Technology is a given, its the way forward - we as a species are lazy, we like convenience we like things to be done in the push of a button. Mobile phones, forums, IM chat, etc have all come into our lives and has altered the way that people engage in relationships.

No longer do you have to see people in person to give them affection, you don't even have to hear their voice over the phone - and this has bread a new kind of affection...e-ffection.

Messaging a love note is easier than saying it, its faster, its more convenient and there is no shyness to deal with - through electronic networks, be it computer or mobile phones, you can be anyone you want to be, you can become the resident romeo without having to leave your mental comfort zone.

But is a little bit of yourself lost in the binary affection?

Does "I love you." mean the same thing as when its spoken? Does it carry the same weight or is it desensitizing us to that which is spoken from the heart through a keypad?

It might sound like nonsense, but I see this everyway, people smiling while looking at what someone is thinking about them on a tiny screen - rather than hearing it with their own ears, feeling it on their own skin, tasting it with their own lips.

The change has been so gradual, that it has almost become the norm without people realising it - I think more people need to get back to the basics. Or do you think otherwise?

- m

Take it from me:

Nothing is going to replace actually being with someone in person. Technology (at least in it's current form) can't replace it.

- J.

I get no ***** from the internet of real life.

Originally posted by Gman
I get no ***** from the internet of real life.

In your case Gman, technology is your only hope.

- J.

Originally posted by The Jake
Take it from me:

Nothing is going to replace actually being with someone in person. Technology (at least in it's current form) can't replace it.

- J.
Totally agree. My only relationship started on the net but nothing can compare to hearing the person's voice or seeing their face. Not even close.

Originally posted by HockeyFighter
Totally agree. My only relationship started on the net but nothing can compare to hearing the person's voice or seeing their face. Not even close.

I hear ya loud and clear on that one. But then again, I think you know that....

- J.

Originally posted by The Jake
In your case Gman, technology is your only hope.

- J.

No I hate to say it but I'm a good looking man. I've lost 20 pounds and I'm still going. I know how to work a room but I'm just not clear on what I want from all the woman. I need to finish the deal and get it done.

Jarrod - I have a question for you. Did you find that the first time you talked to Arju on the phone it was almost like starting over again in the relationship. You had become comfortable with each other on the net and then when you actually had to talk to each other was there a period of adjustment? And the same goes for when you first met in person.

I found that when I first talked to Kaila on the phone there was a period of awkwardness and shyness in the first few calls. And then again when I went to her house. It's even more interesting considering I had known her for 10 years before we got together and had talked thousands of times in person.

Originally posted by Gman
No I hate to say it but I'm a good looking man. I've lost 20 pounds and I'm still going. I know how to work a room but I'm just not clear on what I want from all the woman. I need to finish the deal and get it done.

http://us.st5.yimg.com/store4.yimg.com/I/demotivators_1765_7149244

- J.

Originally posted by HockeyFighter
Jarrod - I have a question for you. Did you find that the first time you talked to Arju on the phone it was almost like starting over again in the relationship. You had become comfortable with each other on the net and then when you actually had to talk to each other was there a period of adjustment? And the same goes for when you first met in person.

I found that when I first talked to Kaila on the phone there was a period of awkwardness and shyness in the first few calls. And then again when I went to her house. It's even more interesting considering I had known her for 10 years before we got together and had talked thousands of times in person.

First time we talked on the phone? No not exactly. Took a bit to get used to the accents but it didn't take too long to pick up where you left off.

After all, you're still talking to the same person. :)

No our situation was kind of different really. Especially meeting up for the first time. I kinda knew before I met her she was the only one I wanted (if that makes sense) and meeting her in person really confirmed it.

- J.

Woman are the only thing I fail at. Anything I've really done I can excell at. Woman just scare me sometimes.

Originally posted by The Jake
I kinda knew before I met her she was the only one I wanted (if that makes sense) and meeting her in person really confirmed it.
- J.
Makes perfect sense. I feel like such an old man now. I never used to have a clue about relationships and how strongly I could feel for someone. I didn't think it was really possible to be so attached to someone.

I honesty don't think I will ever feel the same way again as I did in the past year. Too bad we had to meet so early in life for her. I really thought .....I still think that she is exactly the person I want. I guess I have to cling to hope that things will work out in the future for me.

My sister told me "first love never dies". Anyone feel this is true? Do you have a special place in your heart for that person that can never be touched by any future love?

You always remember the feeling that's for sure.

In retrospect, I can analyse what I felt before for all the chicks I ever gave a damn about before Arju but being where I am now I can honestly say I didn't love them. You might think so at the time, but when you find true love, I think it's a different story altogether.

- J.