Ok, this is the Adult Lounge where I'll get sensible, respectful answers. Hopefully.

Recently I've been feeling really down and I can't shake it off. I think I'm depressed but don't really know what to do.

I'm gonna let everything out in this post about why I'm feeling so shitty, so beware :D Advice would be welcomed too.

Family Life

I have a good, caring family who provide everything I could possibly need. Food, love, care and stability. But there's some things from my family life that have contributed to this feeling of depression.

I live with my mum, brother and sister and I am really close to my nan and grandad. But one thing that constantly nags away at me is the absence of my dad. He was only 20 when my mum found out she was pregnant with me, so decided that he wouldn't stay with my mum. Anyway, five years ago we travelled up to Scotland to see him and him and my mum had a huge argument, with him saying shit like "He's not mine, I want DNA tests done". I was only sat in the nest room and this really broke my heart, I felt like I wasn't wanted and it still kills now when I think about it.

Also, I am the oldest male (bar my grandad, who is too old to look after anyone, and my auntie's husbands who don't do shit) in the extended family. So I am expected to take on the role of the 'dominant head of the family'. I'm only 16. This adds huge pressure to an already unbelievable mountain of the shit.

My mum is ill, she suffers from depression, and I have to carry this burden too.

School

I've always been academically bright and a lot has always been expected of me. From the first day I can remember, I have been expected to get straight A's in my GCSE's and go to University to get a well paid job. My family expect me to be constantly at the top of my class, which causes unbearable stress for me and makes me not want to work at all; I just want to rebel.

Plus, because I'm popular (sorry for blowing my own trumpet but...) I have people constantly around me in school and I never get a chance to just chill with my homeboys. There's always knobheads tagging along who do my head in.

Girls

The girl that currently holds my heart is going out with a guy who doesn't deserve her at all. He's Head Boy of our school and a real geek, yet he's got her on his arms. :nonono:

I think I love her and I'm convinced she wants me, because we are constantly eye ****ing (thanks Smokin' :D ) in class and she always goes out of her way to talk to me. What should I do? The guy isn't exactly a friend.

There it's out, well what I can be arsed typing anyway.

i am in a very similar situation

i am in a very similar situation

It's tough man. But we'll both get through it :fing02:

PM me whenever you need someone to talk to or some advice.

i am in a very similar situation

a situation where u take it out on ppl that wasnt in it in the first place. got the clue.

a situation where u take it out on ppl that wasnt in it in the first place. got the clue.

What do you mean Versy?

What do you mean Versy?

sorry i meant dynamite.he's been a real bitch lately. but for u,I feel ya.A good thing to cure that is try to go out and find a caring girl thats willing to help.It can cure alot of shit.

sorry i meant dynamite.he's been a real bitch lately. but for u,I feel ya.A good thing to cure that is try to go out and find a caring girl thats willing to help.It can cure alot of shit.

Dye's really confused at the moment.
And about the girl, I'm on the lookout :cool: Thanks for the advice :fing02:

Vers, i am sorry about that. but this has nothing to do with that

Vers, i am sorry about that. but this has nothing to do with that

well somethings up cause i heardly talk to u.

Ok, this is the Adult Lounge where I'll get sensible, respectful answers. Hopefully.

Recently I've been feeling really down and I can't shake it off. I think I'm depressed but don't really know what to do.

I'm gonna let everything out in this post about why I'm feeling so shitty, so beware :D Advice would be welcomed too.

Family Life

I have a good, caring family who provide everything I could possibly need. Food, love, care and stability. But there's some things from my family life that have contributed to this feeling of depression.

I live with my mum, brother and sister and I am really close to my nan and grandad. But one thing that constantly nags away at me is the absence of my dad. He was only 20 when my mum found out she was pregnant with me, so decided that he wouldn't stay with my mum. Anyway, five years ago we travelled up to Scotland to see him and him and my mum had a huge argument, with him saying shit like "He's not mine, I want DNA tests done". I was only sat in the nest room and this really broke my heart, I felt like I wasn't wanted and it still kills now when I think about it.

Also, I am the oldest male (bar my grandad, who is too old to look after anyone, and my auntie's husbands who don't do shit) in the extended family. So I am expected to take on the role of the 'dominant head of the family'. I'm only 16. This adds huge pressure to an already unbelievable mountain of the shit.

My mum is ill, she suffers from depression, and I have to carry this burden too.

School

I've always been academically bright and a lot has always been expected of me. From the first day I can remember, I have been expected to get straight A's in my GCSE's and go to University to get a well paid job. My family expect me to be constantly at the top of my class, which causes unbearable stress for me and makes me not want to work at all; I just want to rebel.

Plus, because I'm popular (sorry for blowing my own trumpet but...) I have people constantly around me in school and I never get a chance to just chill with my homeboys. There's always knobheads tagging along who do my head in.

Girls

The girl that currently holds my heart is going out with a guy who doesn't deserve her at all. He's Head Boy of our school and a real geek, yet he's got her on his arms. :nonono:

I think I love her and I'm convinced she wants me, because we are constantly eye ****ing (thanks Smokin' :D ) in class and she always goes out of her way to talk to me. What should I do? The guy isn't exactly a friend.

There it's out, well what I can be arsed typing anyway.

You're a good man.

I disagree if you aren't happy with the way things are making you.


I wouldn't change a thing.

But it will all change.


The darker the night, the brighter the sun.

Shine on, playboy.

Ok, this is the Adult Lounge where I'll get sensible, respectful answers. Hopefully.

Recently I've been feeling really down and I can't shake it off. I think I'm depressed but don't really know what to do.

I'm gonna let everything out in this post about why I'm feeling so shitty, so beware :D Advice would be welcomed too.

Family Life

I have a good, caring family who provide everything I could possibly need. Food, love, care and stability. But there's some things from my family life that have contributed to this feeling of depression.

I live with my mum, brother and sister and I am really close to my nan and grandad. But one thing that constantly nags away at me is the absence of my dad. He was only 20 when my mum found out she was pregnant with me, so decided that he wouldn't stay with my mum. Anyway, five years ago we travelled up to Scotland to see him and him and my mum had a huge argument, with him saying shit like "He's not mine, I want DNA tests done". I was only sat in the nest room and this really broke my heart, I felt like I wasn't wanted and it still kills now when I think about it.

Also, I am the oldest male (bar my grandad, who is too old to look after anyone, and my auntie's husbands who don't do shit) in the extended family. So I am expected to take on the role of the 'dominant head of the family'. I'm only 16. This adds huge pressure to an already unbelievable mountain of the shit.

My mum is ill, she suffers from depression, and I have to carry this burden too.
School

I've always been academically bright and a lot has always been expected of me. From the first day I can remember, I have been expected to get straight A's in my GCSE's and go to University to get a well paid job. My family expect me to be constantly at the top of my class, which causes unbearable stress for me and makes me not want to work at all; I just want to rebel.

Plus, because I'm popular (sorry for blowing my own trumpet but...) I have people constantly around me in school and I never get a chance to just chill with my homeboys. There's always knobheads tagging along who do my head in.
Girls

The girl that currently holds my heart is going out with a guy who doesn't deserve her at all. He's Head Boy of our school and a real geek, yet he's got her on his arms. :nonono:

I think I love her and I'm convinced she wants me, because we are constantly eye ****ing (thanks Smokin' :D ) in class and she always goes out of her way to talk to me. What should I do? The guy isn't exactly a friend.

There it's out, well what I can be arsed typing anyway.

Hey RB,

Your home life seems fairly happy and stable mate but at 16 sometimes you obviously want to act your age and the fact your mum has a hard time and you are the only 'man' can be hard and I can understand that.
Are there no male figures outside of your home life you can get advice from i.e. teachers, coaches etc?
What are the dynamics at home? Do you have brothers and sisters, are you OK financially?
As for people hanging around you who you would rather not, speak with your genuine mates and agree collectively who you think are good members of the group then just make arrangements around the people who you don't like and they should get the picture, if not you will just have to be straight with them and tell them that you would prefer to hang around with your 'old' mates etc.
As for the girl, are you sure she feels the same way? If you are then again be straight with her and go and talk, if she feels the same way then great if she doesn't then you know where you stand, or just be subtle around her, if she is not happy with the other guy she will come on strong to you, if she stays with him then there is your answer!
If you don't want to answer any of this pal fair play, if you want to PM me feel free!

Hey RB,

Your home life seems fairly happy and stable mate but at 16 sometimes you obviously want to act your age and the fact your mum has a hard time and you are the only 'man' can be hard and I can understand that.
Are there no male figures outside of your home life you can get advice from i.e. teachers, coaches etc?
What are the dynamics at home? Do you have brothers and sisters, are you OK financially?
As for people hanging around you who you would rather not, speak with your genuine mates and agree collectively who you think are good members of the group then just make arrangements around the people who you don't like and they should get the picture, if not you will just have to be straight with them and tell them that you would prefer to hang around with your 'old' mates etc.
As for the girl, are you sure she feels the same way? If you are then again be straight with her and go and talk, if she feels the same way then great if she doesn't then you know where you stand, or just be subtle around her, if she is not happy with the other guy she will come on strong to you, if she stays with him then there is your answer!
If you don't want to answer any of this pal fair play, if you want to PM me feel free!

Great advice Micky.

We're in a solid financial state and I live with my brother and sister, but sometimes there is money struggles which can be expected because my mum lives on her own. Family life is good, but filled with pressure.

The main male figures in my life are my boxing coach, Tony, and my grandad. I am real close to both and they're there when I need them most. So is Ronnie Kerner, who I talk to on the internet. It's just that they are not always there when I need someone to talk to and I have to keep it inside, which builds up into depression.

I'ma sort out the 'friend' situation at dinner and tell them straight. I can't be arsed with the shit anymore.

As for the girl, I'm going to have to talk to her soon about it otherwise I'll crack up. It's killing me. I'll do it whenever we're alone. Hopefully she feels the same, and I'm sure she does.

Again, thanks Mickey.

You're a good man.

I disagree if you aren't happy with the way things are making you.


I wouldn't change a thing.

But it will all change.


The darker the night, the brighter the sun.

Shine on, playboy.

Thanks Addison, that made me feel good :D

I got up this morning and spoke to my mum because she could tell things are getting me down.

We sat in the living room and I told her I was contemplating giving up boxing, but she said to me, "You're young and determined. Tony (my boxing coach) really likes you and you have a special gift, don't let it slip away like I did. Make the most of it. Make me proud."

This really cheered me up and made me feel better.

Thanks guys.

Thanks Addison, that made me feel good :D

I got up this morning and spoke to my mum because she could tell things are getting me down.

We sat in the living room and I told her I was contemplating giving up boxing, but she said to me, "You're young and determined. Tony (my boxing coach) really likes you and you have a special gift, don't let it slip away like I did. Make the most of it. Make me proud."

This really cheered me up and made me feel better.

Thanks guys.

Great advice from your mum there RB, she obviously loves you and knows you best!
Life is full of troughs and rises my friend, in a few months time you will have other issues just as relevant, then in ten years time you will look back and think what was all the fuss about as things will be in perspective by then.
Your mum sounds a good person and believe me she appreciates you so that's enough!
Around every corner there is opportunity's all you have to do is take the right path to find them, more often than not we take the wrong route but most of find the right route in the end, keep up the boxing and have a chat with that girl.;)

Great advice from your mum there RB, she obviously loves you and knows you best!
Life is full of troughs and rises my friend, in a few months time you will have other issues just as relevant, then in ten years time you will look back and think what was all the fuss about as things will be in perspective by then.
Your mum sounds a good person and believe me she appreciates you so that's enough!
Around every corner there is opportunity's all you have to do is take the right path to find them, more often than not we take the wrong route but most of find the right route in the end, keep up the boxing and have a chat with that girl.;)

She's great, just ill.

Yeh, I'll look back and laugh and this will make me stronger.

I'ma still box and I'm gonna talk to the girl when the chance arises. :fing02:

Hey RB keep ur head up bud, things will get better im sure.
It does sound like alot of pressure, aint u got a REAL great mate u can talk to about it? It will help if u do man. Concerning the girl if u really like her just make ur move **** that other guy! Different story alltogether if he's a mate but he sounds like a tube! The head boys at my skool always were!
Anyways good luck with ur problems mate :beerchug:

Hey RB keep ur head up bud, things will get better im sure.
It does sound like alot of pressure, aint u got a REAL great mate u can talk to about it? It will help if u do man. Concerning the girl if u really like her just make ur move **** that other guy! Different story alltogether if he's a mate but he sounds like a tube! The head boys at my skool always were!
Anyways good luck with ur problems mate :beerchug:

Thanks.

I talk to my best mate about some of it, but he hasn't got what you would call an easy life either so I don't like putting my problems on his shoulders.

Yeh, the guys a geek :lol1: I'm making a move, I just don't give a **** anymore :D

Thanks.

I talk to my best mate about some of it, but he hasn't got what you would call an easy life either so I don't like putting my problems on his shoulders.

Yeh, the guys a geek :lol1: I'm making a move, I just don't give a **** anymore :D

Well in son! :beerchug:
U can give me a shout whenever u wanna talk BTW

Well in son! :beerchug:
U can give me a shout whenever u wanna talk BTW

Same goes to you mate :luvbed: