Do you people stay friends with your ex's? Normally I stay friendly with mine, but don't usually hang out with them anymore. I say normally because I have one exception. I've dated quite a bit since I've been in the NW, but have only been in 2 serious relationships in the 3 years I've lived here. One was with a co-worker at the last firm I worked with, that ended ugly and precipitated my move to this firm. Worst break up I ever had. The other one didn't end bad it just ended after we had lived together for a little over a year. She's one of my best friends(and no, not friends with benefits) now and we hang out all the time. Anyway, it's her birthday this Sunday and we're supposed to hang out, problem is her mom just moved here from Chicago and we ****ing HATE each other. This was probably one of the reasons things didn't work out. She thinks that my profession is immoral, and I have no respect for her because she has never earned anything in her life. She inherited like 4 million dollars and just ****s around looking for new hobbies all the time. She wouldn't bug me so bad, but she acts condescending like she's some kind of brilliant know it all. Anyway, I'm wondering what would be worse, to NOT go out with my friend and her mom for the birthday and give her presents later, or to bite the bullet and hope me and her mom don't try and kill each other. Thoughts?

It should be different now that you're not with her. Now shes just your friend. Trust me when I say "I've been there". My ex's mom hated me. I mean she'd tell older brother and his friends that I'm a druggie, that I feed her daughter drugs and all kinds of ****ed up ****. Me and my ex are now like best friends (like you said, not friends with benefits), but we can talk about anything... I mean its like we know eachother inside n out (literally, lol). Her mom calls me to see how I am doing now, to see if I want to go out and eat with her and her husband. Older brother calls me 50 times a day wanting to hang out. ****s weird like that. I'm sure it'll be different this time around. I say forget about the past and start over with her mom brand new. Make the best of it, esspecially if your ex is truly one of your good friends and means alot to you.

You bring up some good points Dogg. I haven't spoken with her mom since we were together, so the dynamic is different. I guess I'll go with them on Sunday and see how it goes.

Yeah. It should be totally different. If the cunt does'nt cut you any slack, bolt the **** outta there and let your ex know that you wish it could be better and that you gave it a shot.

If I had 4 million dollars all I would do is live in the gym and post on the interent. Much like my current life but with money.

agree w/ dogg. she might not hate you as bad now that she knows you won't be her stepson.

Bluecifer -- what do you do again?

I try to be friends with my exs but I can't be bothered being the only one putting in effort. If it's mutual effort and respect, kewl. If not, I don't wanna know them. I'd rather spend my time chasing new ***** than old *****.

I'm a Personnel Consultant(also known as a corporate headhunter, but that term is frowned upon in the industry)

Anyway, it was ****ing trippy. We got along GREAT. We went to the movies, dinner, hung out, bonded like we never had before. They loved the presents I got. It went suprisingly smooth. I'm really glad I went.

I'm a Personnel Consultant(also known as a corporate headhunter, but that term is frowned upon in the industry)


why?

The term personnel consultant conjures up images of a consultative approach to helping companies with their staffing needs. The term headhunter emphasizes the less savory side of our industry which some see as stealing personnel from one company and placing them with a competitor. For that reason, many headhunters are not very popular. It's kind of funny, people that don't really understand what I do are like "Oh, you help people get jobs? That's realy cool". I'm like, Uh.....no. 95% of the people I place already have a job, I just get them to leave their current job for a job with a better compensation package that a competitor offers and puts me on retainer to direct recruit a candidate with a specific skill set or industry knowledge.

freinds wth most

I'm a Personnel Consultant(also known as a corporate headhunter, but that term is frowned upon in the industry)

Anyway, it was ****ing trippy. We got along GREAT. We went to the movies, dinner, hung out, bonded like we never had before. They loved the presents I got. It went suprisingly smooth. I'm really glad I went.


Awesome that you went then! One never knows until they try. You gain nothing by not trying.

My dad loved headhunters...they always helped him find a better job and the made him happy! Which, in turn, made me happy. So consider yourself sort of a counsler, helping people be happy which in turn makes their families happier....so see, you are providing a service to families.......lol. :heart:

That's a good way to look at it.

The term personnel consultant conjures up images of a consultative approach to helping companies with their staffing needs. The term headhunter emphasizes the less savory side of our industry which some see as stealing personnel from one company and placing them with a competitor. For that reason, many headhunters are not very popular. It's kind of funny, people that don't really understand what I do are like "Oh, you help people get jobs? That's realy cool". I'm like, Uh.....no. 95% of the people I place already have a job, I just get them to leave their current job for a job with a better compensation package that a competitor offers and puts me on retainer to direct recruit a candidate with a specific skill set or industry knowledge.

So in other words, you poach people from companies by helping them get better packages.

Blue, the world needs MORE people like you. Not less. **** these punk ass ****noses that talk **** about you.

Thanks. I mean I only "poach" from companies that were rude to me or have made it clear to that they'll never work with me, I'd never do that to my existing client companies. The candidates I place are generally happy, I mean I'm employer paid so they get my services for free. Too bad, I can't charge the candidates too, but I guess that would be kinda like double dipping. Anyway, I've heard of recruiters actually putting companies out of business by decimating their key personnel, of course the opposite is true too. I like to think I've made my clients stronger companies by providing high caliber employees.

Im friends with my new ex...sucks that she wont let me hit it no more... oh well

Thanks. I mean I only "poach" from companies that were rude to me or have made it clear to that they'll never work with me, I'd never do that to my existing client companies. The candidates I place are generally happy, I mean I'm employer paid so they get my services for free. Too bad, I can't charge the candidates too, but I guess that would be kinda like double dipping. Anyway, I've heard of recruiters actually putting companies out of business by decimating their key personnel, of course the opposite is true too. I like to think I've made my clients stronger companies by providing high caliber employees.

In an age where companies have ZERO loyalty to the employee, a person who actually brings better deals for the employee is a gem in the rough.

**** the cunts that give you ****. Punch them in the face and kick them in the nuts.