Update on my son.

Saturday he comes home to find his room empty. Look of shock on his face. We welcomed him to the military boot camp and told him the rules. He took it surprisingly well. He has already scrubbed the wall paper trim off the walls. He was allowed to paint one wall. He was reading books that we left for him (he hates to read). We left him books that are positive and upbeat. Ones that could hopefully have a positive effect on his outlook on life.

We let him join the cross country team at school. They are closing the BMX track :-( so no more racing for right now. Outside of his regular duties, he is allowed to work around the house to "earn" chips that are valued at 15 minutes of time of either TV or XBOX. He wanted to make a necklace for his "girl" at school. I was surprised at that. But then she dumped him yesterday. :-(

So far, so good. But I am not holding my breath. Too many times we've been thru this and it is going to take a lot for him to earn my trust back. :-( Makes me sad.

Has he done anything so bad that you have not posted it here?

Originally posted by Bzob
Has he done anything so bad that you have not posted it here?

The stealing is the worst. Mother's Day he stole from a neighbor. He got caught red handed. He didn't deny it or make up excuses, which showed us he was remorseful. Two years ago, he wasn't remorseful for anything he had done. His psychololgist has said that from what he says in their sessions, he's headed down the road with a llife of crime. Not if I can help it.

My dad beat me and i turned out great.

People are to scared to dicipline there kids.

I'm not sayin whale on the m24/7 but a spankin works wonders

well it seems like you are on the right track doing it military style! keep us posted

Originally posted by VulgarTheClown
My dad beat me and i turned out great.

People are to scared to dicipline there kids.

I'm not sayin whale on the m24/7 but a spankin works wonders

I find it hard to spank my kids at this age. I was abused and don't want to "lose it" while spanking them. I have spanked them in the past, sometimes controlled and sometimes out of control. I do not want to go back to that. It's good advice for those who can control themselves, but I am afraid of losing it. It hurts to be abused by those who love you.

Originally posted by Bzob
well it seems like you are on the right track doing it military style! keep us posted

Thanks Bzob! It's hard, but it'll be worth it. Whatever he wants to do in life is okay with me, as long as he knows how to work for what he wants and is an honest and giving person. I know he can be, I've seen that side of him, rarely, but it's there.

I'm a good kid, It wasn't too often that I got spankings or any punishment at all, but my dad yelled a lot. My sister on the other hand is totally different from me, its weird, I guess I have a little more common sense than most other kids. Well, minus the fact that I have a bit of an ... odd sense of humour.

I think your idea right now is awesome though.

Originally posted by LukeDothSucketh
I'm a good kid, It wasn't too often that I got spankings or any punishment at all, but my dad yelled a lot. My sister on the other hand is totally different from me, its weird, I guess I have a little more common sense than most other kids. Well, minus the fact that I have a bit of an ... odd sense of humour.

I think your idea right now is awesome though.

Thanks Luke. I hope it works, otherwise I am going to go to work full time (haven't worked FT in years) and send him off to military school just to pay for it. :-|

I did stupid **** when I was a kid and look at me now.

I've never really done anything that gave my parents the obligation of disciplining me like that...but sure -- whatever floats your boat.

Originally posted by Fury Dragon
I've never really done anything that gave my parents the obligation of disciplining me like that...but sure -- whatever floats your boat.

I'm glad to hear that. I have tried alot of other ways to discipline him and none have worked. This is my desperate attempt.

Originally posted by Gman
I did stupid **** when I was a kid and look at me now.

HAHAHHAAHAHHAA This made me laugh fr some reason

I was more scared of my mom that I was my dad. The Belt always hung next to the door, when me or my bro screwed up, it was "Go get the Belt."....

It can backfire too though, after a while it just dont hurt anymore, "Oh, time for my beating? Let me grab a book." The look on my moms face when I started laughing was the greatest. She never spanked me again.....

Originally posted by kaps
It can backfire too though, after a while it just dont hurt anymore, "Oh, time for my beating? Let me grab a book." The look on my moms face when I started laughing was the greatest. She never spanked me again.....

You hit the nail on the head there Kaps. We stopped spanking because it wasn't doing any good. What he hated more than anything was being treated as if he wasn't a part of the family. We would take away privileges and he would find something else to do until we took that away. He always would find a way around whatever punishment we issued forth. He is a cunning, smart, clever manipulator. He should make a great lawyer some day, but for right now, I expect the rules to be followed in my house. And Red, I don't beat my kid because I was abused. I got more than just a spanking. I got the belt whipped around me from the ribcage down to the knees. I was also beat by my bro who used to sit on me and beat my face into the floor. I won't let myself get into the position of becoming the abuser. I've fought too hard to get where I am today with controlling my temper, because believe me when I say, I have a huge temper when pissed off. My bro and I no longer speak to one another and it's been 21 years since we've had an actual conversation. I've tried, he won't accept. His loss or my gain, however you want to look at it.

My little Brother is 14 and bigger than me now, he tried to pay me back for all the **** I did to him when we where little, it didnt work out too well for him.......

My Mom spanked me once and cried after. I just stood thier thinking I made my mother cry. I never ****ed up after that

Originally posted by Creed
My Mom spanked me once and cried after. I just stood thier thinking I made my mother cry. I never ****ed up after that

You have a big heart Creed. My son doesn't care when we spank him. He's mad at us for doing it to him. He misses the lesson. You didn't. :)

Did you cry after? Seeing your Mother cry has a powerful affect on a 5 year old

Originally posted by Creed
Did you cry after? Seeing your Mother cry has a powerful affect on a 5 year old

Oh yes. I cried, I have cried many tears over my son. Not much left. :-(