Alright new love life BS. This has nothing to do with the X or math girl.

Last year i was an RA at my school, one of the chicks on my staff and I were buds no big thing.

This year she is good friends with one of my pledges who is a good firend of mine. she starts to like me. we fool around last night, I just fingered her thats it (though i will say to my credit she got off about 12 or 13 times HARD I'm not bragging but i was amazed she was the easiest off I've ever seen. she was on the phone when i started messin with her and she got off twice before she got off the phone!)

anyway she isn't the type to date. today she is all like she would def date me if it would make me more comfy with things. I told her no i don't want to take her out of her comfort zone.

anyway today i was thinking about it, yes i had a erection while iwas playin with her and stuff but i feel no real spark at all between us. I can totaly chill with her but i don;t feel any sexual or emotion spark. I don't know exactly what to do. I mean sure i could get into it but i dunno if i wanna risk the friendship.

It also seems to me that she is liking me for the wrong reasons, when you hear comments like "WOW how do you do that so good? i can't even get myself off like that." and then the next day her total willingness to abandon her beliefs on relationships to make me more "at home".

I dunno what to do.

Do not go out with her or try for anything semi serious...you don't really like the girl, she is a bud that you got curious about. Now you know you could...challenge is gone, interest has left...next please!

I know exactly what you are doing, I have done similar...I have actually been screwing a girl and thought "OK, I proved this to myself...what now?" is a pretty ****ty feeling honestly

I don't like the feeling at all.

I'd hate to hurt her feeligns since we could possibly be on the same staff next year at work and we hang out with the same people.

I will say that i like the feeling of knowing that sexually i could own her and get her off like no one has yet but there is no backing.

how can i tell her taht friends is al i really can foresee expecially after her making such offers.

I feel like all the guys I hate for being *******s to girls.

Explain it in the simplest way possible, don't drag it out it makes you sound guilty. Just try to keep the friendship thing, while pushing the b/f g/f thing out the window.

Just don't touch her anymore. Explain how you feel...but actions speak louder etc etc. You touch her again, it gives her hope.

I am just gonna inform her that even if this was guaronteed to work I wouldn't because the slight risk of it ****ing up our friendship is to great and i would rather keep it like that.

Say that...it will work

but now i feel kinda fisty and she is here mabye its cause I'm posting cumshots and henti in the rotties forum.

dude i can huit it but i'm not am i betraying my manhood?

Originally posted by VulgarTheClown
dude i can huit it but i'm not am i betraying my manhood?

In a manner of speaking, you are betraying your manhood by not hitting the booty. :D

To quote another wiseman:

"It is your civic duty to bang the booty"

http://www.thepantsman.com/
Check that site out - maybe Pantsman can help ya.

In all fairness though, I'm on two minds of this and it depends on your relationship -
I wouldn't necessarily say dating this chick is a bad idea, but if your both willing to just hit it and still be friends, and your both cool with that then so be it. But I usually find that one person winds up wanting more from the relationship than the other (and when that happens....).

I would say either date or not date (and just be friends). One or the other, none of this inbetween ****.

Or to put it a different way, would it be such a bad thing if you dated this chickie?

- The Jake

i don't think it would be a bad thing at all BUT i don;t feel anything when i'm arround her.

Normally when i'm arround girls i like i get kinda figity and get really quiet and all that. not with her.

Maybe that's a good thing?

i dunno, i didn't feel a spark when i kissed her.

though i did feel really nice when she was getting off.

Well that's understandable...

*********: why do you suck?
Diablo9719: cause as a person i am terrieble
*********: what the hell are you talking about?
*********: I don't understand.
Diablo9719: i'm a bad person
*********: what did you do?
Diablo9719: i put myself in positions i shouldn't be in
*********: You're going to explain that, right?
Diablo9719: eventually
*********: I'm really confused.
Diablo9719: about?
*********: I don't know what you're talking about
*********: Is this in reference to our "relationship"?
Diablo9719: distinctly possible
*********: What's wrong?
*********: You don't want to do it anymore?
Diablo9719: we have been friends for quite a while
Diablo9719: and i don;t want to ruin that
Diablo9719: at all
Diablo9719: I value it to much
*********: so, it's over then?
Diablo9719: i dunno
*********: That's fine. It never lastss.
Diablo9719: exactly
Diablo9719: I would much rather have a friend for a years than a relationship for 2 months and nothign after that
*********: I understand. I'm going to go now. I'll talk to you later.
Diablo9719: alright
*********: If I may ask, what made you come to this decision?
Diablo9719: i was just reflecting
*********: I'm such a ****ing *******.
Diablo9719: this would be much easier to talk about in person
Diablo9719: your not an *******
Diablo9719: at all
*********: yes I am. I don't understand why I get myself into these situations.
Diablo9719: your not an sshole at all
Diablo9719: can we talk?
*********: aren't we talking?
Diablo9719: yeah online
Diablo9719: thats very impersonal
*********: okay
*********: what are you suggesting then?
Diablo9719: we talk in person
Diablo9719: I don;t want anythign to be changed between us
*********: unfortunately, we don't live in a perfect world
Diablo9719: thats true
*********: While I don't want anything to change either, I'm a little off about this for some reason, and I don't know why
Diablo9719: what do you mean your a bit off?
*********: I don't like the way I feel right now.
Diablo9719: what happened?
*********: nothing
Diablo9719: that didn;t come out how it soudned in my head
*********: I have to go
*********: We can talk later
Diablo9719: alright
Diablo9719: i'm sorry
*********: Don't be sorry
*********: I knew what I was getting myself into
Diablo9719: no i don;t want to have hurt your feelings is i did
Diablo9719: if i did
*********: It's not your fault
Diablo9719: i think it is
*********: No, it's really not. I never should have gotten involved with you. I told myself not to.
Diablo9719: i felt the same thing.
Diablo9719: I came out of a ****ed up realtioship straight into this one
*********: well all my relationships or lack thereof have been ****ed up
Diablo9719: well they arn;t exactly normal
Diablo9719: if there is such thing as normal
*********: It's fine
*********: Ben, I'll talk to you later.
*********: Do you still want to go to the store tonight?
Diablo9719: sure
Diablo9719: like i said
Diablo9719: if its not durring my meeting or pledge line up thingie
*********: It'll proabably later
Diablo9719: aight as long as i'm in bed by like 2 or so
*********: Okay
Diablo9719: word
*********: I love you Ben. I'm going to go for real now.
Diablo9719: love like love or love like a friend
Diablo9719: sorry
Diablo9719: you left
Diablo9719: i'm talking to nothing

that just happened.

this is becoming technical.

she just msged me back. hopefully this doesn't go horribly wrong

She used the L word man... RUN!

- The Jake

Head for the ****ing hills, holmes.

after that she came back and its love like a friend not love love.

sure. Ben and er... a girl stiinging in a tree...

man i cant type

not tree sitting here