The past couple of months ive been with this girl, i dont know if one could call us couple but a lot off people did cause we were as a couple, the thing is satuday before saturday someone i used to call a friend jumped on here, well knowing about us and my feelings, and they are togehter now.

Ive never feeled so betrayed ore hurt, i was knocked by solar plexus once and that felt good compared to this.

The question what am i supposed to with this man i havent seen him ore talked to him since i found out.

I dont think i should beat the crap out off, but i dont think im able to control my anger the next time i see him.

What would you guys do?

first , if the so called "friend" took that girl , that is because she wanted him to , remember that.

she gave him an opportunity , and he took it. SHE betrayed you , never forget it. so you wannabe with a girl who humiliates and backstab you ?

change your target , there are plenty more fishes in the see.

If I were you and I'd see him again and he'd talk to me I'd spit him in the face. If he were to punch first I'd be very welcome.

But that's just the emontional site of it. This wasn't your girlfriend and you didn't have a real relationship. At least that's how I understood it. He is an ****ing ******* though since he knew about your feelings. But you gotta think another way round: You should be happy that this girl isn't your girlfriend 'cause she cheated on you even before your relationship could begin. ;)

I'd advise you to tell him how he hurt your feelings and that you don't give a **** about him anymore and I'd tell that girl how she let you down and leave em both for good. Ther're plenty of other girls and noone needs friends like that.

first , if the so called "friend" took that girl , that is because she wanted him to , remember that.

she gave him an opportunity , and he took it. SHE betrayed you , never forget it. so you wannabe with a girl who humiliates and backstab you ?

change your target , there are plenty more fishes in the see.

Well yes she did, but so did he, besides i cnat hurt here but i can hurt him.

I should forget about here i just cant.

I now theres more fish out there and a lot off fish who wants to, but still i lost the goldfish.

I should do something with him to keep my selfrespect.

If I were you and I'd see him again and he'd talk to me I'd spit him in the face. If he were to punch first I'd be very welcome.

But that's just the emontional site of it. This wasn't your girlfriend and you didn't have a real relationship. At least that's how I understood it. He is an ****ing ******* though since he knew about your feelings. But you gotta think another way round: You should be happy that this girl isn't your girlfriend 'cause she cheated on you even before your relationship could begin. ;)

I'd advise you to tell him how he hurt your feelings and that you don't give a **** about him anymore and I'd tell that girl how she let you down and leave em both for good. Ther're plenty of other girls and noone needs friends like that.

I definaltly will see him again we share like 10 friends and im even in class with him.

He knows how i feel, and he is shis scared to meet me.

But as i said to Tino, i realy cant let this pass fore, i got my selfrespect to protect.

Yes im tru with here allthough i still feel strongly for here.

Yes i know there are other girls but stil......

ok forget was i said , beat the crap out of that mother****er !

Bros before hos dude.

Get with like 5 other *****es if you can. That will make you feel a lil better.

I definaltly will see him again we share like 10 friends and im even in class with him.

He knows how i feel, and he is shis scared to meet me.

But as i said to Tino, i realy cant let this pass fore, i got my selfrespect to protect.

Yes im tru with here allthough i still feel strongly for here.

Yes i know there are other girls but stil......

You're speaking of respect for yourself right? So you're trying to respect yourself for being weak? For not being strong enough to resist? There's no point in beating him up. Your fists will hurt and his nose may be broken but it won't change a thing. It wont stop em to **** like rabbits and laugh at you while they do.

You gotta get over it and if you do you'll find a more beautiful and loveable girl that doesn't let you down. She doesn't deserve you, neither does he. Ignore him and her and let time heal your wounds.

Get with like 5 other *****es if you can. That will make you feel a lil better.

Well i tried that but i steel feel like ****.

masturbation is always an option ...

You're speaking of respect for yourself right? So you're trying to respect yourself for being weak? For not being strong enough to resist? There's no point in beating him up. Your fists will hurt and his nose may be broken but it won't change a thing. It wont stop em to **** like rabbits and laugh at you while they do.

You gotta get over it and if you do you'll find a more beautiful and loveable girl that doesn't let you down. She doesn't deserve you, neither does he. Ignore him and her and let time heal your wounds.

Well, you dont think it would feel better if i broke some of his ribbs, i think so but im sure of it.

And it would also prevent him from ever doing it again.

But your probably right, ill try to forget here and ill try to find some other girl.

It wont stop em to **** like rabbits and laugh at you while they do.
This allmost made me cry.

masturbation is always an option ...

Tried it dont realy help, this isnt about sex, this is deeper.

You said you weren't even sure if you where a couple or not. So with you saying that I would say she was open game. I think if you would have treated like you where a couple she might still be around. Apparently she was tired of you and wanted something else. Sorry the truth hurts. If she didn't want she wouldn't have done it. Everyone wants to blame the guy cause you can hit him but the bottom line is if she didn't want him she wouldn't have him.

I'll tell you exactly what to do. Ignore the ***** and the ******* guy. Make it seem like you dont give a ****. Make it seem like you are having fun whatever you are doing and wherever you are is the place to be. She, being the ***** that she obviosly is, will come back to you in due time.
Dont wait on this to happen before you start to bang other chicks. The bast way to get over some ***** you lost is to get new *****. New ***** always makes it feel better. When she does come back, there are no guarantees that she will, you will already be part way over it because of the new chicks you are banging so you wont fall back into her arms easily. Its ok to start banging her again, but dont stop banging other chicks. If she knows your banging other chicks that is even better. She will want you more. After letting this go on for a while, slowly let her more and more into your heart. She if you can trust her again. Chances are, by this time you will realize that there are much better people out there for you and its a lot funner banging strange chicks from time to time than it is to be in a relationship.

You will be OK man. It all just takes time. Keep your head up and go get some new ***** pronto!!!

Well, you dont think it would feel better if i broke some of his ribbs, i think so but im sure of it.

And it would also prevent him from ever doing it again.

But your probably right, ill try to forget here and ill try to find some other girl.

It wont stop em to **** like rabbits and laugh at you while they do.
This allmost made me cry.

Leff, you cant do anything crazy. That will only bring them closer together. Do not break down in front of her and do not kick his ass,. You cannot do those things. Trust me dude. Ive been through **** just like this before. Read my other post if you want to know what you should really do.

Believe it or not, you're not the only person that this has happened to. The world is full of girls who befriend guys who think that there's more to it than that. Sometimes the guy asks the girl out, gets rejected and then that's that. Other times the girl starts going out with someone else and the guy gets pissed off because he thinks he somehow "owned" the girl even though nothing was officially happening. Let me tell you, if you two were meant to be together, than none of this **** would be happening. Do you think if someone is really the future love of your life that they would be too stupid to realize it and start going out with other people?

As for your friend, that sucks, but it happens. The thing is that you stuck yourself in this limboland where you like the girl, ahng out with her, but didn't make your intentions clear. Hate to say it, but you've created the mess you're in. Nothing to be ashamed about, though. It happens to everyone to some degree sometime or another. But put the blame where it lies and start coming clean to everyone.

Non violence is good. But a left hook with an audience will garentee no guy will mess with ur girl again. Even if she wasnt "officially", u knew the score, she knew, and that guy knew.
Think of it as a romantically violent jesture, u know, like saying, "im sooo ****in hurt by this, i could never call u a ***** or slap u, so im gonna make a public announcement with my fists!!"

No, seriously, she'll come running back, just ignore her. It will probably hurt her to see that u dont give a ****, and ur happy without her.
And also, violence is somthing u do, not debate. If you where that kind of guy, u would have done it already.
Be yourself.

Non violence is good. But a left hook with an audience will garentee no guy will mess with ur girl again. Even if she wasnt "officially", u knew the score, she knew, and that guy knew.

I'm not so sure about the girl. No offense, but a lot of girls are pretty dim about this sort of thing. They seem to think that a guy hanging around them all the time only wants to be "friends" unless he states otherwise. Nine times out of ten they are dead wrong. I have no idea why girls continue to think this way, but it's a fact.

I'm not so sure about the girl. No offense, but a lot of girls are pretty dim about this sort of thing. They seem to think that a guy hanging around them all the time only wants to be "friends" unless he states otherwise. Nine times out of ten they are dead wrong. I have no idea why girls continue to think this way, but it's a fact.

I dont think we even know if Leff banged this chick or not. I get the feeling he has.

first , if the so called "friend" took that girl , that is because she wanted him to , remember that.

she gave him an opportunity , and he took it. SHE betrayed you , never forget it. so you wannabe with a girl who humiliates and backstab you ?

change your target , there are plenty more fishes in the see.

My French friend has hit the nail right on the head.

My French friend has hit the nail right on the head.

Except for the part about "fishes in the see". Does he mean the Holy See? Gotta love those Vatican City girls :D ...

The past couple of months ive been with this girl, i dont know if one could call us couple but a lot off people did cause we were as a couple, the thing is satuday before saturday someone i used to call a friend jumped on here, well knowing about us and my feelings, and they are togehter now.

Ive never feeled so betrayed ore hurt, i was knocked by solar plexus once and that felt good compared to this.

The question what am i supposed to with this man i havent seen him ore talked to him since i found out.

I dont think i should beat the crap out off, but i dont think im able to control my anger the next time i see him.

What would you guys do?

I would like to say rise above it but i cant imagine how bad that would be!! I personally wouldnt be so nice because its not right, any decent person wouldnt do that!! But thats just me, i have very strong opinions and a very violent temper if anyone gets on the wrong side of me.

Forget the girl she must be a ****ing *****, a lot of girl act nice but they let you down! It comes as a shock but in time your glad it happened before you and the girl got serious. Just remember this when you think about cheating on your next girl.

IMO you gotta seriously think about it, i've been in trouble with the law for beating on people and its not the route you want to go down for a couple of idiots.

first , if the so called "friend" took that girl , that is because she wanted him to , remember that.

she gave him an opportunity , and he took it. SHE betrayed you , never forget it. so you wannabe with a girl who humiliates and backstab you ?

change your target , there are plenty more fishes in the see.

I agree with this to a point, but I'd be pissed at BOTH of them. I mean, they both did this knowing how it would affect you, but out of sheer decency and respect for the friendship he should have walked away. But she is definately not worth having if she'd mess around on you and even worse do so with someone you even know (let alone call a friend). If you two werent that serious just yet then it's a good thing this happened now I think...better now than later (and apparently there definately would have been a later) and dont be too surprised if once the thrill of it is over if she dont come sniffing around you again...be prepared and do the smart thing (tell her to kiss your ass, in other words) This advice is coming from the other side of the fence, for what it's worth ;)

The past couple of months ive been with this girl, i dont know if one could call us couple but a lot off people did cause we were as a couple, the thing is satuday before saturday someone i used to call a friend jumped on here, well knowing about us and my feelings, and they are togehter now.

Ive never feeled so betrayed ore hurt, i was knocked by solar plexus once and that felt good compared to this.

The question what am i supposed to with this man i havent seen him ore talked to him since i found out.

I dont think i should beat the crap out off, but i dont think im able to control my anger the next time i see him.

What would you guys do?

They are not worth your aggravation or even wasting your breath on em.

Not to mention the fact that you yourself didnt know if you guys were a couple if thats what u wanted you should have said it. Either way if your "friend" knew how you felt and he did that then all you can do is forget that he is your friend. And move on.

If you were the best man and friend you could be then thats it, just move on and they will miss you and you shouldnt miss them.

By the way you should always realize that the girl betrayed you as well, the only reason we kick the man's ass is because you cant hit a girl :D

Oh and remember THERE ARE NO SECOND CHANCES. There are plenty of fish in the see for both girls and friends.

Beat on him
Throw him in the water for a swim
Knock him in the grass
then slip it in his ass

You said you weren't even sure if you where a couple or not. So with you saying that I would say she was open game. I think if you would have treated like you where a couple she might still be around. Apparently she was tired of you and wanted something else. Sorry the truth hurts. If she didn't want she wouldn't have done it. Everyone wants to blame the guy cause you can hit him but the bottom line is if she didn't want him she wouldn't have him.

I did treat as if we were, we were out togheter like 6-7 weekend nights in a row, and yes we were intimate.

And after i tolld her i was in love, the day after i did she told me she that i was fantastic, that she loved me and that she meant it.
But she couldent get here ex of here mind, i was told he was 19 and she i 16 and that he was not nice at all, the dont take a no as an asnwer kind.

She then said she dident want us to go furter at time, but she promised that i would be the first when she was ready.

Thats like 5 weeks ago and the rest is historie.

Non violence is good. But a left hook with an audience will garentee no guy will mess with ur girl again. Even if she wasnt "officially", u knew the score, she knew, and that guy knew.
Think of it as a romantically violent jesture, u know, like saying, "im sooo ****in hurt by this, i could never call u a ***** or slap u, so im gonna make a public announcement with my fists!!"

No, seriously, she'll come running back, just ignore her. It will probably hurt her to see that u dont give a ****, and ur happy without her.
And also, violence is somthing u do, not debate. If you where that kind of guy, u would have done it already.
Be yourself.

But i dp give a ****.

I would like to say rise above it but i cant imagine how bad that would be!! I personally wouldnt be so nice because its not right, any decent person wouldnt do that!! But thats just me, i have very strong opinions and a very violent temper if anyone gets on the wrong side of me.

Forget the girl she must be a ****ing *****, a lot of girl act nice but they let you down! It comes as a shock but in time your glad it happened before you and the girl got serious. Just remember this when you think about cheating on your next girl.

IMO you gotta seriously think about it, i've been in trouble with the law for beating on people and its not the route you want to go down for a couple of idiots.

Im considering it, but necassery baeting him......perhaps something else....time will tell.

They are not worth your aggravation or even wasting your breath on em.

Not to mention the fact that you yourself didnt know if you guys were a couple if thats what u wanted you should have said it. Either way if your "friend" knew how you felt and he did that then all you can do is forget that he is your friend. And move on.

If you were the best man and friend you could be then thats it, just move on and they will miss you and you shouldnt miss them.

By the way you should always realize that the girl betrayed you as well, the only reason we kick the man's ass is because you cant hit a girl :D

Your right its her fault as well, but im not capable off hurting here.

well anyway ill get my 3 6packs and my elf hat and be on my way, im going to pre chrismas party at a friend, im gonna get wasted and find some other girl.

But i dp give a ****.

But you need to act like you dont. Its the only way you can walk with your head up. She was just a fling and thats it man. She talks to you just say whats up speak like acquaintances, show no emotions, if you were that good she wont tell you but she'll know what she lost then.