k i found out a week ago that i beat my cancer well so they think so now before anything happens i wanna have a baby. now my chances of getting pregnant are a little bit better but doctors say i'll probably lose it with in the first 3 months if i did get pregnant. everybodys telling me im to young and that im crazy and not to do it and yeah this is probably a crazy i wanna have a baby phase im going through
i know some of yall are mean and harsh and could care less but i still want yalls opinion cause everybody keeps telling me the same thing
what should i do?

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i wouldn't do it unless you're pretty sure that you've got a good chance of being around to raise your child

Originally posted by Purity
i wouldn't do it unless you're pretty

What Purity said.

I'm not sure how old you are, but I know pretty young, around 21 would be my guess. I had my daughter at 22. Having children is more work than you can ever imagine. Just had a long day at work, well that don't matter cause you've still got a child to feed. Wanna go out on a Saturday night, well better find a babysitter and have money to pay them. It's basically a 24 hour a day job. Child care for baby's runs around $600 or more a month. Food, diapers, clothes, medical expenses it all adds up quick. Now everytime she tells me she loves me, or gives me a hug when I get home from work I know that all these things are worth it. I'm not saying do or don't, it's your decision, but really, really think about it, think about what you want to do with your life, how a child would fit into that. And make damn sure you've got a decent guy if you decide to try and get pregnant.

Originally posted by TeckGirl
k i found out a week ago that i beat my cancer well so they think so now before anything happens i wanna have a baby. now my chances of getting pregnant are a little bit better but doctors say i'll probably lose it with in the first 3 months if i did get pregnant. everybodys telling me im to young and that im crazy and not to do it and yeah this is probably a crazy i wanna have a baby phase im going through
i know some of yall are mean and harsh and could care less but i still want yalls opinion cause everybody keeps telling me the same thing
what should i do? I don't post here much, and I'm sure I'll catch flack for this. But, do not have a child. Whatever thoughts you have of immortality with this aren't going to work.

Sounds like you would rather have a dress up doll to show off and play with instead of being around to raise a child.

Stop being selfish for a minute, and think about what would happen if you did have one. There might be a higher chance that it's born with a birth defect. You could also have it, and then be too sick to care for it, leaving someone else to raise it. Or you could die, and it would either be taken by your family, not being in a normal structured family, or it could wind up in the system. Neither are very smart solutions.

I have to agree with hesatool.

I have to agree with Stain....

TeckGirl , enjoy being healthy for awhile! Enjoy living without the fear of dyeing for awhile..... Enjoy doing things you didn't think you'd have time to do, make plans for a future. But wait for the baby, give yourself time to accept the fact that you'll be here to enjoy raising another little life somewhere in the future!

I agree with Momita. Enjoy being healthy. Having baby is an overwhelming responsibility that is never ending. You won't get the chance to be young again. Zen said it all in his. My life has been my kids since I was 21. If I had it to do over again, I'd grow up first, then have my family, but I didn't have a choice as my babies were pill babies. But then again, when they tell me that they love me....it's all worth it. You have the choice. And listen to your doctor. If you have a chance of losing a baby within the first three months right now, wait. Let your body get strong again. God will let you know when the time is right and bring the right man along. It takes two to raise a child.....it can be done by one, but there is a reason for two parents.

good luck in your decision.