I think....... I haven't had a serious relationship in 6 years and have liked it that way up until the past few days.Maybe I'm just going through a phase or something but I don't know.

I just turned 30 and can't party like I once could.I'm tired of the type of women I meet and play with and then discard.It seems like the few I do meet from time to time and would consider a relationship with don't want the same from me or something goes wrong and it's over.But I meet all kinds of chicks that I could settle with if I wanted but simply know they aren't right for me.

I think I'm going through this because I've met one recently that I really like but problem is she just got out of a 7 year relationship and has 2 kids with the dude.All she wants to do is party it up and live a little since she has been locked down for so long.I can't hang with her nor do I want to so......

What to do....where to look.....How did some of you meet your wives or husbands or whatever. Any suggestions? I've even considered like eharmony or something.......HELP!

DO NOT, i repeat, DO NOT go to internet dating services. that's pathetic. you don't find love like that. you get laid at best.

i see where yer comin from though bro. i'm in the exact same boat cept i'm a year younger. i would be open to a relationship BUT i'm not looking for one and i don't recommend taking certain steps to find one either. the only thing you may wanna take a look at is the company you keep. see, i'm not suprised that i don't find many "relationship material" girls cause i party and drink and drink and party all the time. so, if you find yourself in a similar lifestyle, consider meeting different company. find interest groups that spend their time doing productive **** and you may stumble into better company. but DO NOT do that with the intention of finding a right mate.

real meaningful relationships just happen. it's not like landing a successful career or somethin. almost all books of wisdom say that love cannot be rushed. when it comes, it'll come. the only choice you have is what to do with yerself in the meantime.

nearly every ****ed up relationship i've witnessed in the past has a foundation of one or both of the partners' desire to latch on to eachother because they're afraid of being alone. you don't want yer foundation like that and you DON'T want to meet a girl with a similar foundation. my 2 cents is to enjoy yourself as a bachelor and not let this **** depress you. true love comes but rarely when you look for it. most people who get bummed out about not having that special someone stay single for life.

No doubt.......good looking. We'd probably hang out and be buddies if we lived near each other.....we sound alot alike.

It just seems like most of my friends are married or have a long term thing going on so sometimes I feel left out. I don't even have a good wing man anymore...It's just me.Don't get me wrong I do my best work alone but I'm tired of just ****ing retarded bimbos.

I know you can't rush it and I didn't mean it like that I would just like to meet someone nice, respectful and with a head on her shoulders.....even if it were just casual dating it's better than the haze I call my life right now.

I don't know just the past few days I've been lonely.....I think I'm having a depression week or something......ya dig?

maybe if I go out and get laid tonight I'll feel better.......but probably not in the morning....lol oh well I'll probably be laughing at myself next week for even making this thread.

DO NOT, i repeat, DO NOT go to internet dating services. that's pathetic. you don't find love like that. you get laid at best.

i see where yer comin from though bro. i'm in the exact same boat cept i'm a year younger. i would be open to a relationship BUT i'm not looking for one and i don't recommend taking certain steps to find one either. the only thing you may wanna take a look at is the company you keep. see, i'm not suprised that i don't find many "relationship material" girls cause i party and drink and drink and party all the time. so, if you find yourself in a similar lifestyle, consider meeting different company. find interest groups that spend their time doing productive **** and you may stumble into better company. but DO NOT do that with the intention of finding a right mate.

real meaningful relationships just happen. it's not like landing a successful career or somethin. almost all books of wisdom say that love cannot be rushed. when it comes, it'll come. the only choice you have is what to do with yerself in the meantime.

nearly every ****ed up relationship i've witnessed in the past has a foundation of one or both of the partners' desire to latch on to eachother because they're afraid of being alone. you don't want yer foundation like that and you DON'T want to meet a girl with a similar foundation. my 2 cents is to enjoy yourself as a bachelor and not let this **** depress you. true love comes but rarely when you look for it. most people who get bummed out about not having that special someone stay single for life.

dude - what are you saying, the internet is another method of communication just like a phone or a parcel piece.

dating services are that, dating services. thousands of people have found love on the internet and you hear about this pretty damn frequently.

rae - don't listen to dude, you want to be surveying the most land, not diminishing it.

dude - what are you saying, the internet is another method of communication just like a phone or a parcel piece.

dating services are that, dating services. thousands of people have found love on the internet and you hear about this everyday pretty frequently.

rae - don't listen to dude, you want to be surveying the most land, not diminishing it.

Baya I respect your opinion.......But I was a little freaked about even thinking about it......so you know people that have had success at this? I don't know many.....

I don't know just the past few days I've been lonely.....I think I'm having a depression week or something......ya dig?



oh i dig. i just got over a 6 day drinking binge. i dig. ****, i was all layin in bed yesterday just mopin goin 'what am i doing with my life...?' haha! good times.

at times, i get tired of the slutty chicks that i keep company with but not tired enough to change the lifestyle just yet. but when i do i'll start goin back 2 church or maybe take a class in a community college with the simple goal of just findin different people to hang with that are being a little more productive. out of them, maybe a special girl is waitin for me. but i don't care. this potential mystery girl isn't my motivation for gettin better company.

and don't be too envious of yer friends in relationships. we've been in that sitch too. they've got just as many (usually more) problems that we have. chris rock: "either yer married and bored or single and lonely."

oh i dig. i just got over a 6 day drinking binge. i dig. ****, i was all layin in bed yesterday just mopin goin 'what am i doing with my life...?' haha! good times.

at times, i get tired of the slutty chicks that i keep company with but not tired enough to change the lifestyle just yet. but when i do i'll start goin back 2 church or maybe take a class in a community college with the simple goal of just findin different people to hang with that are being a little more productive. out of them, maybe a special girl is waitin for me. but i don't care. this potential mystery girl isn't my motivation for gettin better company.

and don't be too envious of yer friends in relationships. we've been in that sitch too. they've got just as many (usually more) problems that we have. chris rock: "either yer married and bored or single and lonely."

Nail on the head........I've thought about taking a couple of creative writing and English comp classes recently because I have been thinking about writing more and know it's a great place to meet chicks.

I know what you mean.....I'm so ****ing glad I'm not married 99% of the time. Everytime I see my sons mother and talk to her for a few minutes it reminds me of that life and sets me back another year.:D

Baya I respect your opinion.......But I was a little freaked about even thinking about it......so you know people that have had success at this? I don't know many.....

yes, actually, we both do. but i'm not spilling any beans. it is very doable and honestly, there are MILLIONS of people out there just like you trying to find the same thing.

if i were in your position i'd best fit myself w/ this solution; and a reputable dating service would be my top due to the fact that i spend so much time online.

i know personally of two relationships that ended in marriage after meeting online, and both are very well off.

averages papi, averages.

yes, actually, we both do. but i'm not spilling any beans. it is very doable and honestly, there are MILLIONS of people out there just like you trying to find the same thing.

if i were in your position i'd best fit myself w/ this solution; and a reputable dating service would be my top due to the fact that i spend so much time online.

i know personally of two relationships that ended in marriage after meeting online, and both are very well off.

No ****......

I'm not ruling it out....I mean like I said it has crossed my mind but it will be a last resort.I know myself and this feeling probably won't last ,I'd hate to waste the money and then knowing me I'd end up going on there and breaking some hearts just to get my moneys worth.....:lol1:

No ****......

I'm not ruling it out....I mean like I said it has crossed my mind but it will be a last resort.I know myself and this feeling probably won't last ,I'd hate to waste the money and then knowing me I'd end up going on there and breaking some hearts just to get my moneys worth.....:lol1:

dude, when you look like you do - breaking hearts just comes with the territory. :kiss:

dude - what are you saying, the internet is another method of communication just like a phone or a parcel piece.

dating services are that, dating services. thousands of people have found love on the internet and you hear about this pretty damn frequently.

rae - don't listen to dude, you want to be surveying the most land, not diminishing it.


i have heard about people finding love on the internet through tv and radio ads. that's called marketing and it works great when people sell products/services based on emotional need. now have i SEEN it??

no. never. not even once. and i know tons of people who have tried it and still do try it. the only substantial feedback that i've heard about internet dating services vs. other dating experiences is the amount of completely ridiculously pathetic experiences people have had on em. so many stories and so many laughs.

now i have heard of people THINKING they found love.......moving in with eachother after 2 weeks and getting married after a month.......yeah that goes far. these people are so desperate for some fairytale lovestory that they're dry humping their teddy bears at night. of course they think they're in love. they're also a little on the psychotic side....

the odds of finding a meaningful relationship on the internet are almost zero. you cannot search a ****ing DATABASE that systematically catagorizes potential lovemates by the narrowing down of various psychological profiling. as mentioned, it's not like job hunting. that's not what bases love. that's what bases DISILLUSION and preps you for some serious douchbag 'dates'. only in a technological age do we think this actually can work. just about every happy relationship i was ever in was with a girl i barely had anything in common with. internet sites can't determine, or even narrow down, romantic chemistry.

want a meaningful relationship? chill out and stop tryin so hard.

i have heard about people finding love on the internet through tv and radio ads. that's called marketing and it works great when people sell products/services based on emotional need. now have i SEEN it??

no. never. not even once. and i know tons of people who have tried it and still do try it. the only substantial feedback that i've heard about internet dating services vs. other dating experiences is the amount of completely ridiculously pathetic experiences people have had on em. so many stories and so many laughs.

now i have heard of people THINKING they found love.......moving in with eachother after 2 weeks and getting married after a month.......yeah that goes far. these people are so desperate for some fairytale lovestory that they're dry humping their teddy bears at night. of course they think they're in love. they're also a little on the psychotic side....

the odds of finding a meaningful relationship on the internet are almost zero. you cannot search a ****ing DATABASE that systematically catagorizes potential lovemates by the narrowing down of various psychological profiling. as mentioned, it's not like job hunting. that's not what bases love. that's what bases DISILLUSION and preps you for some serious douchbag 'dates'. only in a technological age do we think this actually can work. just about every happy relationship i was ever in was with a girl i barely had anything in common with. internet sites can't determine, or even narrow down, romantic chemistry.

want a meaningful relationship? chill out and stop tryin so hard.

so since i know of two relationships, both going on more than 3 years married - one couple w/ two kids and both seem happy. if i'm basing this opinion on merit for rae ... then he's owed a differing opinion.

trying so hard? my posts are curt and concise. :)

also, don't dog the db - i know that oracle houses that data so its on point.

so since i know of two relationships, both going on more than 3 years married - one couple w/ two kids.

both seem happy so if i'm basing this opinion on merit for rae ... then he's owed a differing opinion from the one poster that told him not to do it.

trying so hard? my posts are curt and concise. :)


i wasn't refering to YOU as trying hard. i was saying for people who join all these dating services and throw away tons of $$$ and time meeting crackheads.

and, hey, i'm not gonna judge the stuff you've seen. if you know 2 happy couples from internet dating then cool. i would question how many UNHAPPY experiences you've seen & heard of from internet dating in comparisson and i would also question how many idiots these 2 couples had to court through before meeting eachother. my experience from the stories i've heard......about 100/0. out of those 100, how many were follow up by a story of a completely disasterous date involving one of the creepiest weirdos the person has ever met? about 20/100. so to me, those are some ****ty odds.

but i don't care about givin opinions and i'm not knockin ya for giving him one. that's what boards are for. but, obviously, i'm gonna give you my opinion just as well.

now i have heard of people THINKING they found love.......moving in with eachother after 2 weeks and getting married after a month.......yeah that goes far. these people are so desperate for some fairytale lovestory that they're dry humping their teddy bears at night. of course they think they're in love. they're also a little on the psychotic side....

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Oh I know some of these dip****s and dip****ettes......:rolleyes:

I'm not flaming here but it's obvious to me at least to see that it's your lifestyle that is not hooking you up with that special woman. You're a successful dude (bought your own condo, nice car, decent job - pretty far away from the criminal you were at age 18) but you don't act like it. You **** around with half the **** you say but you demean women and it seems all you do is try your best to get laid with as many women as possible. Even I know that girls that give it up easy ain't ****.

I was kinda in your position too broesky...I had some wack ass front like I was this Mr.Cool partyboy and although I had some little hookups with some decently hot chicks they were the type that played around with my emotions because I was actually a nice person underneath my fake exterior. I chilled out for a little while, realized I was a big goof and changed myself for the better. Now I'm chillin' with a nursing student instead of the usual dumb ass chicks who couldn't even get into college.

Just my two cents, nig.

I'm not flaming here but it's obvious to me at least to see that it's your lifestyle that is not hooking you up with that special woman. You're a successful dude (bought your own condo, nice car, decent job - pretty far away from the criminal you were at age 18) but you don't act like it. You **** around with half the **** you say but you demean women and it seems all you do is try your best to get laid with as many women as possible. Even I know that girls that give it up easy ain't ****.

I was kinda in your position too broesky...I had some wack ass front like I was this Mr.Cool partyboy and although I had some little hookups with some decently hot chicks they were the type that played around with my emotions because I was actually a nice person underneath my fake exterior. I chilled out for a little while, realized I was a big goof and changed myself for the better. Now I'm chillin' with a nursing student instead of the usual dumb ass chicks who couldn't even get into college.

Just my two cents, nig.

The bolded you're right about......the second paragraph is ****.You have no ****ing clue....I'm much older than you and seen much more than you. I wouldn't say this to everyone your age but I will to you because we have bull****ted about alot of things......just remember if you've been there, I've been there at le4ast twice when it comes to most things.

Just my two cents kid.

The bolded you're right about......the second paragraph is ****.You have no ****ing clue....I'm much older than you and seen much more than you. I wouldn't say this to everyone your age but I will to you because we have bull****ted about alot of things......just remember if you've been there, I've been there at le4ast twice when it comes to most things.

Just my two cents kid.

That second part was just me talking about myself to big up my ego a little bit. But I was real about the first part and wasn't flaming. Maybe you should appeal to your square side a little more possibly, lol. Just tryin to give advice my man

That second part was just me talking about myself to big up my ego a little bit. But I was real about the first part and wasn't flaming. Maybe you should appeal to your square side a little more possibly, lol. Just tryin to give advice my man

Nah I hear ya....and appreciate you talking to me real like I've done to you MANY times in the past. **** I'm partly responsible for you being able to give me good advice......:cool:

Nah I hear ya....and appreciate you talking to me real like I've done to you MANY times in the past. **** I'm partly responsible for you being able to give me good advice......:cool:

Believe it or not you're actually the one dude who can piss me off when you say **** because i actually half respect you..haha but eyah you're right all those pms Id come crying to you over trivial **** in my life ahaha

Believe it or not you're actually the one dude who can piss me off when you say **** because i actually half respect you..haha but eyah you're right all those pms Id come crying to you over trivial **** in my life ahaha

Don't take offense to the **** I say to you on here. You can act like a pseky little ****head at times but whatever.....You're right as gay as it may sound but we have chatted on here via PM and even on msn......I sent you a bunch of pics of chicks I had on my cell phone....remember ****stain?

I think....... I haven't had a serious relationship in 6 years and have liked it that way up until the past few days.Maybe I'm just going through a phase or something but I don't know.

I just turned 30 and can't party like I once could.I'm tired of the type of women I meet and play with and then discard.It seems like the few I do meet from time to time and would consider a relationship with don't want the same from me or something goes wrong and it's over.But I meet all kinds of chicks that I could settle with if I wanted but simply know they aren't right for me.

I think I'm going through this because I've met one recently that I really like but problem is she just got out of a 7 year relationship and has 2 kids with the dude.All she wants to do is party it up and live a little since she has been locked down for so long.I can't hang with her nor do I want to so......

What to do....where to look.....How did some of you meet your wives or husbands or whatever. Any suggestions? I've even considered like eharmony or something.......HELP!

Go to college.
I know pretty much everything there is to know about hooking up in the club/lounge and usually it does not go far. My bes relationships were started either in college or at my friends party

me too

badly

Just my two cents worth, but also being a woman, a different point of view.

One) Tes, Purity....love on the internet can and does happen. I've known several people that have met thru online dating services and they've fallen in love, gotten married and are HAPPY. Yes, they still have problems as any other couple...but over all, HAPPY. One, being my best friend. As she put it, women like us(her and me) don't have much chance to meet men. She and I are NOT barhoppers, party animals or church goers. But we are good women. We just don't have much chance to meet men. Me? I meet men ALL the time in my job...just can't date them...on the road too much, we all travel around from store to store, state to state....not good grounds for a relationship unless you're in the same company...which is always a bad idea anyhow. So...that leaves me dating sites. Try this one: www.plentyoffish.com It's free.

Two) Guys...take this with a grain of salt, k? Stop referring to females as "chicks". We're women. If you want a down to earth, sane, happy, balanced, NOT CRAZY female in your life, then look for a "WOMAN" not a "chick". It just might change your luck.

Dating sites, church, bars, where ever you meet someone, love can happen. My married daughter met her husband driving down the road. He had a pink phone...that did it for her....she hates pink and had to meet the marine with a pink phone. The rest, as they say, is history. They just celebrated one year last month. Everyone else said it wouldn't last a year. Except me.

And I'm taking my own daughter's advice....I'm going to stop looking so hard. I'm not looking to get laid OR married(I get offers of both)...just looking for that someone that makes my heart smile.

there are exceptions to every rule. a broken clock tells the right time at least twice a day. generally speaking, looking for love on the internet results in disasterous douchebag experiences many more times then the means of.......seeing the person that you're meeting for the first time. i agree that love can happen anywhere but what i'm sayin is to play the odds in your favor if you're looking for someone with substance.

dunno if i mentioned the word 'chick' in here but it doesn't make a difference to me either. there are certain females that are chicks, certain ones that are women, and certain that are *****es. not all females get respect. not all males do either. i respect a person as much as they respect themselves.

Problem with the intenet is this. People can probably eventually find love, but it probably takes awhile, like meeting tons of dooshes or bimbo's or insecure women for awhile. Usually when people meet, just like madcrewmom's daughter, they were attracted first by site & body language. And then the getting to kow the person is the exciting part. What they do & what there about. The internet is backwards. You know about them already what they do, day to day activity. blah blah, but don't know if the attraction is there yet.....which it usually isn't...

exactly. these internet sites assume you have chemistry because of these psuedo personality tests that are linked with other useless **** like common interests.

exactly. these internet sites assume you have chemistry because of these psuedo personality tests that are linked with other useless **** like common interests.

That is true...and common interests won't necessarily find you love.

Opposites attract....

I think....... I haven't had a serious relationship in 6 years and have liked it that way up until the past few days.Maybe I'm just going through a phase or something but I don't know.

I just turned 30 and can't party like I once could.I'm tired of the type of women I meet and play with and then discard.It seems like the few I do meet from time to time and would consider a relationship with don't want the same from me or something goes wrong and it's over.But I meet all kinds of chicks that I could settle with if I wanted but simply know they aren't right for me.

I think I'm going through this because I've met one recently that I really like but problem is she just got out of a 7 year relationship and has 2 kids with the dude.All she wants to do is party it up and live a little since she has been locked down for so long.I can't hang with her nor do I want to so......

What to do....where to look.....How did some of you meet your wives or husbands or whatever. Any suggestions? I've even considered like eharmony or something.......HELP!

I've met you.

With the short amount of time I have to work with here, I say get a pistol and a holster. Get drunk, once you start feeling that trusty firearm from your hip, do the practical thing.

Best wishes.

I was like that once.

DO NOT, i repeat, DO NOT go to internet dating services. that's pathetic. you don't find love like that. you get laid at best.
i see where yer comin from though bro. i'm in the exact same boat cept i'm a year younger. i would be open to a relationship BUT i'm not looking for one and i don't recommend taking certain steps to find one either. the only thing you may wanna take a look at is the company you keep. see, i'm not suprised that i don't find many "relationship material" girls cause i party and drink and drink and party all the time. so, if you find yourself in a similar lifestyle, consider meeting different company. find interest groups that spend their time doing productive **** and you may stumble into better company. but DO NOT do that with the intention of finding a right mate.

real meaningful relationships just happen. it's not like landing a successful career or somethin. almost all books of wisdom say that love cannot be rushed. when it comes, it'll come. the only choice you have is what to do with yerself in the meantime.

nearly every ****ed up relationship i've witnessed in the past has a foundation of one or both of the partners' desire to latch on to eachother because they're afraid of being alone. you don't want yer foundation like that and you DON'T want to meet a girl with a similar foundation. my 2 cents is to enjoy yourself as a bachelor and not let this **** depress you. true love comes but rarely when you look for it. most people who get bummed out about not having that special someone stay single for life.

Many people I know have had success with an online service, as long as it is legitimate, match, eharmony.
I have personally never done it, and dont need to at this point, I have plenty of time before I would use one.
It basiclly takes the guesswork out of dating and meeting people.
You set up a profile about your likes, dislikes, hobbies, etc and then you are matched up with people who have similar intrests, beliefs, values and desires in a relationship.

It makes perfect sense if you are sick of meeting the same old people who seem as though they have different life goals.

It appears you are a bit ignorant of this process, and in the internet age, using the internet to meet people and find potential dating partners makes logical sense, espicially if you are having trouble meeting the types of people you would like.

you need to find god and realise this life aint nothing

**** being a relationship i finished mine just as we started university, all her friends think i am a cunt though, it is university and the single life is the bizz.

Just chill and keep boning them birds you fagget! If it is meant to be, then it is meant to be. If you worry about it from the outset you will make more problems for yourself. I was gonna say why settle down so soon gaylord thinking this was anotgher teenager thread but you are 30 and maybe it is time to settle down. But don't rush into it or worry about it coz you will probably end up ****ed up. Chill bone birdsa and one day you may find a ***** so tight you got to keep it as permanent back up! :rofl:

I feel ya dogg, i feel ya...I think the last relationship that i was in was in 2000. And that didn't even last long. I never have long drawn out relationships. Short and passionate.

Are you a fighter? Cus that's the sacrafices ya gotta make. Me personally, i'm on a mission. And my mission is far more important that some dumb broad trying to "change" or "control" me. All they can do is slow me down.

I understand you're 30, but ya gotta ask yourself. Besides having a family and the obvious, what benefits do you get from a woman anyways?

I'm definately not gay, i just think they're stupid. Girls just fcuk everything up in my book.

Remember this: There is no girl out there who cannot be replaced.

you need to find god and realise this life aint nothing

Although i'm not an extremely pious man, this is true.

To update this thread.....I've been dating a beautiful young lady that really makes me happy for about a 2 months. It's way too early too tell but I'm usually over chicks as soon as I get the ass.....She's different. I enjoy her comany and don't constantly just think about having sex with her...I mean I do but like I said I also enjoy the times we are not which is rare for me. Anyway we'll see how it goes.....it's the best I've felt toward a female in quite a while tho......

I am looking to settle down in the next 2 years. With university done, I am planning 'life'-career and personal etc.

I have basic criteria for a long term relationship/wife.

She should be attractive, educated to a certain level, and carry herself in a manner befitting a lady. My friends say I have ridicilously high standards, and perhaps I do, but it makes finding a viable women much harder.

I am not a clubber or party goer.

consult a psychic

Get pink nail varnish for your left hand mate

To update this thread.....I've been dating a beautiful young lady that really makes me happy for about a 2 months. It's way too early too tell but I'm usually over chicks as soon as I get the ass.....She's different. I enjoy her comany and don't constantly just think about having sex with her...I mean I do but like I said I also enjoy the times we are not which is rare for me. Anyway we'll see how it goes.....it's the best I've felt toward a female in quite a while tho......

Well to update this again.....We're still together. Things aren't as great as when I made this post above but I assumed that would be the case. We're still very happy together and our children have gotten a chance to mingle with each other more now and see us together and whatnot. I'm not gonna say it's perfect and I'm not sure if I'm over the single life completely but I think I love her and am going to give it my best shot....she's certainly a great girl.....

Well to update this again.....We're still together. Things aren't as great as when I made this post above but I assumed that would be the case. We're still very happy together and our children have gotten a chance to mingle with each other more now and see us together and whatnot. I'm not gonna say it's perfect and I'm not sure if I'm over the single life completely but I think I love her and am going to give it my best shot....she's certainly a great girl.....

I envy you.

Sounds like you need to get out more son and start partying

I envy you.

Well it's taken a long time. I was happily single for 7 years and had some great times. I kind of like the relationship thing overall though.....I'm getting older so **** it.


Sounds like you need to get out more son and start partying

See above post.....

Well Boom, Pow.....It's over. Great girl, wrong time in our lives. Wish I crossed paths with her 10 years ago.....Oh well back to what I do best, be single. I had a great 6 months with her tho.....:luvbed:

nice to meet you and i am new here

Get your *****es online. Talk to a few, weed out the real from the wack, and go from there. Saves $ on goin out to the bar n ****.