Nuno, can I have the link to your site? The one with the fabric? I like to "window shop" when down in the dumps..... :-(

wow what a hottie

Originally posted by Curly Howard
wow what a hottie


Thanks Curly.....I needed that. :lovers:

just don't tell your man

Originally posted by Curly Howard
just don't tell your man

I don't care if he knows...might do him some good. ;)

it won't do me any good lol

Originally posted by Curly Howard
it won't do me any good lol

LOL, good thing you live far far away!!

oh yeah

www.nuno.com :- l

Originally posted by Bzob
www.nuno.com :- l

that was easy, thank you bzob. I guess I should have tried it. LOL.....

LOL you are welcome

Originally posted by Bzob
www.nuno.com :- l

Stop changing the subject!!:cuss:

that was the subject beatch

oh my bad

Thanks for the laughs guys.....I needed it today of all days. My son was a huge problem last night.....feeling really bad today. I need the laughter. :)

send him out here. I'll work the mean out of him. I can rent him to a farmer for the season

*pops pop corn in microwave*

Tell us what happened?

Originally posted by Bzob
*pops pop corn in microwave*

Tell us what happened?

I decided to pop him upside the head (not too hard, mind you) anytime he gave lip or bad attitude. Last night he kept "begging" me to let him do his hw after school the next day. I said "No. It will be done tonight since it is due tomorrow" He wouldn't stop, so I walked up to him and told him to choose left or right. I gave him both. left right in quick succession. Later, he walked off to put on cologne that he KNOWS bothers me to no end. Gives me a headache. Threw it away this time....then his sister is helping him with his math. She told him he needs to read the instructions and he replys " I don't read books!" I got up and popped him again for the attitude.....that one hurt me. He flinched before I got to him....that just kills me to have my son flinch when I come near him......anyways....I gave him the pops, yelled at him for his attitude and told him to finish his hw and went upstairs and had a really hard cry. This is sooooo hard for me. I am not backing down on my stance, but I hurt so bad inside......I just have to keep at him though.....I've tried everything else with him. Nothing else is left. :-(

Have you had him talk to a psycologist or anything like that, or someone other than you or your hubby?

Originally posted by Bzob
Have you had him talk to a psycologist or anything like that, or someone other than you or your hubby?

Yes, he's seen more than one and we finally found one that we are all pleased with. Most just like to blame the parents for everything. This one we have now, follows our lead...whatever we say as the parent goes. He has also said that in his 30 years of being a psychologist, my son is the most stubborn kid he has ever come across. *sigh*

stubborn is as stubborn does.

Well, it looks like he will learn the hard way.

Originally posted by Bzob
stubborn is as stubborn does.

Well, it looks like he will learn the hard way.

Yes, you are right. I'm not backing down, no matter how much it hurts me or him. I have him unitl he is 18 and graduates from high school. And by God, I plan on getting thru to him.

BOOT CAMP

Remember what I told you? He & a million other kids reach an age where they "try on" the different personalities they meet up with during the day.

Kids "learn" what bugs people, adults do it too! Ever notice how if you let someone know something bugs you, they do it more?? You tell a kid "don't ride your trike in the street", turn your back, & they are back in the street, they are "testing" you.

When we "test" them back, a pattern is set.

Which is why we have to "learn" when to challenge the testing.....& when to let it go, or ignore it.

Originally posted by momita
Remember what I told you? He & a million other kids reach an age where they "try on" the different personalities they meet up with during the day.

Kids "learn" what bugs people, adults do it too! Ever notice how if you let someone know something bugs you, they do it more?? You tell a kid "don't ride your trike in the street", turn your back, & they are back in the street, they are "testing" you.

When we "test" them back, a pattern is set.

Which is why we have to "learn" when to challenge the testing.....& when to let it go, or ignore it.

I know all that Momita. Pick and choose your battles. I choose the homework issue. I let a lot of things go by....I won't let him get thru life uneducated. At least not without trying. He just won't do anything that is required of him....nothing. He is worse than when we lived in the valley.....he's always been such a rebel. I just don't know how much I can take.

Originally posted by madcrewmom
Nuno, can I have the link to your site? The one with the fabric? I like to "window shop" when down in the dumps..... :-(

Well it's not my site, but it does have my name......it cracks me up unintentionally......

Originally posted by Nuno
Well it's not my site, but it does have my name......it cracks me up unintentionally......

LOL, I love fabric.......being a seamstress and all.:)

Originally posted by momita
Remember what I told you? He & a million other kids reach an age where they "try on" the different personalities they meet up with during the day.

Kids "learn" what bugs people, adults do it too! Ever notice how if you let someone know something bugs you, they do it more?? You tell a kid "don't ride your trike in the street", turn your back, & they are back in the street, they are "testing" you.

When we "test" them back, a pattern is set.

Which is why we have to "learn" when to challenge the testing.....& when to let it go, or ignore it.

Very wise words....but i also know what it is like to deal with stubbon behavior. Its even harder when they are not your children (Kids on the soccer team)

Originally posted by Bzob
Very wise words....but i also know what it is like to deal with stubbon behavior. Its even harder when they are not your children (Kids on the soccer team)

I have better luck with kids that aren't mine.....they usually cower under my stare. mwuhahahaha.............

Have you tried bedroom arrest? Take out anything they can amuse themselves with. No music, no toys, no tv, no nothing. But leave the homework in there.

If he wants to go play with a friend, no, (but I don't believe in taking away a sport, they need the outlet, but "fun" things can be taken away).

Being stubborn is a habit, a trait. Being stubborn is not always a bad thing, but when it interferes with doing what is "supposed" to be done, then it's a problem. Sit him down & tell him what being stubborn will get him when it is used wrong.

Bedroom arrest = no fun, no fun, no fun, no fun.

Then tell him of the good things being stubborn gets you, like when a friend wants you to steal something from a store, you stubbornly say no..............that is a good stubborn.

Kids are NOT dumb, but they are hoping "we" are sometimes....

We've tried that one before, but am ready to take it to a new extreme.