Yep. My g/f of four years has broken up with me. Her b-day is tomorrow along with Christmas being in three days. Should I give her the gifts I have for her or take them back and spend it selfishly on myself?

sorry man.

depends on the reason for the break up i guess

I hate to say it...but I told you that wouldn't work.

awwww, thats so sad :( 4 years is a really long time. if it was a 'good' break up and you two are still on pretty decent terms, i'd give'em to her. its such a pain to take stuff back anyway. but if it was pretty messy...**** it...i'd keep everything and give it to the next girl.

I don't know how to classify it. She just heard some bull**** from some of her other friends and believes it.
We have been having some issues for a while now but were staying together because we had more good than bad thing going. I'm not really upset about it as it will be nice to be single again. It's just a shock to the system when we were talking about marriage not long ago and now I'm back in the hunt.

Originally posted by Green Iguana Queen
I hate to say it...but I told you that wouldn't work.
Yep, you sure did.

well as far as the marriage thing goes...look at it this way...its better to realize now that things wouldn't work than to go actually go through with it and get married and end up having to get divorced later on.

If it was me I'd give them to her. Kind of a "no hard feelings/lets still be friends" offer

Originally posted by Exotica
well as far as the marriage thing goes...look at it this way...its better to realize now that things wouldn't work than to go actually go through with it and get married and end up having to get divorced later on.
You are right. I really wasn't ready for all of that anyway.

Originally posted by Curly Howard
If it was me I'd give them to her. Kind of a "no hard feelings/lets still be friends" offer
Yeah, that plus she's already given me my x-mas present. Where are all the guys telling me to be an *******?!?!?!

Originally posted by Curly Howard
If it was me I'd give them to her. Kind of a "no hard feelings/lets still be friends" offer

**** that. i wouldn't wanna be her friend.

Originally posted by prime cut
Where are all the guys telling me to be an *******?!?!?!

Purity to the rescue

She shouldn't get jack ****, **** it.
Go get yourself some new year's new tang and make sure she finds out about it.

Originally posted by prime cut
Yep. My g/f of four years has broken up with me. Her b-day is tomorrow along with Christmas being in three days. Should I give her the gifts I have for her or take them back and spend it selfishly on myself? SUcks bro. My ex left me on 12/24/99 and we were together for 4 years also. Keep the giftys and avid her at all costs. You'll get over her....

Originally posted by prime cut
It's just a shock to the system when we were talking about marriage not long ago and now I'm back in the hunt. me too man. We bought our wedding set like 2 months prior to the break up

Originally posted by prime cut
Yep. My g/f of four years has broken up with me. Her b-day is tomorrow along with Christmas being in three days. Should I give her the gifts I have for her or take them back and spend it selfishly on myself?

Sorry man. IMO give the gifts and start a good relation as good friends, It's a topic but it can be the best.

PS: Now you'll have more time to finish Hitman 2!!! ;)

Originally posted by prime cut
Yep. My g/f of four years has broken up with me. Her b-day is tomorrow along with Christmas being in three days. Should I give her the gifts I have for her or take them back and spend it selfishly on myself? as stupid as it sounds... buy her her presents, give em to her and go on about your business.

Originally posted by The Spaniard
PS: Now you'll have more time to finish Hitman 2!!! ;)


I finished Hitman 2 like a year ago. Get with the times, holmeses.

Originally posted by Curly Howard
If it was me I'd give them to her. Kind of a "no hard feelings/lets still be friends" offer

Right now I'm leaning toward her getting nothing.

Go have makeup sex and throw 20 bucks on the bed as you're leaving to get even. It makes her feel like a whore and you get to give her a gift.

This sounds all too familiar...

If you see her as being part of the future in some way, then give her whatever, if you don't...bang her friend that ****ed you over

Originally posted by prime cut
Right now I'm leaning toward her getting nothing.

why the hell would you get her something???

gee, thanx for ****canning me 3 days before christmas. as a token of appreciation for assuring that my holiday will be nice and comforting, i'd like to present you with these friendship items. keep these to remember that no matter what, i'll always be your buddy ol' pal. call me anytime.

I broke up with a girl once 2 weeks before Xmas, but I dropped around the stuff I had already gotten her on Xmas eve...she then blew me.

Great times...great times

Video tape of you ****ing her sister is always a good gift.

Originally posted by Curly Howard
If it was me I'd give them to her. Kind of a "no hard feelings/lets still be friends" offer

Curly=Nice guy:)

It depends on how you feel and what the gifts mean. It also depends on what the break up was over and how do you think she will "receive" them. You don't want to put her on the spot and have her think you are wanting her back....or do you? Touch call. Good Luck. Sorry about the whole mess.

Originally posted by Purity
why the hell would you get her something???

gee, thanx for ****canning me 3 days before christmas. as a token of appreciation for assuring that my holiday will be nice and comforting, i'd like to present you with these friendship items. keep these to remember that no matter what, i'll always be your buddy ol' pal. call me anytime.


but think of it this way Tony. She cared enough to do it before Christmas so he didnt have to spend money on a gift. My cousin got a present and a ski trip out of his gf before he dumped her. That was an ******* thing. I dotn know if she did it to be a ***** or did so she wouldnt take advantage but what the hell, why burn bridges.

Originally posted by Aaron Bizarre
but think of it this way Tony. She cared enough to do it before Christmas so he didnt have to spend money on a gift. My cousin got a present and a ski trip out of his gf before he dumped her. That was an ******* thing. I dotn know if she did it to be a ***** or did so she wouldnt take advantage but what the hell, why burn bridges.

true but why build bridges when nobody's gonna cross em? and if she cared to do it before he had to spend money on a gift, then she won't be expecting a gift, so there's no loss....only gain for another loved one when you can take the money and get them a cooler present.

Originally posted by Gman
Go have makeup sex and throw 20 bucks on the bed as you're leaving to get even. It makes her feel like a whore and you get to give her a gift.

lmao......ouch...

I talked to her for the first time since Friday. She was giving this drawn out speech about me "playing" her and ****. I cut her off and told her to go **** herself and that I was through with her **** and hung the phone up. She just called back and wants to come over tonight and make-up and that she was sorry for not believing me to begin with. I tell ya, if you act like you don't give a **** in times like this, women just can't take it.

She's sorry for not believing that you weren't cheating on her? Even though you really were?

is she just being jealous or in your honest opinion do you give her a reason to be? Just curious im not passing judgement.

Originally posted by Green Iguana Queen
She's sorry for not believing that you weren't cheating on her? Even though you really were?
The last time I cheated was about a year ago, I quit that ****.

Originally posted by Aaron Bizarre
is she just being jealous or in your honest opinion do you give her a reason to be? Just curious im not passing judgement.
II was known to spread my self arround before we started dating and she knows that women are attracted to me so she worries about what I do when we are apart.

Originally posted by prime cut
she knows that women are attracted to me so she worries about what I do when we are apart.

thats called insecurity.

Originally posted by Dogg^x0
thats called insecurity.
We have a long distance relationship so that makes it a little tougher on her. She attends nursing school 3 hours away from where I live.

Okay instead of throwing the 20 bucks on the bed. Lick the bill and slap it onto her ass.

dude if you take back her presents and get the cash then you can get one of those "set it and forget it" rotissori machines. those things make animals SOOOO ****ing good. we just cooked a honey-baked ham in one of em last week and it came out perfect!!

I love to cook, tell me more about this machine. How much does it cost?

Originally posted by prime cut
We have a long distance relationship so that makes it a little tougher on her. She attends nursing school 3 hours away from where I live.

insecure, regardless. otherwise she just has a "trust" issue with you.

Originally posted by Dogg^x0
insecure, regardless. otherwise she just has a "trust" issue with you.
Yes, it's a trust issue. We had a big problem about two years ago that we worked through, but if she hears the right words from a source she thinks is credible, she thinks the worst.

Originally posted by prime cut
I love to cook, tell me more about this machine. How much does it cost?

http://www.wonderfulbuys.com/kitchen/ronshowrot.html

aye, my dad has one of those, makes a mean chicken

Originally posted by Purity
dude if you take back her presents and get the cash then you can get one of those "set it and forget it" rotissori machines. those things make animals SOOOO ****ing good. we just cooked a honey-baked ham in one of em last week and it came out perfect!!

:nonono:

mmmmm honey baked ham *drooling*

if he's got any $$$ leftover then he can buy that 10pack king of the cage dvd set. now ask yourself, what's better?

1. watching 101 NHB fights while eating finely rotisserized animal ORRRRR
2. validating to your ex that you're a sucker and wanna stay in contact with her so you can discuss updates of different guys that are gonna get with her.

i would go for #1

STFU n00b

Smoking and listening Ravi Shankar with or without a girl....

curly's been on the rag lately.

no someone else has

Originally posted by Purity
curly's been on the rag lately.

just curiosity, what's the meaning of this expression?

Originally posted by The Spaniard
just curiosity, what's the meaning of this expression?

he's comparing me to a menstruating female.

Originally posted by The Spaniard
just curiosity, what's the meaning of this expression?

"being on the rag"= jealousy derived from the envious observation that another individual is having sexual intercourse with MORE sheep then the individual subject him/herself.

aaaaaaa...ok, thanks...

Originally posted by Purity
"being on the rag"= jealousy derived from the envious observation that another individual is having sexual intercourse with MORE sheep then the individual subject him/herself.

LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Originally posted by prime cut
Yes, it's a trust issue. We had a big problem about two years ago that we worked through, but if she hears the right words from a source she thinks is credible, she thinks the worst.


sounds like you 2 shouldnt have been together anyways. if she doesnt trust you, and being 3 hours away... being with you has just got to send her mind into stress 24/7. that aint healthy. its prolly better that you 2 broke up. prolly be better to maybe get her a card for xmas saying merry xmas and best of wishes. thats it. dont get her a present. just a little something nothing. atleast thats what i would do.

Originally posted by Curly Howard
STFU n00b :love:

I would say give her the gifts dude.

way to kill the thread Rigid

the Anchor King

That rotisserie thing looks alright...if I split with my girl, will get one of those to?

yeah but if you ****CAN your girl then you get the dvds too

done

sweet deal...consider it done

another satisfied customer

who needs a relationship when you can have a rotisserie

Finely roasted meat is much more fulfilling to me than some half baked relationship any day

plus my wife gets *****y when I shove an apple in her mouth and stuff her from behind

strange woman

Originally posted by prime cut
I don't know how to classify it. She just heard some bull**** from some of her other friends and believes it.
We have been having some issues for a while now but were staying together because we had more good than bad thing going. I'm not really upset about it as it will be nice to be single again. It's just a shock to the system when we were talking about marriage not long ago and now I'm back in the hunt.


Look at what you just wrote objectively and ask yourself... was it real love?

probably not if she trusts her friends more then you and takes their word over yours.
If your not upset then that shows that your feelings were not overwhelming for her either. Regardless im sorry you have to go through any ill feelings you might have and i hope it all works out dude,

Originally posted by prime cut
Yep. My g/f of four years has broken up with me. Her b-day is tomorrow along with Christmas being in three days. Should I give her the gifts I have for her or take them back and spend it selfishly on myself?

Give them to anyone but her....**** Her (not Proper)

Originally posted by astroboy

If your not upset then that shows that your feelings were not overwhelming for her either.
Not really, I'm just an *******.

an ******* who just came up on a rotisserizing gizmo :) :) :)

..i havnt posted in like a year..but man...im goign through somthing like this, if she says shes sorry try to get back with her, give her the presetns and **** her that night..its a fight everyone goes through them..doesnt mean u guys arnt ment to be..

ok, listen, its basically like this...someone once told me this when i was in my last relationship which EVERYONE KNEW would fail but me. YOU WONT LET IT GO UNTIL YOURE READY. If you still have feelings for this girl...you aren't going to let her go no matter how damned to hell your relatoinship is until youre good and ready. and its true. even if she breaks up with you, you're not going to let her go until youre ready. so in essence...no one knows the answer to ur relationship probs but you as far as what you should do.

Originally posted by Exotica
ok, listen, its basically like this...someone once told me this when i was in my last relationship which EVERYONE KNEW would fail but me. YOU WONT LET IT GO UNTIL YOURE READY. If you still have feelings for this girl...you aren't going to let her go no matter how damned to hell your relatoinship is until youre good and ready. and its true. even if she breaks up with you, you're not going to let her go until youre ready. so in essence...no one knows the answer to ur relationship probs but you as far as what you should do.

exactly

that's why it's best to always be ready. you cannot MAKE someone love you. when they don't want you anymore, bye.

Originally posted by Purity
that's why it's best to always be ready. you cannot MAKE someone love you. when they don't want you anymore, bye.
Yea, that's howI take relationships. My high-school g/f broke up with me and it crushed me. Ever since then, I take it all in stride and if the girl starts acting ****ed up, I just take it in stride. Chasing a girl is the perfect way to make sure she never takes you back or she's just gonna play you till she gets tired of doing that.

that's it right there. i got no problem doing what it takes to make a relationship work. but a good relationship is not me putting in 80% and her putting in 20%. if we're not both wanting to make it happen then there's really no point in taking it seriously.
either become **** buddies, friends, both, or go your separate ways. only NEVER leave it in resentment.

that's the ideal sitch as far as i'm concerned.

Originally posted by Purity
that's it right there. i got no problem doing what it takes to make a relationship work. but a good relationship is not me putting in 80% and her putting in 20%. if we're not both wanting to make it happen then there's really no point in taking it seriously.
either become **** buddies, friends, both, or go your separate ways. only NEVER leave it in resentment.

that's the ideal sitch as far as i'm concerned.

rght on brotha