thats what its called and if i married a super rich guy there would be no devorse.

yeah thats what its called and if i married a super rich guy there would be no devorse.

It would end in murder. Just make sure u get him to write u into his will.

Do a Anna Nicole Smith! lol

lmao ill keep that in mind

50 smifty.

That 50/50 **** is bollux, and the law is so biased in favour of women.

End of.

i make more working part-time than my husband does working full-time with over-time. However, i am lucky. He's an awesome father and husband. i work part-time and take care of our house and son when i am not working, but if for some reason we were to divorce, i would happily give him half.

In New Hampshire, it is automatically 50/50 for assets and debt.
Not all states are like that. The courts are not biased in the 50/50 at all. Howver, they DO tend to be biased in child custody cases. In most instances, the young kids go to the mother and i do not agree with that. It really should be who is the most "fit" parent. Split custody (50% w/dad & 50% w/mom) should be doen whenever possible for fairness if both parents are equally fit.

50 smifty.

That 50/50 **** is bollux, and the law is so biased in favour of women.

End of.

i make more working part-time than my husband does working full-time with over-time. However, i am lucky. He's an awesome father and husband. i work part-time and take care of our house and son when i am not working, but if for some reason we were to divorce, i would happily give him half.

In New Hampshire, it is automatically 50/50 for assets and debt.
Not all states are like that. The courts are not biased in the 50/50 at all. Howver, they DO tend to be biased in child custody cases. In most instances, the young kids go to the mother and i do not agree with that. It really should be who is the most "fit" parent. Split custody (50% w/dad & 50% w/mom) should be doen whenever possible for fairness if both parents are equally fit.
Yeah thats what i meant when i referred to the biased thing. The child custody stuff....

Good unbiased post.

However. You would give 50%. But would I? that is the question. Especially if the marriage ended in a certain way/ the split was unfair/ or just the fact that giving 50% when you earned 100% is too much.....

Im being brutally honest here. Im not gonna kiss no1's ass....

yeah i feel you on that one **** that 50/50 crap, more like take all your **** and leave.

yeah i feel you on that one **** that 50/50 crap, more like take all your **** and leave.
Exactly. At least someone is talking ****ing sense....^^

However. You would give 50%. But would I? that is the question. Especially if the marriage ended in a certain way/ the split was unfair/ or just the fact that giving 50% when you earned 100% is too much.....

....


Ok, taking this, then I should get more than half. I took beatings from him, so I deserve more than half. Just because he "paid for" most of the stuff in our house, doesn't give him the right to beat me. So does that mean I deserve more?

No...not in my opinion. He gets half and I get half. Fair.

when i get married im gonna make sure to sign that one paper they have (i forgot the name of it)but yeah im gonna sign that paper so all that 50/50 crap doesnt go down. how stressful


It's called a pre-nuptial agreement and I don't see why they have them anyhow in this state.

It's 50/50 on what was obtained DURING the marriage. Anything brought into, was recieved as a gift or as an inheritance, is automatically that person's. The longer married, the more obtained....the more to split up.